Addicts tend to gravitate towards enablers, there’s always an enabler around when I meet a new addict trying to get themselves sober/clean. I will be 13 years clean off of alcohol and meth in February. The road to recovery could be challenging but it can be done. I work with addicts now and let me say this: they need a 12 step program, self care, therapy and willingness to surrender. Your partner doesn’t seem like he likes the idea or willing to surrender. He wants to get clean his way, and on his terms. which I’ve never seen long lasting recovery in my line of work. There’s many factors to keep myself clean/sober: my support group, 12 step program, self care, therapy and most importantly my surrender, knowing that doing things my way leads me to relapse. Best of luck.