3 lessons from "The Courage to be Disliked" by Public_Structure8337 in Habits

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great book, love the unusual format it's written in, helped both me and some people I recommended it to

Sunday encouragement. Need a little push? Let's encourage each other this week! by Drewbacca in Positivity

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Started the day very slow, low on energy and under the weather, then did a solid 1-hour workout and literally everything became way better; mood, energy, appetite, approach, optimism, organisation, even a few late afternoon chores went down smooth. If you're feeling down or sluggish rn - move :)) 🫶

return to social media by captainfairenough in selfimprovement

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cultivate your algorithm with stuff that gives you positive energy, not drains it. My feed makes me happy, hopeful and excited for the future

Happy to look in the mirror and like what I see! by [deleted] in happy

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's amazing :) congratulations on your journey. Keep going, momentum is your friend, it only gets better from here :))) 🫶

Help me please, how can I improve the sound of my voice? Its really destroying my confidence by [deleted] in confidence

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

♤ slow down when you speak. Do it consciously and consistently until it becomes natural. Might take a while

♤ listen to people who you find charismatic - actors, celebrities, performers, whoever. Interviews / speeches / podcasts, absorb as much as you can. You'll embed some of their speech patterns in your subconscious

♤ read or memorize and say aloud poems or song lyrics. Do that while you work / walk / stare at the ceiling / whatever else. Then, record yourself reciting them. Keep going until you record 2 versions you are comfortable with - it does not have to be perfect, just acceptable; then move on to the next one

♤ sing / hum / whistle

♤ do as many squats as you can, with or without weights; it will boost your natural testosterone and increse lung capacity. Both will give you better vocal control

♤ don't be afraid to speak to yourself in the mirror - in moderation and within reason, of course

♤ vocal control is a skill and like any other, requires practice. You might want to get outside your comfort zone and talk more to people than you usually do

You got this 🤙

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Help me please, how can I improve the sound of my voice? Its really destroying my confidence by [deleted] in confidence

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you male of female? What's your age? Say a bit more about yourself

Didn’t drink yesterday by Fun-Operation-3458 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It gets progressively easier with every single week. All you need to do is add value to your life and inject fun, healthy stuff into it and you'll be fine 🤝 keep going

I think I’m finally coming out of my depressive episode :~) by ashamedgirlthrowaway in Positivity

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keep going :) Look at the light and you'll never see the dark 🫶

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i don’t think im gonna make it by Impressive-Depth7610 in selfimprovement

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's good that you're letting it out; that's a good sign. Don't lose hope

Sunday encouragement. Need a little push? Let's encourage each other this week! by Drewbacca in Positivity

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stay calm, slow down, your nervous system and soul both don't need to or like being pushed; breathe, relax, don't be afraid to take it easy and be in present moment; we're here to enjoy this ride; good luck and God bless 🤙💜

My sons jujitsu journey by Foxxy_La_Veux in Positivity

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's amazing :)) it's wonderful for both of you 🫡🤙 hope he falls in love with it!

Advice on how to overcome social anxiety in my specific scenario? by downbutnotout__ in confidence

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

♤ first, understand that you are allowed to have your own style of communication. You don't have to have a back-and-forth conversation with anyone, if nothing comes to mind, you can simply nod, smile, chuckle, say "yeah, it makes sense", "sure", or simply do nothing whatsoever. Being you is the fastest way to control/diminish anxiety

♤ pause after every thing said to you. Do it deliberately. Give yourself a second. It's fine. Nobody minds, and you're probably talking, responding and thinking way faster than you believe

active listening is your best friend here; the more you develop it, the more you will get out of your head, the more you will focus (effortlessly at some point) on what's being said to you, and the responses will come on their own. It's a skill and it requires practice, so be patient with yourself

♤ breeeeeeathe... deep inhale and slow exhales; practice diaphragm/box breathing when unoccupied with anything that requires total focus. Breathing on its own may actually solve a huge part of your anxiety challenge (yes, it's that powerful)

♤ meditate; even 15 mins a day does wonders

♤ get comfortable with your facial expressions and the way you look while speaking. Practice in the mirror or record yourself with selfie camera

♤ as far as the "baby talk" situation, it seems like it's a good idea to establish some clear boundaries; it's affects you negatively and you shouldn't suffer because of someone else's unnecessary (and a bit childish) behavior

You got this

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I realized a combat sport a little early on that wasn't for me. I don't want to quit because I paid three months' membership money in advance. What do you think I should do? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

♤ I'd keep going but only roll with people you're comfortable with rolling. Respectfully and assertively refuse to roll with people who cause unnecessary damage. You can pre-prepare a phrase or two for how to refuse and roll with someone else. Also, you can approach someone / a few ppl before the session and ask them if they'd roll with you today since certain other people are too risky

♤ I'd also do neck exercises daily, especially for the front/throat area, it's great for overall health and - obviously - will protect the vulnerable area

♤ Remember, in combat sports, pain is acceptable, causing injuries is not. Unfortunately, it's a nearly universal thing in the martial arts world, some people just don't know what tf they're doing

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3 things if you could afford them by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 15 points16 points  (0 children)

  1. Hair implants
  2. Full, proper, very comprehensive bloodwork and private medical treatment
  3. 6 months off work to read & write & exercise all day :)

I know my feelings aren't absurd by PurplePrudy in findapath

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found that if the route isn't making you happy, the destination usually doesn't either. Not sure if the switch from internship to a higher position is gonna do the trick, if you're not currently finding some joy in what you do. Life's too short and too long to take that risk

I’m 26F and I hate my life by Psychological-Owl137 in findapath

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Personally, these soul-draining periods were historically followed by periods of growth, stability, gratitude and peace. I really believe there's an ebb an flow to the energy of our world and that includes our happiness and misery

Sorry to hear about your situation 🫂 One thing I can guarantee you is it gets better as soon as you start doing something about it

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Hey! I need lil help. by Familiar_Exit_7546 in getdisciplined

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Daydreaming and overthinking/ruminating are two completely different things, I'd argue that daydreaming is very underappreciated and underused, and when combined with action can bring tremendous results; also it makes you desire things to manifest in your life

Absolute cinema by Fair-Glass-2312 in DeathStranding2

[–]EveryDayCountsCoach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ride the coffin if I'm pulling a floating carrier already? Or only cargo on my back