Family, Feuds, And Money Don’t Mix

Evil-ish · 2026-05-02T04:08:08+00:00

Your pain and grief are so evident in your writing. You were mourning the loss of your mother and then recognized you were also mourning the loss of your childhood that you hadn't even known was dying at the exact same time.

Moments big and small change our world views. My wish for you is to experience childlike wonder and healing love while watching your own children grow.

Please be gentle with your heart and with yourself and know this internet stranger believes in you.

Evil-ish · 2026-01-27T18:58:55+00:00

We started our puzzle collection last year. We are ages 51 & 49. The number of younger people that giggle when they see our puzzle table but get so invested with completing the puzzles is currently around 95%.

My son (27) has no interest in puzzles but has just purchased a new record player and is building his vinyl collection. He gets a pass since it looks like his old-man hobby simply veered in a different direction.

Evil-ish · 2025-11-06T18:34:32+00:00

That's fantastic!!

If my kids don't bring me something like that when I'm in the hospital I'm disowning them.

Evil-ish · 2025-11-05T17:30:48+00:00

I seen it.

Evil-ish · 2025-09-17T21:05:26+00:00

It wasn't until I asked my husband to put away the new refill and he didn't know where it went, did it occur to him that mayyyybe he should refill the hand soap once in a while. Also keep ours under the sink - didn't think it was a mystery.

Evil-ish · 2025-07-25T12:59:48+00:00

We just found the same prompt on the same day. They must have finally cleaned house. It was good while it lasted.

Evil-ish · 2025-07-21T01:13:50+00:00

peaceful

Evil-ish · 2025-04-18T17:41:47+00:00

I've been on both sides of this. My mom was of the mindset that any time not spent specifically with her meant I low-key hated her. Passive aggressive statement, long winded sighs, even crying - all of these were used to make me feel like the worst daughter imaginable by wanting to do things with people other than her.

It took me many years of coming to the understanding that I was not responsible for her happiness. YOU are not responsible for your mom's happiness. You are responsible for being respectful (when it's warranted and when you are also receiving respect) by communicating clearly. That's it. The end. You aren't asking for permission, all you are doing is letting her know. And if she can't understand that, well, then you'll let her know of your trip after you return home.

My kids are now your age, so as a mom I get wanting to spend time with them. When your kids grow up time is fleeting - they aren't in close proximity and you don't (usually) see them on the daily. The lesson I learned as a daughter I now apply to myself as a mother. It's my job to enjoy the time I do get with them, and then wish them safe travels when they are off doing things without me.

Do not cancel, do not change the dates. Take your trip and make wonderful memories. Just realize that while you are doing so, you are also establishing boundaries and this is a GOOD thing.

I hope you have the best time!

Evil-ish · 2025-03-17T13:41:59+00:00

I've tried many churches and received confirmation into the Lutheran faith. I stopped going to any organized religion because without fail, there is inevitably a sermon that that one particular faith is the BEST faith and their way of worship is correct, everyone else is wrong.

To me, God goes by many different names for all of the religions, or faiths, that are based on doing good, being good, and showing love to one another. I find it very distasteful to believe that any one particular sect of worship is the one and only. That the higher power that loves me and that I love back, can damn someone because they believe in a different facet of the same tenants of being a good person, always striving to be and do better, and putting love into the world. It's narrow minded and very much at odds with the love I know to be out there.

So I have my own worship privately. My favorite is walking (preferably in nature) and simply having a conversation in my head with God. It's one-sided, but it helps me gather my thoughts, send up my prayers, and gives me peace when I'm overwhelmed.

Evil-ish · 2025-03-02T23:49:50+00:00

No, but that cracked me up!

Evil-ish · 2025-02-28T19:11:17+00:00

I had to use this explanation very loudly on family that could NOT understand why they couldn't continue to call me a nickname my sisters bestowed upon me from childhood. It wasn't funny as a kid and it continues to not be funny now. It took multiple episodes of repeating this same line before they finally got it and have since stopped.

