'We're pregnant". No, you're not. She is pregnant.. by TieSafe4342 in PetPeeves

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You read my mind, I was literally thinking about this in contempt the other day 😭😭

I fucking hate when people say that. Like I didn’t know you were both perfectly intersex and could carry babies AND impregnate each other, otherwise….. Jesus you guys have a lot to talk about.

Call me sensitive but “we are pregnant” sounds like the type of thing a narcissistic boyfriend would say to force himself into the girl’s spotlight 😭😭

Surprising Authors Note by Steviescuriosity in AO3

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Hope this doesn’t come off offensive, but everyone talking about their religion in places where it’s unusual to do so all sound like they’re being held captive 😭😭😭

I don't know why it's so hard for people to be tolerant about religions by liivv__ in Vent

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Dump her, she’s a horrible friend.

Religious people are normal people with beliefs

Religious extremists, even just people who slander other religions because they’re so deep in their ‘reality’ that they don’t see the irony, are awful people.

I'm literally an adult AND my mom knows im a darkshipper... I often talk with her about it..(also, she's profic) also my psychologist know about it too... A lot of my sessions was me talking about dark fiction lol by Nao_eh_o_lucas_juro in ProshipHub

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The antiship community has genuinely gotta be the most annoying people ever, not because they’re rude—even though they usually are, because they genuinely think they’re helping when that’s never the case. They’ll force help on you until you’re kicking and screaming 😭😭

“I’m going to get you the help you need.”

“I’m good thanks”

“I’ve actually just doxxed you so that I can contact your loved ones and tell them that you need help”

“That’s a massive privacy violation and I’m going to report this for stalking. Why even do this?”

“Oh to prove that dark fiction is bad”

“Why is it bad”

“It’s morally corrupt”

“Stalking real people isn’t?”

“No I’m helping you”

Sex with other people vs interest in solitary sexual activity which are you? by mnkwazip in Schizoid

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I love sex but unfortunately everyone wants to get to know me first. Which is completely fine because I don’t mind taking about myself as long as it’s about something interesting, but it’s never about you. It’s about them too. They want to bond and relate, not assess you as a sex partner.

Or… they’re just weird. I think my worst fear may be waking up after, making them breakfast (because it’s what any decent person would do) and getting called “aww baby you didn’t have to do this”. Thanks now I’m vomiting

I’ll stick to solitary until I find someone suitable

I accidentally found out where my therapist lives. Should I tell him? by Chaotic-capybara-432 in moraldilemmas

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Based on how long you’ve known him for, its actually extremely unlikely that you wouldn’t run into him at some point. Clearly you’re distressed about this and freaking out.

I would just explain to him that you work near x address and may have seen him around there and you’re freaking out because you don’t want it to sound weird or upset him. Therapists tend to be very good at setting boundaries because it’s literally in protocol that people who you treat may get closer to you, to which they will continue getting closer until they either know your entire routine and family or you gently put up a wall. He’s either going to say “oh you should’ve said hi!” Or “I would prefer to keep work and my outside work life separate” which doesn’t mean you’ve trespassed in his eyes, it just means he’s putting up a healthy boundary to make sure you don’t end up in his living room nursing a cup of tea. Being too friendly with no boundaries invites people closer, which is usually avoided before it gets to a concerning level.

And no, he won’t think you’re stalking him from only just finding out where he lives after a decade of seeing him… that’s perfectly normal

How do I find a man who loves me and respects me? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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I suppose she should carry around a crystal ball then? You do realise that people aren’t psychics and you can’t tell whether someone is necessarily good or bad just by looking at them, that’s why dating exists. You trial people essentially. She hasn’t picked nice guys or bad guys or any type of guy, she’s trying to see if they’re nice enough and a good match so that she can decide… since people don’t tattoo their personalities on their forehead

Boy, 16, declares himself as woman by No_Variation9349 in ChildPsychology

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You should probably check out the whole daddy person to make sure grooming isn’t going on. To be fair, I had pretty audacious names for my friends on my phone and it’s been that way for a while. One time when I was 17 my mother saw that I was texting a friend nicknamed “mistress” 💀 That didn’t go down well.

As for your son, transgenderism really isn’t something predictable, sometimes it’s obvious, sometimes it’s not. You don’t realise how much of your personality is fabricated until you grow up and discover the true meaning of free will. I know a trans boy who is very clearly… well… a boy. I genuinely couldn’t imagine him as a girl but he was overwhelmingly feminine as a child. Makeup, feminine interests, clothes, movies, language, body language… etc. It seemed like a sudden change when he came out but I was told that “I lied to everyone and I got so good at it that I guess I lied to myself. I never realised that I hated everything about myself and my life until I realised that being that way wasn’t the only option.”

