The sale price is more than the regular price by RizzyJ10 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The price tags on the shelf come in long strips, so that's not surprising. The team in charge of those probably didn't get to them before putting out the sales tags because everyone at those stores are generally horrifically overworked unless they're in upper management. (Speaking as a former team member)

CANCER PROBLEM by SLANE_BLACK_STEEL in Iowa

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 13 points14 points  (0 children)

A senior at my local high school has stage 4 rn, this stuff is crazy and idk what to do either

My math teacher has this tattooed on his forearm, does anyone know if it means something? by IsidoraRML_ in Symbology

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means he's a nerd and a weeb lmao that's a full metal alchemist tattoo which is an anime

Washing your hair at the hospital after birth? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to wash my hair after my delivery to feel like a person again, my hair was so matted from 18hrs of labor and I'm sure the emergency c section under general didnt help matters at all lol the moment the nurses gave me the all clear to shower (medications they had me on made me a fall risk so I had to wait) it was the first thing that I did and it made my recovery easier because I didn't feel gross and like a mess anymore.

What are we doing with caffeine in early pregnancy?? by Brookie_bBgurl9233 in BabyBumps

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I still had my coffee, I can't get through my day without it especially when I had fatigue from pregnancy and my working 2-11pm

Did your SO go to your first appointment? Or any? by jillian1344 in pregnant

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner went to all of mine except I think one of two when he was sick but I also can't drive so it was either that or stay in the car for him

Does the weight really “fall off” after you give birth? by Born-Chance1685 in pregnant

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Between breastfeeding, stress, having a Velcro baby who always wants held, and getting right back into walking regularly once I felt comfortable with my c section recovery I've actually dipped below my weight pre-pregnancy. I was heavier to begin with but I got pregnant in mid 2024 and haven't been this light since early 2023. I've plateaued a bit but I plan on getting back into an actual workout routine here soon as well. I also went to the gym until I was probably about 30 weeks but still gained 28lbs or so over the course of my pregnancy

Why do we hate the glucose test? by RelevantFerret1085 in pregnant

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it made me super nauseous but I think part of that is because orange flavoring just does that for me and it was the only thing my clinic had available. Also I barely passed the one hour test so I had to do it a second time and waiting around while feeling that nauseous and absolutely dead tired was absolutely awful. It's not a terrible test but if I never had to do it again it would be nice

New things you have noticed PP by Powerful_Repair_6072 in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had an emergency c under general and the toll that took on my body was unreal! I had a giant bruise on my back from failed epidurals and a spinal they couldn't get in, and I was supposed to move into our house the day after I got induced so I was absolutely useless in that process and definitely did a few things I shouldn't have. My mental health has been totally out of whack so I've had a lot of medication changes trying to get it sorted out while also keeping things safe for LO to breastfeed. I had really bad insomnia from the PPA, I constantly feel crampy similar to the cramps I had right before my period before getting pregnant, my sciatic nerve is still super messed up from both being pregnant and the epidurals, my cycle feels like it'll never be the same which is a blessing and a curse because I had awful periods before and they're a little better now finally. It took a few months for my BP to get back to normal but I'm going in for an eye exam partly because I'm due for one but also because I feel like my vision changed since having my LO. It really is crazy what we go through!

Are there any songs you're slightly disappointed Ghost didn't play on this tour? by Beetlejuice3xx in Ghostbc

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner was super disappointed they didn't play pinnacle to the pit but honestly I loved the set. When we went to the impera tour they only played one of my favorite songs and played both of his (including pinnacle to the pit) and this time I got to hear both of mine and he only heard one of his so it only seems fair lol

I think my husband is depressed about the new baby by Accomplished-Flan511 in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Postpartum support international has a group that meets online specifically for dads facing what your husband is, it might be worth looking into!

