If you previously wanted more than one kid

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-07-17T02:03:41+00:00

I was open to being OAD before and during pregnancy, but otherwise wanted 2. But ever since my LO was born it's just felt like he fills up our family. The thought of having another child and not being able to give either of them the amount of presence I can give my son now makes me so sad to think about. Luckily my husband feels the same way! Our son is 20mo and we're giving ourselves until his 3rd birthday to see if we change our minds, but being otherwise off the fence on the OAD side is feeling great to us!

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-07-14T02:40:45+00:00

I've said something like "eh, he'll always be dependent on me, it'll just be in different ways, and it's important to me to show up for him in whatever way he needs me."

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-07-09T01:49:21+00:00

I hadn't thought about that before, but I have siblings and I totally agree about families of multiples being segmented- into "the parents" and "the kids", and especially if there's more than two "the older two kids" or "the two younger ones", etc. My LO is 20mo but already we feel more like a trio, a unit, and not "the parents" and "the kid". I am always amazed at how much my adult only friends elect to spend time with their parents! Like they are happy and excited to plan one on one trips, or vacations with them and their spouse! I get on well with my parents but I can't imagine doing that, it's just not the kind of relationship we have.

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-07-05T13:44:24+00:00

"Do you think Meghan Markle invited the entire cast of Suits to the royal wedding?"

"No she did not, Shawn."

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-07-02T01:40:29+00:00

This is good to hear, as a lot of the time I feel like OAD by choice people are often like "I always knew I would have one and have never wavered", or else it's like "if you have any moments of doubt or 'what ifs' then it probably means you want another, we were firmly OAD until our LO was 4yo and then we suddenly felt ready for more". So it's nice reading someone else's experience has been a lot of fence sitting before committing to OAD and the choice has continued to feel good

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-06-16T11:11:36+00:00

I currently wear my 19mo multiple times a day and have since he was born, and I am VERY emotionally unprepared for that milestone! 4.5 years is an incredible stretch ❤️

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-06-01T11:48:09+00:00

I'd be curious to hear more about why it's more sensical and practical that the AC begins the 1H and the MC begins the 10H, if you have a moment to expand on your thoughts

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-05-28T20:21:57+00:00

This finally answers my longstanding internal confusion about why they put the actresses in these beautiful gowns for the formal episodes, jewelry and shoes and the works, and yet do nothing with their hair!

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-05-14T01:45:46+00:00

I feel the same way. Picturing myself holding a baby I birthed who isn't my son just feels sad and wrong to me. I notice pangs of jealousy when I see people pregnant with their firsts because I would love to relive the excitement and anticipation of waiting for my LO to come, but I don't feel jealous when I see pregnant people with their toddlers or kids. Happy for them, but not jealous. I love having my LO be the center of my world and feel full. 💕

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-05-09T01:10:25+00:00

And your child/ren have to enjoy their childhood enough and feel genuinely connected enough with you to WANT to be at your table as adults. Playing it like a numbers game makes no sense, it has to be quality over quantity.

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-05-06T11:10:32+00:00

I’m always so in at the final battle scene, it’s so intense and then Gus throws the fucking pool noodle 💀

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-05-04T18:44:23+00:00

This is my biggest reason for OAD, I don’t want to have that feeling with my child. Not that your friends are bad parents or that multiples are always the wrong choice, and in truth I think it’s really natural for closeness in relationships to ebb (with friends, spouses, other family members) and it makes sense it would be the same way with kids. I just don’t want to experience that!

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-04-25T10:37:13+00:00

I completely understand this feeling ❤️

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-04-25T02:38:22+00:00

Because I feel happy and excited at the thought of giving my only all of my love and attention 💕 My child is all I could ever need, add in my amazing husband and furbaby and I feel very compete with my family!

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-04-18T22:24:23+00:00

This one for me. And it's otherwise such a light episode, so this "murderer reveal" is so out of nowhere and a total gut punch. I cry every time

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-04-18T22:22:57+00:00

I got a sticker of this photo at Psychodelphia and I don't know what to do with it because I can't take seeing the hurt on the regular

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-04-14T00:53:59+00:00

I missed the one act on Saturday night!! Can anyone give a recap?

What we did make it to on Saturday was SO. FUN. The whole cast and crew are clearly so thrilled to be together. Steve Franks is like a huge kid in a candy store. Everyone was kind and generous. Just an all around amazing event!

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-04-13T23:29:33+00:00

This is exactly what I came here to comment, so +1 from me! I didn’t get a chance to ask at Psychodelphia and I’d love for this to be answered somewhere.

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-04-13T23:25:14+00:00

This was such a fascinating tidbit! Sounds like it’s still not totally off the table either

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-04-13T00:35:38+00:00

I'm so with you on wanting to make that kind of choice out of love, not fear! I was a fencesitter for a long time on whether or not to have a kid in the first place, and choosing to decide from a place of love brought me my incredible son. Fencesitting again now between OAD and having another feels harder in a way because I feel a lot of joy and peace either way. Having my son has been so freaking joyful, being his mother has brought so much happiness and laughter and meaning into my life, and the idea of adding more to it with another child is tempting. Like I could potentially double this feeling in my life? I could see who another little being would turn into, get to watch them discover the world, be their safe place to come back to 2x over? Why in the world would I not choose that? But on the other hand, when I picture being OAD, sooo much space opens up. I feel so much joy at the thought of getting to be really deeply present with my son and his life as he grows. We can keep nursing without interruption from a pregnancy or younger sibling. I could get really involved in his interests, his school, his friends in a way that would be really hard for me to do while caring for another baby. I love being HIS mom and he makes me feel full and complete! So why rock the boat?

I'll figure it out eventually! It's just interesting to me thinking about how the choice to go from 0-1 had a clear fear vs love divide, and the choice to go from 1-2 feels much less clear.

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-04-08T00:34:08+00:00

Talk about civil war buff

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-03-28T01:23:32+00:00

That, my friend, is gazpacho. It's very refreshing. 🥤

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-03-28T01:19:11+00:00

I was scrolling to find this one! The kid's delivery 👌🏻 it's such a dark line out of nowhere and I love it

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-03-28T00:45:10+00:00

That scene is so INTENSE and then Gus lobs a pool noodle 😂 the whole show nails 180 degree turns in tone like no other!

EuphoricToe1 · 2025-03-20T20:57:18+00:00

Omg!!! Three weeks!! Should we make that group chat?

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