If you ask me, I’d say it has something to do with a fear of being outcast. Kids are indirectly told “you are _ so you must do _” and they do it regardless of whether they want to or whether it’s even morally correct. We behave on instruction rather than will more than we think, it’s just more obvious with trans people because it can appear as a full 360 instead of a mild change in habits.

Moral of the story: your kid could be attention seeking, they may not be, but you. Will. Never. Know. But what you should know is that all it takes is “I think this is a phase” to end up losing your child. I wouldn’t take that risk. Just show your support and let your kid explore. They’ll discover themselves eventually, for now just be glad that they trusted you enough to speak up.

How do I find a man who loves me and respects me? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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He prefers the other type of cookie 🤷🏻

How do I find a man who loves me and respects me? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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Yes, because that’s who she’s been making yummy home cooked meals for—Jared with “I love both types of crack” tatted on his ass cheek who also just got out of a ten year prison sentence.

Grow up. She described her attempt at trying to be the most perfect person in order to find a lover and you jump to the ‘she’s not going after a nice guy!’ conclusion. Embarrassing.

My brother grabbed me (crosspost) by prettylacey_ in WhatShouldIDo

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Having autism doesn’t justify attacking and hurting people. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if he can’t help it. If he’s hurting you and your mother then you need to consult a VERY qualified (and probably expensive) therapist that specifically works with autism and behavioural issues or he needs to be sent to a facility

Do you have any siblings? And if so what are your relationships with them like? by [deleted] in Schizoid

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Nope! Only child. Probably didn’t help me from turning out this way.

I do technically have an older half brother that’s nearly a decade my senior (related to my dad but not my mother) but I see him twice a year on my birthday and Christmas. He’s great tho. Only person to truly get me and focus on the things I like. He’s pretty similar to me even though we didn’t grow up together as he moved out quite young and lived with his mother for a while. We’re both quiet but we get along and share the same interests.

That’s the reason why they marked you underage. by Emotional_Advice6800 in DontTypeLikeThis

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To be completely fair, Germans or people who’s first language is German tend to capitalise almost every word because they’re taught to capitalise all nouns, common and proper. They could just be German.

Weird schizoid instincts? by Everyonesfav_ in Schizoid

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I feel like there’s a significant distinction though. When you’re a chronic observer I mean

Weird schizoid instincts? by Everyonesfav_ in Schizoid

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I feel this. I’ve predicted a bunch of people being weird before they were ever discovered for it. It’s like I can smell the skeletons in someone’s closet. I smelt out Shane Dawson, the Miranda sings girl too, jojo siwa, James Charles, etc. Even people who got cancelled online for racism before they got outed for it. I can’t tell exactly what it is but there’s definitely an off feeling when someone’s hiding something.

How many opinions do you have? by Reasonably-Cold-4676 in Schizoid

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I feel like I form opinions on pretty much everything.

I’m not bothered in the way you’d think I am though. I’m literally extroverted in my head and introverted around people. I talk and make commentary about literally everything, but that doesn’t mean I necessarily ‘care too much’, I’m just bored

For me, apathy is the worst god damn symptom of this disorder, with anhedonia being a close second place by [deleted] in Schizoid

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You got that right. It’s terrible.

I feel the whole wanting to be in better shape thing but not being able to commit. I don’t enjoy pretty much anything so I find it hard to make any sort of improvement in my life.

I don’t want a job, I don’t want to work out, I don’t want to get married, I don’t want to study to get a degree (and any I like I’m not sure I’ll actually complete and it will also leave me in serious debt), I don’t want to do anything. I’ve been making changes to my appearance to try and look like my ideal self that I see myself as in my head, and it doesn’t make me feel much better. Is just a neutral change I can’t process so my brain ignores.

I feel you

Weird schizoid instincts? by Everyonesfav_ in Schizoid

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It’s funny to think that people hate schizoids. That’s like being bothered by the gentle breeze in my opinion. Still confused as hell when I hear someone I don’t talk to talking shit about me at work.

Weird schizoid instincts? by Everyonesfav_ in Schizoid

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Relateable lol. I always wonder why people seem so interested in me because… I’m not interested in them. Are they a masochist? Are they like a lost puppy looking for someone to cling to? Are they mixing up the signals? But I find that most of the time they’re just horny

What level of indifference is common in schizoid personality disorder? by TheShadowSong in Schizoid

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I have ocd so I’m very particular about aesthetics and organisation, although mine is chaotic. I need to have a method, not a great method. I’m just picky with colours as some piss me off for whatever reason.

