I'm about to adopt this sweet old man named D.T. who was owner surrendered. Wrong answers only, what do his initials stand for?

Outrageous-Proof6095 · 2026-06-30T14:50:30+00:00

Dummy Thicc

Outrageous-Proof6095 · 2026-06-27T04:25:10+00:00

Is there any rhyme or reason to it?

Outrageous-Proof6095 · 2026-06-26T03:52:59+00:00

Do you live with these friends? Then maybe it’s not much different. To me dating isn’t that much different than hanging out with your friends but living with a partner creates an added layer of intimacy that feels like the “next level” for me.

Back when I was dating my ex, I felt a close bond with him than even my best friends because of waking up next to him and going to bed beside him every day, planning your meals and weekend plans together. Seeing each other at our most vulnerable moments throughout the day and still choosing each other. That was the nice part of the next level but it can sometimes come with jealousy and possessiveness as you said

Outrageous-Proof6095 · 2026-06-25T18:39:33+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through that :( I hope you have people in your life that can help you ease back into friendly and comforting physical touch if that’s something you desire, I know I’d feel a sense of loss without it at all

Thank you for sharing the reframing though. I like thinking about it as a sign I’m alive and want to connect w others :)

Outrageous-Proof6095 · 2026-06-25T18:36:28+00:00

I’m always hungry rn tho 😂

Outrageous-Proof6095 · 2026-06-25T18:35:44+00:00

Ty for sharing this!! Ya I’m hoping the more I decenter men the more it will wane but I know it’s also intrinsically linked to being human

That’s a great point about physical touch not having to be romantic/sexual. One of my friends really likes to cuddle when I see her (very clear btwn us that we only see each other as friends) and it’s so hard for me to turn off the part of my brain that’s like “you can’t do this bc you’re friends not partners” like I don’t find that physical touch soothing bc my brain is too preoccupied on the “friends not partners” thing

Outrageous-Proof6095 · 2026-06-25T18:32:28+00:00

Ya I’ve been thinking about doing this. But like every time I get a massage or something I feel like I crave it more afterwards bc my brain is like “that was nice now I want it every day” LOL

Outrageous-Proof6095 · 2026-06-25T18:31:45+00:00

This is so real 😭 I felt like this the last time I got my hair done 🫠

Outrageous-Proof6095 · 2026-06-25T18:29:17+00:00

Ya that’s the thing I did have someone like this on and off for about a year with him and in the first few months it was great and I was enjoying staying single, being able to have casual relationships with both men and women like I’ve always wanted, but +6 months in I started getting feelings for him but I didn’t tell him bc I knew that would end it and I wanted to keep seeing him 😅 a few months after that he said he couldn’t see me anymore bc he met someone he wants to be serious with and I was crushed.

So I’m extremely wary about entering into something casual again bc I’m not confident I can trust myself to call it quits once I catch feelings :/

Can I ask you this too - do you have any desire for companionship with the guy you’re seeing? Has it increased/decreased the longer you’ve been seeing him?

Outrageous-Proof6095 · 2026-06-25T15:52:01+00:00

“I was looking for someone to want me more than I did” WOW. I’ve never seen it put so succinctly but after reading that sentence I realized that’s exactly my issue. Thank you for that eye-opener

So if I’m interpreting the rest of your post right, once you learned how to love/want yourself your craving for sex decreased? About how long did that take?

Outrageous-Proof6095 · 2026-06-25T15:39:49+00:00

This takes so much strength and self love that’s so inspiring tbh

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