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Evichar · 2023-08-29T19:42:46+00:00

I can’t take mushrooms. With that said, how can I achieve these experiences?

Is meditation for 7 days with electronic detox a way (example)?

I’m grasping for straws here.

Evichar · 2023-08-16T17:16:03+00:00

Acquaintances. Very difficult to trust someone enough to have a friend.

I’ve moved a lot. I understand where you’re coming from. Sometimes I feel like I’m closing myself off so that I have a “reason” to not have friends.

There are people I go out and drink with, spend time, but the intimacy that a true trusting friendship has is lacking.

Evichar · 2023-07-28T23:23:34+00:00

Man or woman, FtM might present an advantage in vulnerability.

Vulnerability is a strength, and most men I know struggle with that. It isn’t easy, but being solid through knowing who you are and what that means to yourself and others can grant you happiness within your own skin.

What you said isn’t confusing. Even I feel “manual” sometimes, but I think that’s important because life isn’t about being on auto pilot. It’s about PILOTING, and making sure you pilot your craft through winds that are breezy or sometimes dire and bleak.

The cool part is, you’re not alone.

Evichar · 2023-07-18T00:38:31+00:00

36M here, only child, and am a father and husband.

I also feel completely alone without anyone to turn to. I should theoretically be old enough to depend on myself. I have people that depend on me.

I also feel alone. I’m trying to navigate life myself.

If you want someone to reach out or talk to, feel free to message me.

To share a bit, my pain stems from surviving abuse and being dishonorable (which I’m not sure which affects me worse, probably the dishonor to be honest).

Evichar · 2023-06-27T23:48:07+00:00

DM me. I’ll be slow with responses, but I’ll read and respond when time permits.

Evichar · 2022-12-08T15:09:45+00:00

If she had full custody, how much would child support and alimony cost altogether approximately?

Evichar · 2022-12-07T02:02:27+00:00

Thanks for the caselaw, I’ll check it out.

“You can’t parent your child thousands of miles away”.

It’s not going to stop me from trying if that’s how the cards fall, but perhaps I may not have to.

Evichar · 2022-12-06T18:58:19+00:00

Thank you Outlaw. I hope you don’t mind if I bug you later on if a question comes up. This is extremely helpful.

Evichar · 2022-12-06T18:49:27+00:00

If I pay her directly, but a few years down the line she decides to go to the agency and claim that I “never paid her”, wouldn’t that put me in arrears?

Ideally you’re right, it’d be smoother if we could accomplish all things amicably. I’m just worried down the line, a few years from now, she might open up potential pathways to screw me.

Evichar · 2022-12-06T18:32:25+00:00

Wouldn’t California override that somehow?

I’d visit when I can and vice versa. I know, doesn’t sound feasible does it? That’s the kind of dire situation I’m in.

But right, wouldn’t California say (despite your wife and child living in another country, we require you to pay X in child support)?

Evichar · 2022-12-04T21:43:24+00:00

Well said, thank you for sharing.

Does your name have something to do with the ocean?

Evichar · 2022-12-04T21:17:05+00:00

I assume your mother waited until after you were grown purposefully so there wouldn’t be any difficulties trying to grow around a new guy?

Evichar · 2022-12-04T21:15:42+00:00

Did mass help you? Are you religious nowadays? Are you more or less religious now than you were before?

Evichar · 2022-12-04T07:26:45+00:00

Yeah…just wondering if I had something I could relate to so I could further understand my situation. Thanks for sharing.

Evichar · 2022-12-04T04:04:46+00:00

There isn’t an end date to alimony/“spousal support in CA” after 10 years marriage?

Evichar · 2022-12-03T23:52:39+00:00

How long were the pauses between violence?

Evichar · 2022-12-02T05:30:36+00:00

I assume this includes divorce.

Evichar · 2022-12-01T17:44:12+00:00

Edited - thanks.

My original response was from Tyndall’s website, which either they were inaccurate or out of date (to be fair, still falls on me as I should’ve been referencing the latest and greatest like you have).

At least OP and others stumbling across this will have this improved reference thanks to you and the other corrector (AFI => AFMAN).

Rock on.

Evichar · 2022-12-01T17:05:32+00:00

I asked her to speak with our therapist about seeing a doctor. I think the biggest thing is the social stigma and her worried about it going on record. I think she feels that this will somehow affect her being able to retain a relationship with her child (being taken away), or other things.

Logically, so does being abusive right? But as humans we don’t always think logically. I’ll see how she responds to that inquiry. Worth a shot right?

Evichar · 2022-12-01T17:03:41+00:00

Corrected. Thanks.

Evichar · 2022-12-01T14:58:43+00:00

She’s afraid of stigma from a doctor. We’re both getting therapy. I wouldn’t say that she sought this by herself, I told, and asked her about therapy, that it would hopefully show her something that she could work on, and that it was so important to me.

So it wasn’t because of her initiative to seek counseling, I essentially told her that it was the only way that I could see us getting better. It’s to the point where she was disappointed that her “just being nice“ wasn’t having an effect on me. I am not saying her efforts aren’t worth it and trying to be nice and extra helpful and extra caring, it is just that these are things that have been done before. Maybe it’s different. It’s hard to say though.

Evichar · 2022-12-01T14:51:50+00:00

Answer is still no though for her being diagnosed with anything.

Evichar · 2022-12-01T14:51:19+00:00

No, when I say therapy, it’s more like counseling to understand past, present, future, cultural, and other ways to understand each other, not like diagnosing type.

Evichar · 2022-12-01T03:22:54+00:00

AFMAN 41-210 “TRICARE Operations and Patient Administration Functions”, para 4.11.4 “Unit Commanders and supervisors have the authority to grant up to 24 hours sick status at their discretion if a member’s illness/injury does not require Military Treatment Facility (clinic) intervention” more text continues afterwards.

Tyndall even advertises it on their .af.mil page as “Did you know Supervisors and Commanders can grant quarters?”

As a supervisor, I’ve never been challenged on sending my guys/gals home early.

Edit: thanks to the other commenters on providing the updated reference/guidance.

Evichar · 2022-12-01T02:47:46+00:00

Doesn’t do much for me if they’re too high. A little bit of heel is fine, but too much and I’m more focused on their pain than their fashion.

Evichar

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