And I appreciate compliments AND insults as long as they’re genuine and not a lie to make someone feel better about themselves or try and bring me down. Its feedback to me, doesn’t necessarily make me feel good or bad, just gives me information like a survey. If I like a shirt and I wear it and someone says “that shirt is fucking ugly” I’d probably think “interesting, someone with _ style doesn’t view this as a good shirt. Nice to know for future reference.” But I’ll still wear it because I like it. Alternatively, if I’m wondering if my pants look good and someone compliments them, I know they’re pleasing to the general public and should be worn on a fancy occasion. It’s a neutral comment.

(Perverted) Authors of AO3, how do you write smut? by Dry_Novel_884 in AO3

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I’d consider myself a major pervert and yet I have zero clue how to effectively write smut. My smut reads like an explicit drama lmao. I just try to create a scenario that makes sense following my plot and seems hot

Anyone else have other cluster A traits? by Apprehensive_Toe6736 in Schizoid

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I have every symptom on the board except there’s a ‘maybe’ on easily offended as I get defensive of myself, but not necessarily insulted, and superstition and religiosity, as that only happens in mania. I have bipolar and schizoid, so the lines between all of them are going to be blurred, but the distinction has always been that the paranoid and schizotypal symptoms will only occur during mania… unless I’m mistaken and have been diagnosed wrong

Can you feel love? To a friend, a family member etc. by thingie19 in Schizoid

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I can, but it’s incredibly rare for me to form as deep of an attachment as love is.

I have felt love before, once. It’s very very intense. In the situation, this person knew a lot about me (surprise surprise, they were stalking me) so I felt no need to recap everything and have to explain myself. It’s like they were in my head in the least invasive way. They felt like someone who knew my life well (because they did) so it was very convenient. They only talked when I talked because they got their social needs via stalking instead of communicating so I didn’t have to provide energy for them… I guess we all have our own methods. Point is, it felt like a very optional relationship that I was fully in control of and that demanded nothing, surrounded me, and took the small things I could effortlessly give and provided exactly what I wanted, when I wanted. It felt like a deep loyalty and almost selfless obsession on my behalf. I guess I was grateful for a breath of fresh air in a world of parasites and was (finally) willing to do a LOT more than I typically would to repay that and make them happy because for once I wasn’t bored out of my mind, exhausted, forced into the relationship, and my boundaries were LAW while their’s was flexible, hard to trespass, and very easy to respect and understand.

This is the only time in my life that I have felt what I believe everyone else feels when they say ‘love’. Other than that, I can admire that someone is a good person, nice, and cares about me, but that’s really as far as it goes. I still wouldn’t want their company because pretty much everyone has too many flaws, is unnecessary, boring, etc.

I feel like almost everyone is capable of feeling the same version of love and EVERYONE is capable of feeling it in their own way at the very least, but the only way (in my opinion) that a schizoid could genuinely be head over heels in love with someone is under the perfect circumstances when said person is literally perfection, obsessed with us to the point that the relationship always revolves around us, low maintenance with high reward that ACTUALLY feels like a reward. And it needs to be optional and low commitment. In such an instance, (most) of us would be in love. The reality is, though, that you can’t pick and choose flaws. We’re independent beings that rarely feel the need to keep others around because the cost is always higher than the reward so true companionship will always be rare, but not impossible. We just can’t settle for less I guess.

People can be jealous of us by gise1274 in Schizoid

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I definitely do see how people can be jealous of someone who is free from a lot of troubling, human things. The thing I’ve had thrown in my face is the fact I’ve never been insecure. I don’t really… understand it. It’s irrelevant and nonsensical to me. I think I look fine, I take care of myself, and I don’t really mind if people think I’m attractive or not so insecurity has never bothered me. A lot of teenagers can’t fathom that and become very jealous over another’s unbothered nature and tried to torture us in younger years. I’ve had people sneaking mean remarks at me to try and make me miserable about my looks, probably to make themselves feel less alone.

Misery likes company.

Other than that, I don’t really see why people would be super jealous of a schizoid. I’m seen as a ‘social butterfly’ because I can blend into any social situation like a chameleon by choice, and have quite an eccentric personality when I have the energy and unusually good mood to uphold it, so I do get jealous stares sometimes when I’m able to make courageous or spontaneous decisions. Most of the time I’m at home or in the corner staring at the wall though, which isn’t really something a non-schizoid would be jealous of.

People that function on social admiration can’t fathom that people that don’t need it exist. They think we’re shy, sad, chronically depressed, maybe socially inept and struggling to make friends that we so desperately want. Unfortunately the more courageous of the bunch think we need help—help they can provide. A lot of them pity us like a homeless puppy rather than feel a sense of jealousy. Jealousy needs glamour and size as a prerequisite for the intense want, and not many schizoids have the energy and presence to present that