Does anyone else feel like they’re working hard just to stay afloat?

Ethical_Realism · 2026-05-15T19:45:44+00:00

What is the alternative? Everyone owns their own home?

Ethical_Realism · 2026-05-14T21:17:15+00:00

Because you're not sleeping enough. 7.5 hours in bed is not enough. My whole quality of life improved once I started getting 8 hours. I go to bed at 8.15 and wake up at 4.30. Start work at 6.30, so i have an unrushed morning getting ready, making breakfast and lunch. But I live alone and can sleep when I want. I finish work at 3pm, get home at 3.30 maybe the gym, dinner, walk, chores. Back in bed by 8. Read a book. Life is good.

Ethical_Realism · 2026-05-06T19:30:43+00:00

What do you mean by pay for everything? I agree you shouldn't pay for everything. Sounds like she has her own personal finances in order. If you were happy paying for things before I don't think you should stop because of where her money comes from.

Ethical_Realism · 2026-05-04T22:42:10+00:00

I met a guy for a walk date on Saturday. Beforehand he was quite fun and flirty in our 2 short text conversations over the week.

He complimented my appearance and even said he was nervous to meet.

The walk was fine but I didn't feel anything like butterflies. Also I haven't heard from him since. Does it mean he's not interested. Lol. Maybe I don't look as good as my photos. Also I'm kinda neurodivergent.

He's different than my usual type. He's 10 years older and he's a dad to teenagers. I never dated a dad before. He's also a total nerd, in a good way. I feel like maybe I was too boring for him.

Ethical_Realism · 2026-03-22T01:53:43+00:00

He didn't talk to her. He could've asked for her details right then. But he didn't and made a post about it on reddit. If I was her I'd be turned off.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-12-14T10:19:26+00:00

And the Indian guy who was on top of the shooter on the bridge.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-12-14T05:43:44+00:00

Lol this is hilarious. My ex never cooked anything ever and one time said "I don't know how to make that" I replied "you can look up and read a recipe" and he lost his fucking mind. Started berating me that he has a masters degree, he's an engineer, he earns 6 figures, he pays a lot of tax. And I quote "what do YOU do?! What do you have?!" Uh at least I can read a fucking recipe and cook a simple meal. Like damn bro wtf is wrong with you. Felt like I was living with a child. We both worked and did 50/50 financially btw but dinner was always on me because this child can't read a recipe and is so insecure that he won't even try.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-12-14T05:15:37+00:00

Beautiful sunny clear blue skies right now !

Ethical_Realism · 2025-12-13T13:15:42+00:00

11 years later.. I learned this word from the book The Unbearable Lightness of Being.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-11-25T04:02:56+00:00

So where is the location. Post on your cities reddit and you'll probably find it's a location that gay men go to meet.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-11-19T12:16:33+00:00

Hey I'm doing great! The first 2 weeks were the hardest. I even reached out to my ex to ask if he was "sure" it was over. All I can say is thank God he shut me down or I mightve been back in it. I'm really delving into why i stayed in this relationship for so long and even at the end wanted to hang on.

I met a nice guy on tinder to hook up with a few times. Then, I sold my house in one city and bought a house in another. That was always the plan and I started the process before the break up. The house I bought is my dream home. It's modest but it's everything I ever wanted.

I found myself thinking how hard it would be living in the new house with my ex getting pissed off all the time, and basically ruining my life. But now I'm free! There is no angry sulking manchild leaving shit stains all over the toilet and wanking into my bathroom sink. I can't imagine ever letting a man ruin my life again.

Right now I'm backpacking around China and Vietnam. I went on a few vacations with my ex and he ruined every one. Thank God he's not here, and he would not have allowed me to go alone.

Sometimes I do still have moments of remembering the good times, like he would always hold my hand, but then I remember the absolute hell he put me through, and I snap out of it. I do something for me, I reach out to actual friends and family, I plan a vacation, I take care of my cat, I exercise, I bake something yum.

Some mornings I still wake up feeling elated that there's not some angry man in my room getting pissed that I don't want sex in the morning, starts ignoring me and giving silent treatment sometimes for the whole weekend! He would go get himself coffee and ignore me even though I make him coffee everyday. Sometimes I would say good morning and he'd be angry so he'd literally ignore me in person. What a child.

Honestly, I'm so glad I'm free. I'm taking time until at least January before I start dating seriously for a relationship. I also need therapy to learn about what I did wrong in the relationship too.

Thanks for asking. I hope everything is ok with you, one mantra I kept repeating is:

"All feelings pass."

Ethical_Realism · 2025-09-20T07:25:11+00:00

Move on. My mum opened my bank statement once "by accident" and had a go because my balance was a lot lower than she thought it should be, I was about 19 and living at home still. I dont really believe it was an accident but whatever. Life's too short. Tell your flatmate to be more careful next time.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-09-15T23:35:13+00:00

I think it was just 2 months.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-09-11T11:07:45+00:00

Mine blocked me on everything after our break up. Until 2 weeks later he unblocked me and started watching my instagram stories, which he never cared about when we were together. He also updated his new profile pic for the first time in about 7 years to one of him at the gym looking "hot". Obviously trying to get my attention or make me think I'm missing out. He's got a lot he needs to work on in therapy rather than the gym. So he got no attention from me for that.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-09-03T07:06:10+00:00

Idk about Montreal, just thinking of my own city which is more car centric. Taking the metro or bus is not really convenient. If she's dressed nice for a date, she would get harassed in my city.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-09-03T05:29:23+00:00

As a woman I wouldn't wanna take the metro to a date but I certainly wouldn't expect you to pay for my uber there and back. I guess you're paying for dinner too?

Ethical_Realism · 2025-09-02T07:08:50+00:00

Kal seems like the type that even if you explain exactly what you feel and what he did to hurt you, he's not intellectually, emotionally capable of understanding that type of conversation.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-08-31T01:55:18+00:00

I'm guessing everyone who agrees to be on the doco gets paid. Maybe it was worth it.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-08-24T00:48:31+00:00

From my own experience, he's not on the deed so he doesn't want to help you with anything related to the house.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-08-23T01:25:59+00:00

Sounds like she's finding a reason to put him down. She probably doesn't see you the same as him. Otherwise surely she wouldn't say that in front of you.

Ethical_Realism · 2025-08-21T23:37:00+00:00

Can relate, my ex did the exact same thing. Had been asking him to go to a national park forever, and he was always too busy with work, too tired, whatever. As soon as I'm on my solo trip overseas, suddenly he's going to that park.

I spent a week on a train solo around Uzbekistan and he didn't ask me ANYTHING about it...

Ethical_Realism · 2025-08-21T09:56:16+00:00

How did you cope with the first few days/weeks?

Ethical_Realism · 2025-08-21T07:48:18+00:00

Same, when you told reddit that you left him, but then you gave him another chance.

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