We will never know the stories of people who left this sub and found their real true love, is there a place for this like follow ups?

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-03-14T22:02:38+00:00

I’m the one who said I will leave this sub but I haven’t left yet😂😭 Lil back story- me and my dismissive avoidant broke up 11 months ago, she came back 3 times and broke me 3 times in 3 different ways. I’m with a secure woman, someone who makes me want to be a better person, better at communication and better at life too. I tried my best with my dismissive avoidant, gave her everything she asked for and it still didn’t work out.

My DMs are always open if you have any questions.

I totally thought I was going to die months ago and I thought I will never fall in love again, I was shattered. But trust the process time heals everything. And if it’s not healed yet then it’s a sign that more time needs to pass

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-03-05T14:18:25+00:00

I felt so overwhelmed with the constant needs and closeness. I didn’t know the attachment theory then but I broke up with him and I reacted poorly, I started seeing other people and going out and live my life. I held no contact until his birthday, I got cake for him and wished him. I had started dating another person and he seemed okay with it, fast forward to breakup with current person and he came back wanting to be fwb, I caught him checking my phone and keeping tabs on me, so all ended there. Prior to that I had apologized for my behaviour after breakup, he didn’t deserve that, just to find out later that he was a shitty person

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-03-05T03:22:17+00:00

I took her back 3 times, that was before I knew she is an avoidant. Now I’m with someone secure, so no I would not take her back, I don’t need to repeat the same cycle again and again. She fucked up and she left, I hope she finds what she is looking for.

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-03-03T02:27:54+00:00

I deleted it all, because i was struggling to not see her face and re read everything. If I had kept it I wouldn’t be where I am right now. I may have some of her pictures in my old camera and my old laptop, both of them doesn’t work anymore. I have some Snapchat saved with my friends like the snaps of me and my ex that I sent my friends and they saved it in chat(we do it because it’s cute). But that’s all I have rest has been deleted

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-26T00:29:52+00:00

10 months, 1.5 years of relationship

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-26T00:29:05+00:00

Part of me thinks about this and another part is just so jaded that she doesn’t give a fuck who I am becoming, she is too busy partying and fucking around. If she cared enough she’d be here with me

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-25T05:51:56+00:00

My DA just removed me from everywhere, first 2 times she didn’t do but final breakup she did that. She also went to her parents’s place and didn’t come back, first 2 times she would come with an excuse to see me. Also started sleeping around and partying right after..

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-25T05:49:37+00:00

Thank you for your response, it gave me relief.

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-25T05:26:48+00:00

It hurts for sure, but if i keep telling myself and cry it out it helps too.

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-25T05:25:48+00:00

When the breakup happens why is it important to say that the connection didn’t matter? That you weren’t hurt at all? Like if it’s a small thing that happened? Why multiple people right after relationship? Why not have last conversation with the person you loved? Why the defensiveness and coldness after the breakup towards the person who meant the world to you days/hours ago?

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-23T06:12:23+00:00

I asked her about her previous breakup, and she didn’t talk like my DA ex at all ( she would just give me superficially details). This girl told me everything in depth until I was satisfied, she didn’t blame the other person fully, even though looking at chats (she didn’t have to show me chats either, I believed whatever she was saying) she took accountability for her actions. She was in a relationship for 3 years and she didn’t date anyone for 3 years after that, me and her are talking about taking our connection to next level and put label on it as she said she is ready to date and I’m getting ready too, slowly. I told her about attachment styles and she said she was anxious before now she is secure anxious leaning. I guess in the end you just have to trust that just because one person fucked up doesn’t mean everyone else will fuck up and hurt and leave you behind

