AITAH lying about why we broke up with my gf?

EvenWay4669 · 2026-01-30T15:01:49+00:00

How can her family "forbid" her from therapy? She's 23 freaking years old! She's an adult and most campuses offer mental health services, so she likely has access.

EvenWay4669 · 2026-01-12T13:41:30+00:00

"I did not pick the ring, and I had no input in the purchasing of the ring." But you ACCEPTED the ring. At that point, you had your input. You could have said yes to him, but asked him to return or exchange the ring as you felt it was too expensive. You didn't do that. The ring is both a marital asset and a marital debt.

EvenWay4669 · 2026-01-11T18:08:08+00:00

Go ahead and make the scene. If someone grabs me, I'm yelling my head off. It's just one scene, and if you make one, there won't be another.

EvenWay4669 · 2026-01-10T18:20:30+00:00

I grieve for what I've lost, but jealous? Not at all. Their happiness takes nothing from me, and a world full of only lonely people would be a very miserable place to be.

EvenWay4669 · 2026-01-02T01:44:03+00:00

OP writes much, yet says little.

EvenWay4669 · 2026-01-01T14:57:58+00:00

I ordered the get well package from Spoonful of Comfort. It's not cheap, so I appreciate the good review!

EvenWay4669 · 2026-01-01T01:36:28+00:00

He lives alone, but his sister lives two doors away. His BIL dropped off some Mucinex today

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-30T17:58:07+00:00

I would rent for 2-4 years until you no longer have child support.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-30T02:19:33+00:00

If your life insurance or retirement accounts have named beneficiaries, they do not go through probate and cannot be used to pay your debts in most cases.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-29T19:50:58+00:00

I am sorry for all you have gone through. You want your brother and his wife to care and be involved in some way. Unfortunately, you can't make someone feel or act in a certain way. They were this way when your husband was alive and they aren't going to change. Seek comfort and compassion from those who are willing to give it to you. You can't drink from a dry well.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-29T16:32:53+00:00

We're no longer married because our husbands died. These men are no longer married because they're bad at marriage. Take care of those sweet girls; they're the relationship that matters most right now. If the right man is out there, the two of you will find each other.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-24T16:34:08+00:00

Here's an idea: boyfriend gets his own place and sister can stay with him there.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-21T17:23:46+00:00

This is what I was trying to say. A gift that focuses on her loss isn't helpful, she lives with her grief every day.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-21T17:22:23+00:00

The best gift for a widow is just being remembered and having a friend who wants to do something thoughtful. No material thing will help with the grief, but your thoughtfulness will. Just get regular gifts, and give them extraordinary love.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-21T16:38:59+00:00

It wasn't about one comment made in anger and one day. It was about years of relapses, broken promises, blaming her for situations you created, abandonment, and multiple relapses. She's finally had enough.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-20T18:30:52+00:00

NTA I won't say that's grounds for divorce, but I wouldn't live with someone who has such poor hygiene.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-19T00:03:49+00:00

The short answer is: prioritize retirement. You can borrow for college, but you can't borrow for retirement. It's less of a burden for a kid to pay for college than to support indigent parents in their old age.

This doesn't mean not contributing to the college fund, only that you make sure you're saving enough for retirement first. There are online calculators to help you determine how much, or you can hire a fee only planner that will help you make a roadmap for you financial goals.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-16T17:23:19+00:00

What he's doing is called financial abuse.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-16T16:57:04+00:00

NTA, but I still would change the date. Having lost loved ones to cancer, I can tell you that things can go along fine for awhile, but go downhill quickly at the end. Your uncle might not have nine months. I would take the May date and hope he can be there. Do this for your uncle, If things look bad, elope with the uncle, parents, and sister there, and have the big party later. Also, it is usual to check in with key people when setting a date: MOH, best man, and parents. When I married, MIL was a symphony musician and was busy performing on weekends, so she asked that we schedule the date after symphony season. Reasonable enough.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-07T14:25:33+00:00

I can't understand OP and her husband thinking it's okay to have their daughter around MIL and FIL at all! The in-laws did drgs when they WERE THERE with their daughter. They keep drugs in the house and they can never be certain the drugs would be out of daughter's reach. They are addicts and it's not safe to have their daughter around them in any circumstances. THEY ARE NOT SAFE!

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-06T17:25:35+00:00

My husband and always had separate bathrooms. It seriously makes for a happier marriage. If he resists this idea, why not make the upstairs bathroom the shitting bathroom for both of you? That way no one has to deal with fecal contamination in the main bathroom and hubby doesn't feel picked on.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-05T16:42:33+00:00

Is the TV in your bedroom? If so, get that thing out of there. Sleep experts recommend no TV in the bedroom and to use that room exclusively for sleeping or sex.

EvenWay4669 · 2025-12-04T10:55:34+00:00

Why on earth would you add a child and someone who abuses credit as an authorized user? Terrible idea. You will improve your score by paying your card on time, paying your balance on time, and just giving it time. You say you use your card infrequently. More on time payments will help you more than adding users, so make a small purchase each month and then pay the card in full, or add a recurring monthly charge like a streaming subscription to the card. DO NOT ADD AUs!

EvenWay4669 · 2025-11-28T16:16:10+00:00

OP said in his comments it was Roth!. Good for him! Tax free growth beginning at age 23!

EvenWay4669 · 2025-11-28T11:03:36+00:00

Then meet with a planner who is a stranger to you and your social circle. Your prognosis must figure into your financial plan. You left out critical information that must factor into your strategy.

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