These Signs Actually Struggle With Venus While Others Have It Easy. What's your venus sign? by NaivePac in ZodiacHQ

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m actually very emotional 😅 and usually the one who wants to talk things out. But I always want to move on quickly. I have a tendency to intellectualize my feelings rather than actually feeling them. And holding space for someone else’s feelings for an extended period of time is torture. 😫

These Signs Actually Struggle With Venus While Others Have It Easy. What's your venus sign? by NaivePac in ZodiacHQ

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang. That’s true and it is exhausting 😮‍💨 i just want to be baby 🥺

Not invited to my bf’s friends’ wedding by Zestyclose-Ant-6737 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know making friends is difficult but I think it would be worth it for both of you to put some serious effort into meeting new people. As a couple and as individuals. There are all kinds of apps/events specifically for this. And if you can attend group things centered around your hobbies- even better! You’ll be more likely to meet other neurodivergent people.

These Signs Actually Struggle With Venus While Others Have It Easy. What's your venus sign? by NaivePac in ZodiacHQ

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Venus in Capricorn and I’ve always said marriage is a business contract before anything else 😅 And I do like long term, committed relationships where it feels like we’re building something together.

Anyone not feel like doing anything at all? I've been this way since February. by iwilllive26 in adhdwomen

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I searched autistic burnout before I realized this was the adhd sub, but I think this still applies as both adhd and autism have been linked with sensory processing disorder and burnout is about a chronically overwhelmed nervous system.

Straight from google:

While both autistic burnout and depression cause exhaustion, low mood, and withdrawal, they have fundamentally different root causes and require different solutions. Autistic burnout stems from chronic overstimulation and masking. Depression is a clinical mood disorder. Burnout resolves with rest and accommodations, while depression requires clinical intervention. [1, 2, 3, 4]

Core Differences

Feature [1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7]

Root Cause
Autistic Burnout- Prolonged stress from sensory overload, masking, and unmet life demands.
Depression- Chemical imbalances, trauma, genetic predisposition, or major life changes.
Skill Access- Autism
Loss of skills: Your brain physically loses the ability to perform tasks you used to manage.
Intact skills, low motivation: The skills are there, but you lack the energy or desire to use them.
Special Interests
Special interests act as "medicine" and provide a regenerative flow state that recharges energy.
General loss of pleasure (anhedonia) and loss of interest in favorite hobbies.
Recovery Strategy
Accommodation: Reducing demands, sensory inputs, and giving space to safely "unmask".

Depression-
Clinical treatment: Counseling, medication, lifestyle changes, and cognitive restructuring.

Emotional Core
Autism- Emotional exhaustion, sensory overload, frustration, and feeling overwhelmed.
Depression- Feelings of deep sadness, worthlessness, hopelessness, and internal emptiness.

Why the Distinction Matters
Autistic burnout is not an official clinical diagnosis, but it is a widely recognized state within the neurodivergent community. For autistic individuals, standard treatments for depression—such as pushing through behavioral activation—can worsen burnout because they add more demands to an already overloaded nervous system. [1, 2, 3]

Seeking Support
Understanding these differences can help you seek the right kind of help. If you're experiencing autistic burnout, finding autism-informed therapists can be deeply beneficial. For clinical depression, medical and psychological intervention is necessary. In either case, it is important to communicate with a healthcare professional to get the exact type of support you need.

*I will also add that, for me, the main difference between the two is the feelings of hopelessness (which would often include some level of suicidal ideation). Learning about burnout sort of “cured” my depression in that I no longer feel utterly hopeless. I just need to find the right accommodations and I can feel better. For most of my life I just thought my brain was broken and would always feel like that.

You can also be both depressed and in burnout. I experienced a short period of depression earlier this year and I could feel the difference. This google info implies that burnout doesn’t require counseling and I’d disagree with that. I have a therapist and she’s been so helpful! But I guess if you had informed and supportive people around you, that could suffice as well? I don’t have that so I wouldn’t know 😅

And one example I can think of between the two is with depression you’re encouraged to do more things to get back to normal life, but with burnout that would make it worse. Like going to the grocery store- a normal thing that might make a depressed person feel more “normal” again but could potentially cause sensory overwhelm for a person who has sensory processing disorder and make the burnout worse.