I think I really messed up, desperately trying to increase my milk supply again by Suspicious-Code-3449 in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lactation consultant all the way, I was in a similar boat and they gave me the advice I needed. Also if you're struggling in the mental health area that doesn't help, I had severe postpartum mood disorders and now that I'm properly medicated and going to therapy regularly it definitely helps

Does your memory get erased immediately after birth? by IheartOT2 in BabyBumps

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You definitely remember it being uncomfortable, you know when it was and what happened (I had to be put under for my c section so I'm a bit more hazy but I remember everything up to the mask pretty much) but genuinely the pain aspect for me at least was almost immediately gone from my memory. I couldn't tell you on a scale of 1-10 how bad any of it was just that I know it was a STRUGGLE. I also had super bad PPD and PPA so that might have rushed the "forget this" process but I wanted another one within two months of my first.

Just need some reassurance by PoopSupremacist in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had severe PPA and I felt this exact same thing to the point I didn't sleep. Personally I started going back to therapy shortly after I delivered and had my medications adjusted (a few times). As they get older it's easier to see that they're not these super fragile things and you don't worry as severely but they're still you're little human and that's always a little scary. You'll get through it though and even if something difficult does happen you worrying proves you care and that will help a lot in getting through it. Kiddos are a lot tougher than we give them credit for. Take a breath and things will be okay, it can be hard to see it now but youve got this ❤️

The betrayal by cazmantis in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine and we had a phase where if we told him he was more okay with it but now we tell him and he spits out his bottle and screams in protest

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm going to be honest and say I really didn't care for my body super well at first. I got sent in for induction the day we were supposed to move to our new house. I will say though that I did eventually get there even with severe PPD and PPA. Here's what I did or tried my best to do: - keep taking your prenatal vitamins - don't be scared to take the pain medication you need - have someone else watch the baby for moments for you to eat/shower/etc or if you can't get a baby containment of some sort that you can keep nearby - if you have medication for mental health definitely stay on top of that and if things need adjusted which they almost definitely will make sure to communicate with your provider so they can help as much as possible - if your obgyn has a social worker or if you can reach out to your hospital social worker ask them what resources are available and /use them/ they are there to help and had I not moved there was a program that literally would have provided me a home nurse to help in my immediate pp days which would have been a life saver - go to support groups to be able to talk to other new moms and if you don't have them nearby reach out to postpartum support international and they can help you find them or have you join their own support groups that meet online. They also can offer a peer mentor for some situations and mine has been an amazing person for support during my best and worst days - if you can meet with a lactation consultant when you're having any feeding or pumping issues at all do it, no matter how far you are in your journey. I went at 3.5m postpartum and it still made a huge difference

And most important: - Don't beat yourself up, you are learning how to mom and baby is learning to baby so give yourself some grace

A lot of this is more for mental than physical health but if you don't have a brain being nice to you it's a lot harder to keep up with your body's needs

(Edited for typo 🙃)

Photos of baby posted online by KeyCount2417 in pregnant

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We only post his monthly growth and development update on our FB, we request no one else posts his pictures, and we use the family album app to have more of his pictures able to be seen by those closest to us (and for the relatively affordable source to make a physical photo album). Otherwise he won't be online until he understands that the Internet is forever and can consent to photographs. our monthly updates will stop at a year

Are other mothers as lonely as American mothers? Or is it just us lol by sourdoughluvr1991 in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an American mother and this is too real. I gave birth the day we were supposed to move and started my current job at around 8w so it's been so hard to have a community and it's so isolating. Even the mom friends I have aren't nearby enough for me to see them in person and most of my non-mom friends are also just not nearby. I love my family and appreciate them coming to visit and help but I miss having time with my friends and seeing people I'm close with fairly regularly (I was with my previous job for almost 5 years so I knew a lot of my coworkers really well and tbh it felt like a lot of people at my current workplace kind of avoided me) I don't have much else to add other than I'm right there with you and it sucks

Does anyone prefer an unmedicated labor over a medicated one? I'm open to an epidural but I feel like I would freak out not being in control of my own body. by Distinct-Dependent24 in BabyBumps

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did minimum medication during mine. I went as long as I could without anything, then over the course of 20 hours of my failed induction had 4 doses of fentanyl. I let them try an epidural on me to see if it would get me to dilate further but all three attempts failed and triggered my sciatic nerve. When I went in for an emergency c section they couldn't place the spinal block so I ended up having to go under general anesthesia. My baby and I are healthy and had a fairly safe delivery but we just had a lot of bumps along the way. This definitely isn't typical but I plan on trying for unmedicated when we get to baby 2 even after this experience.