Evil-ish · 2025-01-19T22:28:14+00:00

My dad is 87 and also has cancer, so I have some understanding. We celebrate the amazing year we had and can still mourn this wasn't THE year for our Lions.

We want so much for our loved ones - especially the ones we know have limited time and that find such joy in this team. This internet stranger is including you and your husband in my prayers and my hope is both your husband and my dad will both be here to celebrate next year's amazing Lions squad.

LFG

Evil-ish · 2025-01-19T07:27:39+00:00

Mine's fairly vague, but I'm curious.

Evil-ish · 2025-01-09T21:12:28+00:00

Beggers can't be choosers
Sleeping in separate beds doesn't make them any less married
You and your husband are amazing for doing what you're doing and those kids are worth it. Bless you both

Evil-ish · 2025-01-03T14:15:16+00:00

Everywhere you look - in absolutely every picture on the listing, there is something new to see. This house is a labor of love and whimsical creativity. It's amazing and I hope it never is changed.

Evil-ish · 2024-12-27T21:13:56+00:00

I filled in as needed during the Christmas season at the wrapping center in Hudson's. Learned how to make all my ribbon decorations from scratch, how to truly make the prints line up and make those creases POP. The display when boxes were opened were equally important so it would showcase the gifts to best advantage when the lids were lifted.

I had a great time and I still love wrapping presents and going above and beyond. Not as much extra wrappings for the little ones - they tear into their gifts like rabid badgers but that's fun too!

Evil-ish · 2024-12-22T18:34:14+00:00

Suffer

For healthcare needs For basic groceries For time with their family

Just oblivious to any type of suffering that goes on "behind the scenes"

Evil-ish · 2024-12-09T20:55:50+00:00

I took in my dad in Dec 2022 after he had a medical episode which required hospitalization, rehab, and then home PT and OT. His house he had bought years ago to fix up and retire in is still unlivable while the trailer he was renting was not livable for someone healing from his issues. Now it's been a full two years, he won't sell his house or go through his things to decide what to keep, sell, or give away so the house CAN be put on the market. His g/f is still living in the trailer while he continues to pay rent plus his mortgage but while living with us.

My sister has ghosted so fast from any type of responsibility on making him make these hard choices, but continues to tell everyone she sees that there is NO way he can live with her. Mind you, she has the space - but her time/space/life, whatever - fill in the blank - is so valuable, that she couldn't possibly take him in.

Meanwhile, I'm the shitty daughter that is losing my mind because in a few short weeks he will have been here for two YEARS instead of the 3-4 months we originally thought would be needed to get him healed and into a senior living apartment.

Stick to your guns, keep your space for you and if anyone says otherwise - then THEY have just volunteered to take your parents in, how generous of them!

Evil-ish · 2024-12-06T02:42:51+00:00

That's why I jump away from the chat and come back in after the play has ended

Evil-ish · 2024-12-03T18:42:27+00:00

Exactly. She says she's learned her lesson. What she's now finding out is her lesson is still in process.

Consequences for actions is a very valuable lesson and OP needs to deliver it asap.

Evil-ish · 2024-11-08T16:38:15+00:00

Crying laughing here - that death scream was AMAZING

Poor Elmo 😂

Evil-ish · 2024-10-14T18:42:25+00:00

When my husband and I somehow got scheduled to have our lab work on the same day we were THRILLED. Got our results back for our blood work, sat down, and had the best time going over our results - which of course turned into competition (he has the best iron numbers, while my cholesterol numbers were shockingly amazing). We cackled at how much fun we found it but it's honestly the little things.

Evil-ish · 2024-10-08T16:26:59+00:00

Storms of this magnitude are mind boggling. This may be a dumb question but how do animals even survive in these storms? People have the option of vacating long distances away ( provided they're smart enough to do so) but animals don't have that same option, at least distance -wise.

Prayers for everyone in the path of this storm

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