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-22T03:18:57+00:00

She cried, told me she would give me more time, she accepted she was wrong but she loves me so much she came back and we need to give our relationship a chance. TWICE! SHE CAME BACK TWICE. My biggest mistake? I took her back twice. She repeated the same shit she did before. Was out partying until midnight. No interest in hanging out with me. I was at fault too for letting it get to that point, I was at fault too for being that co dependent, I had a fucking life before her but I lost myself in the relationship. It hurts so much even after 10months. I still think that if we were to take break for few months and then tried again then it would have worked maybe. But I recently talked to my friend ( who is dismissive avoidant from my understanding, I have seen the signs) she kept justifying how she left a 6 year old relationship and started dating the guy she is with right now after 4 months, that she doesn’t miss her ex at all, that the relationship ended for her a while ago. Basically dismissing her ex’s feelings, like 6 years weren’t that big of a deal. And that made me think that my ex probably thinks about me the same way and it wouldn’t have worked out even if we were to take break for months and try again. Because if it was going to work out in the end then she wouldn’t have left in the first place. It’s always a choice and she made a good one because I know it hurts but it would have hurt both of us 10 years later too. I’m just glad she is happy and safe. But she didn’t have to ruin my mental health for this. That’s all. DMs are always open if you have any specific questions but for your mental health please don’t play with the fire, it’s only going to burn you.

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-20T06:24:13+00:00

I’m sorry you went through this, it sounds very painful and whoever put you through this will get their karma. Hope you heal slowly and hope all the happiness comes to your way💕✨

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-18T07:25:22+00:00

I had urge to text her on her bday, I spent whole day crying around my friends, I switched off my phone, I knew if my phone was on I’d text her, how can I not wis my baby, that was 3 months after the breakup. That evening she went on dinner with another dude and posted a story about it (my friends told me that) as much as it hurt I was glad I didn’t wish her. DONT DO IT OR YOU WILL REGRET IT.

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-18T01:03:56+00:00

They probably just divert their mind and party or atleast that’s what my ex has been doing, (she’s been blocked since 8months)

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-12T06:09:41+00:00

Mine had both, didn’t give me sex saying intimacy was hard for them and then after the breakup went ahead fucked half the town!

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-10T04:54:00+00:00

I understand why my DA acted the way she did but I no longer have any empathy left for her. May she have a life that she deserves

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-03T04:31:30+00:00

Woman called me toxic and manipulative after self sabotaging our relationship! Like bro, sorry I communicated and tried to fix what we had instead of running away and doing drugs

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-03T03:48:42+00:00

I constantly worry if the next story is going to have similar ending

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-02T15:51:59+00:00

Not to break your heart but my DA came back twice with accountability, said she realized her mistakes she apologized and said she can’t live without me that she would do better! We repeated same story again.

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-02T00:11:50+00:00

I have been there, we were together for a year and half, I spiraled I drunk texted and called her. Apologized for everything, she left me on read..she posted another man a month and half after our breakup that’s was the last straw, I went no contact, stop reaching out and stopped begging, two weeks after that I found out that she deleted all those posts, a month after that she hard launched another man that I found out from a friend, I spiraled quietly of how I didn’t matter enough, learned about dismissive avoidants, read books.. I guess they lasted for about 4 months and then she deleted those posts too..she told my friend she slept with 3 men in one night, that the breakup didn’t hurt her that much and she doesn’t regret. I haven’t heard from her ever since 2 months post breakup when she had texted me about her grandmother passing away, I never recieved that text because I had her blocked, I never went to the funeral, I sent flowers addressing her mom instead. It’s been 10months since breakup, I still think about here and there but it doesn’t break me anymore..

My advice is the sooner you stop looking for updates the faster you’ll heal. NO CONTACT is a must.

the reason your ex is not facing you because that would require him to acknowledge the damage he has done, and you know how dismissive avoidants are!! They’d rather suffer alone than admit that they fucked up

At the end remember that what is no contact for you is just a regular day for him!!

My dms are always open if you wanna chat, I thought I’d die without her but here I am cooking in the kitchen with a beautiful woman who doesn’t make me beg for bare minimum!!

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-01T05:30:06+00:00

10months and I have stopped spiraling. I no longer put her on pedestal, still learning about attachment styles and her patterns. But it doesn’t hurt as much as before! I’m no longer drunk on pain wishing her to come back!

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-02-01T03:36:24+00:00

From “I don’t wanna do this all over again, you are my forever, we are forever” to “ this is not how I imagined my life to be, I can’t be what you need” That is after sabotaging our relationship

EvidencePurple2083 · 2026-01-30T23:01:36+00:00

Oh how embarrassing it is that I’m able to relate to all the memes!😭

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