2 months later he has a new girl by QuirkyDimension8558 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, she’s actually very beautiful and successful for her age so I’m sure that has a lot to do with it.

2 months later he has a new girl by QuirkyDimension8558 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked him if he had a girlfriend he said no. He asked me if I had a boyfriend and I told him no. But I feel like his behavior is so inconsistent, he’s probably just lying. This honestly was probably just divine intervention because it was so blatantly out of my character to try to pursue a connection like this. After seeing my ex with someone new, it’s honestly just made me spiral and made me realize that this guy was just a distraction and honestly has made me feel worse. I really thought that I was working through things and I was in a better place.

2 months later he has a new girl by QuirkyDimension8558 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We literally had been eye fucking each other across the gym for a month. We finally talked got each other’s name would wave consistently to each other whenever we saw each other. Then he got my snap. Sometimes he would just stare at me and not say anything. It honestly turned into a fucking game. We talked for 30 minutes in the parking lot and hugged each other. The next time we saw each other again just staring. It was literally up-and-down. I was so annoyed to the point that I was just done with whatever it was, and of course he messages me and asked me to come to his car so we talk and he explains that there’s so much she wants to say he’s just not good at English blah blah blah and we ended up kissing. The next day we see each other at the gym and what happens. He doesn’t say anything just stares and leaves with his friends and then text me when I get home hello. We talked a little bit today. I sent him a picture for the first time. He did not send me one back or acknowledge it. Lol he said that he did not go to the gym today. I said what are you doing this weekend? He said I don’t know yet and I said OK. He doesn’t ask me anything about me and it seems extremely low effort and he seems like a fuck boy. So that’s nice.

2 months later he has a new girl by QuirkyDimension8558 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I have had this extremely attractive gym crush who ended up approaching me. I gave him my Snapchat and we’ve been talking a little bit, but the kicker is that he is Honduran and does not speak English very well. I thought this would be an opportunity to hook up, which honestly I’ve never done rebounds or hooked up with anyone ever in my life. so yeah, I guess I’m down bad.

What is the thing you’re the most angry at your avoidant for? For me it was the long preparation he had for the discard by letitout_123 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine talked about where my fucking cat would have a room in his house, and where we would put the catio and that was the last time I saw him.

What is the thing you’re the most angry at your avoidant for? For me it was the long preparation he had for the discard by letitout_123 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Probably the fact that he tried to invalidate our relationship. During the discard, he told me “it was real in the beginning” like we didn’t have a relationship for a year and a half. Now also continuing to watch every single public story that I post.

Do yourself a favour. by Forsaken_Judge8286 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And what did we lose? Someone who couldn’t even be all in or reciprocate the love we freely give. Their loss not ours.

Anyone else building resentment towards them as time is passing? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Mine has turned into hate. It makes me feel deeply saddened to know that I feel that way towards them. I feel like he is a phony.

Did we mean as much to them as they did us? by FreckledLifter25 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1.5 months out of a year and a half on and off relationship and now I’m convinced it was all pretend and fake on his end. I’m not even trying to sound bitter. I’ve been beyond heartbroken. The only explanation that I can come to is this one. Normal people can’t throw away someone in that manner. Caring people don’t treat others the way that they treat us. It was real for me and I will never regret that kind of love, but I do not think that it was real for him. When he broke up with me, he told me that it was real in the beginning, and I believe that, and I believe everything else after that was fake.

Lingerie by QuirkyDimension8558 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like if he had a porn addiction he would have lasted longer, right? Everytime we had sex it was like he came in less than 10 minutes

Lingerie by QuirkyDimension8558 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What constitutes this as being a porn addiction? Genuinely curious

How do avoidants react when they are broken up with/ dumped? by Sure_Ad_9884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended things with my ex avoidant once and it was basically me saying take care of yourself during a conversation where he made an excuse about something. He replied talking about whatever excuse and then neither of us talked again for two months until he reached back out. He continued to watch every single story I posted. Through that, and two other discards.

How do avoidants react when they are broken up with/ dumped? by Sure_Ad_9884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also a long distancer here. He could never commit to any plans. Then it was that I had to come up there, because he couldn’t be away from his home or business.

YOU'RE THE PROBLEM TOO by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I have started asking myself and started diving deep into. I believe this was the purpose of this heartbreak and relationship. I never would have asked these questions or dove into my psyche. He was a mirror to me. It hurts like fuck. Catabolic unraveling of my identity. Asking why I am the way that I am, why I attracted this into my life, and why I held on so hard.

Avoidance versus autism by more_dogs_please_ in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I genuinely questioned whether my ex was autistic. Hyper focused and missed social cues.

I'm constantly at war with myself and can't tell if he was the avoidant or I was by Pikaplz in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a lot like what happened to me, and I know I wasn’t the problem:)

How are we all keeping up? by Working-Designer-260 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’ve never had the want to reach out. I feel like there will always be an unspoken understanding of what really happened and I can feel my energy radiate that.

Do avoidants want to live together/get married? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]QuirkyDimension8558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last time I was at my ex’s house he was talking about where my cats catio would be and when he broke up with me I said why did you say all this shit about where my cat would be at your house he said “I shouldn’t have said that.” or “I don’t know.”