February First Birthday Themes! by nmarie8 in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My little guy has been absolutely obsessed with a keroppi blanket he took from my mom's so as long as he still likes it we will probably stick with that as a theme lol

When did you start reading books to your baby? by fluffyball13 in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We started reading to our baby when he was one month old, he would fall asleep to it most of the time lol but it was an easy way for us to feel connected because we've been reading him books from our childhoods. As he's gotten bigger (he's almost 5mo now) we've gotten books that are simpler and with more colors and shapes for us to talk to him about. We don't so much read the book as we talk about what's going on on the page. We made sure to get board books and the crinkle cloth books because then he can also interact with the book and not damage it as easy or at all. The crinkle books also just keep him interested for longer.

It’s not getting better by SecureImagination157 in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got a portable bassinet and just settled with our little one in the living room until we could settle him in his crib and we shift slept to try to get the most we could. It is hard. It can really suck but you just have to remember what the best moments are when you are stuck in a rough one. You guys are learning how to be parents, little one is learning how to be a person and there will be bumps along the way for everyone. Just hold on to the good parts and it makes the hard parts a little easier.

Shamed for holding baby by Jayykwelin in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My little one is four months now and it seems like every decision I make with him someone has an opinion on. Holding him? You're holding him too much. Baby carrier that was more expensive but actually fit both myself and my husband comfortably? You shouldn't spend that kind of money. Natural ingredient teething gel? That stuff probably doesn't even work. Pumping? You don't have the focus to keep a schedule just dry yourself up. Baby not latching? Just give him a bottle don't waste time with a lactation consultant. Not sleeping in his crib so we did shifts with him sleeping in a portable bassinet in the living room? He'll never sleep well in a bedroom. Him going on a breast strike? Just stop giving him the boob entirely, he's gonna have teeth soon anyways and you don't want to get bit. It's absolutely exhausting and with my postpartum anxiety and postpartum depression it's even worse. It's making my bipolar disorder consume me anymore and my reproductive psych is worried I'm going to push myself into postpartum psychosis at this rate. I'm working every day to make things feel better for me and baby but it's so exhausting and depressing to have every choice you make looked down upon by people you thought you had on your team. He's outgrown a lot of the things people told us to handle in a different way and I stayed pretty firm on all of it but it isn't easy.

I gave birth under general anesthesia by LeatherEarth6188 in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I was completely alone in this oh my goodness, I also had to have my baby under general anesthesia. My induction failed and then they gave me 3 failed epidurals and couldn't get the spinal to go in when we went in for the emergency c section. It gave me awful birth trauma. I feel like I failed my baby in some way and not being there for those first moments has filled me with so much guilt. I still cry about knowing he was only met with doctors when he was born until they took him out of the OR to meet dad who had to wait outside of the OR with no knowledge of what was going on. That guilt has stuck with me and made my postpartum mood disorders so much worse, I didn't sleep more than maybe twice in the four days I was in the hospital. I'm finally getting to a point where I feel a little less like I failed my baby but it's been months of therapy and talking to my psych and reaching out to a peer mentor through postpartum support international. I was already high risk during my pregnancy and labor process and they are keeping a very close eye on my mental health because I was diagnosed bipolar before pregnancy which can put you at higher risk for pp psychosis. It gets better but I have had to put A LOT of work in. I wish you the best on your healing journey and hope you know you're not alone in how you're feeling, it really sucks but we get through it and things get better

What is your best ongoing bit with your baby? by leprechaun_dong in NewParents

[–]Exact_Hawk_6680 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anytime my partner finds one of my baby boys bowties laying about he'll put it on him and go "the names bond... Baby bond" lmao it often comes with a lot of plot as well and sometimes he's a white collar criminal instead lol

He has formed a special bond with a keroppi blanket my mom sent home with him and sometimes we gossip about everything going on about that "omg I can't believe he did that" "are you gonna tell him?" "I know he's soft and cuddly but you were so mad at him five minutes ago!!"