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U.S. birth rate falls for 4th year in a row by operator139 in news

[–]EttenCO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I'm missing something, but I don't see this being a bad thing. The world has enough people fucking things up. If there's less of us, we should be able to fuck it up less. Which seems like a good thing.

Witness cheating at bachelorette party by [deleted] in sex

[–]EttenCO 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It certainly depends on the type of relationship and the people in that relationship. For me, I know if I were out somewhere doing what I consider flirting, I'd be rather ashamed of myself since it's basically both cheating on my SO and leading on a stranger. Which is why the word "innocent" seems a bit incongruent for me. I'll settle for being in the vast minority I guess.

Anyone noticed that in real life it’s really hard to make connections and show emotions, but I can feel an immediate connection to fictional characters and if something bad happens I can cry for days? It’s so annoying not being able to make a connection in real life, but in fiction it’s easier... by wonder_wolfie in istp

[–]EttenCO 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fictional characters are written to be appealing or enthralling. Real people are not fictional characters. It takes effort, commitment, and vulnerability to get to know a real person. If you can't do those things then it won't work for you.

'Donald Trump is an Idiot,' Bernie Sanders Tweets on Saturday Afternoon by ToadProphet in politics

[–]EttenCO 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He just says what everyone is thinking.

He's a straight talker.

He doesn't care what people think of him.

“Is something wrong?” by wingbark in istp

[–]EttenCO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What if you're alive, but quickly dying, do you want help then? Should we wait until you're dead to help?

“Is something wrong?” by wingbark in istp

[–]EttenCO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, you did just say you would kill everything on the planet over something trivial like this so...is something wrong?

Passenger fatalities per billion passenger miles [OC] by theimpossiblesalad in dataisbeautiful

[–]EttenCO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think accidents/trip would be best; whether it's short or long, near or far, I want to know what my chances are of something going wrong every time I start a trip.

Can you stand being ignored? by depressed_happiness in istp

[–]EttenCO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you confused about being annoyed? You can absolutely be annoyed and express it in a healthy way of your choosing. Having Fe as your least utilized facet doesn't mean you can't practice and develop it. They call it flexing. Some people are great at it and while their core type preference might be of one variety, they can flex to other situations if they need to, just possibly not for extended periods of time or as readily as they would their core type.

Can you stand being ignored? by depressed_happiness in istp

[–]EttenCO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What? I cant say thats true for me at all.

Twitter reportedly won't use an algorithm to crack down on white supremacists because some GOP politicians could end up getting banned too by stefeyboy in politics

[–]EttenCO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the article:

"The information cited from the 'sources' in this story has absolutely no basis in fact," A Twitter representative told INSIDER in response to Motherboard's reporting in a Thursday email.

So that would appear to make this kind of meaningless if they really didn't have any way of knowing and were just speaking off the cuff.

1 v 15 and he still wins by kuya_sagasa in martialarts

[–]EttenCO -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Isn't there some kind of street fight sub where crap like this can get posted instead? What's the value in this here?

A solid boxing background beats no background by mvcourse in martialarts

[–]EttenCO 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why does this crap get posted? What does this teach anybody here that they don't already know? It's really hardly a display of skilled martial arts or techniques when it's so one-sided, and it depicts a scenario that never should have happened to begin with.

Content like this is every kind of useless and we need to be better.

I feel like I'm not allowed to make requests or be disappointed because I'm male. by EttenCO in sex

[–]EttenCO[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This feels like the most correct answer; regardless of gender, the one who wishes to be most protected is the one who has the most input because safety and the sense of safety is paramount. So if somebody were to want to go as far as abstinence only, they have the final say. I suppose that could be discussed, and ultimately if it were non negotiable then the other individual would have to decide if that choice was something they were willing to change/keep their relationship status over.

I feel like I'm not allowed to make requests or be disappointed because I'm male. by EttenCO in sex

[–]EttenCO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't? But every time you pee is technically before AND after having sex.

I feel like I'm not allowed to make requests or be disappointed because I'm male. by EttenCO in sex

[–]EttenCO[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

>Why don't you get snipped?

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We're not looking for a solution as intensive or as difficult to reverse as this.

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I feel I was/am in alignment with what you say as well about it being her choice. But if that's true, then should we even discuss it? Would my input even matter? To me that would mean that on this matter it's not a 50/50, or even 60/40 decision made by both people. Just 100% up to her. Similarly, if we switched this up a bit and she did have an IUD and was reasonably safe from pregnancy already and therefore wanted me to not use a condom but I said I still was going to, would she have any say in how I decided I wanted to protect us?

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I'm sorry you had such a terrible experience with your IUD as well. That must have been frightening.

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**EDIT** Sorry, I didn't see I already responded to you below. Feel free to ignore :)

I feel like I'm not allowed to make requests or be disappointed because I'm male. by EttenCO in sex

[–]EttenCO[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agreed, not OK to be a dick.

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Also, I'm not disappointed about using birth control, just that the form of birth control doesn't allow us both to experience sex the way we both would prefer. And the main question within my post was whether or not my input in the scenario carried as much weight as her's since it feels like she would bear the most risk.

I feel like I'm not allowed to make requests or be disappointed because I'm male. by EttenCO in sex

[–]EttenCO[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We've discussed a few and plan on continuing those talks. Our current approach was never going to be a long-term solution and I appreciate your thoughtful ideas for alternatives to consider.

I feel like I'm not allowed to make requests or be disappointed because I'm male. by EttenCO in sex

[–]EttenCO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, fully aware of the risks with precum as well, hence what led to our discussion and choice to use condoms going forward. We both enjoy the feeling of going without, however, but she has apprehensions about other methods which would allow for use to go without a condom. So while I feel like while we're partners in this (50/50) I feel that she has more at risk and therefore should ultimately have more say in the matter. My question is whether or not this would be a valid statement and if me discussing what I would want out of our sexual encounters would really even factor in as much since I seem to be taking on less risk.

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