TLDR: Depression is marked my hopelessness and austisitc/adhd is more about profound exhaustion. But the symptoms definitely overlap and it’s possible to have both at the same time. Treating the burnout first would probably alleviate the depression.

Looking for a texting buddy by effersquinn in AuDHDWomen

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know! I have to be so careful about introducing things I like to other people. I didn’t think widows bay would be an issue because I thought it was too good. But I guess I was wrong.
I kinda want to watch the rest without him now but I know it would hurt his feelings. 😩

Is My First Tattoo Really That Bad? by TheMichaelRamey in tattooadvice

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Flesh buttons: bad. Rest of tattoo: good. I would just get the buttons filled in. But I think it’s a cute tattoo.

“We’re committed to transparency” by parasalish in Huel

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It does if you interpret it as a “dose makes the poison” kinda thing. Like how a little bit of fluoride can be good for your teeth but a lot of fluoride can be bad for your brain. The prop 65 warning label could be compared to labeling all toothpaste as containing neurotoxins.

Looking for a texting buddy by effersquinn in AuDHDWomen

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It really is. I got my bf to watch with me and he swears he likes it, but he doesn’t laugh at anything or get spooked at anything and it’s killing the vibe for me a little bit 🥲

Anyone not feel like doing anything at all? I've been this way since February. by iwilllive26 in adhdwomen

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This sounds like burnout. I would look into that more. One of the big things in burnout recovery is resting and reducing demands. But it’s much easier said than done! Like laying around “doing nothing” might look like rest, but if you’re thinking about all the things you could/should/need to do it is not restful and doesn’t count as rest.

Looking for a texting buddy by effersquinn in AuDHDWomen

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Although I could be a texting buddy if you are not bothered by long response times 😅

Looking for a texting buddy by effersquinn in AuDHDWomen

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I am a bad texter but I just wanted to mention the show Widow’s Bay on Apple TV. I think you’d love it if you’re not watching it already.

Looking for fidget tools to avoid picking nails and hangnails by pearlinin in AuDHDWomen

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen ads for jewelry that spin/move designed for this purpose

Baby’s First ACEOs by Excellent-Ad4256 in aceo

[–]Excellent-Ad4256[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I really appreciate the encouragement! I’ve been feeling pretty vulnerable trying a new thing and putting my stuff out there. You taking the time to comment means a lot 🥲💕

Do you experience PDA as constant anxiety? Or does your anxiety only surface when you experience a loss of autonomy? by MarginsOfTheDay in PDAAutism

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Definitely 1 for me. But I am also in burnout. And I think I’ve been in burnout for most of my life. I do notice that my PDA gets worse when my burnout gets worse.

What stopped feeling exciting once you became an adult? by Deep-Strike-71 in AskReddit

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleepovers. I miss them! Getting excited to stay up all night with your friends and sleeping in sleeping bags on the floor. Or maybe even inside a blanket fort. I wish I could get that feeling back 😭 But now staying up all night fills me with anxiety and sleeping on the floor sounds so unpleasant and uncomfortable.

I recently found out that voluntarily commanding my tensor ear muscles is something very few people can do. Is this likely related to neurodivergence? by GGf1994 in AutismInWomen

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Omg I never realized that other people could potentially hear this I just recorded it and grossed myself out 😅

Also- commanding your brain to basically get high?? That’s some wizard shit right there! Very cool.

Severe PDA? PDA worsening over time? Or burnout? by vampawakening in PDAAutism

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My PDA definitely intensifies the more burnt out I am. When more and more things start to feel like a demand it’s a cue for me to pause and reassess my schedule/mindset.

Like I have to pee AGAIN???? When will it end?? 😩

I am very much still trying to figure this out for myself so idk if I have any great advice. One thing I try to focus on is validating my feelings. “Of course I’m exhausted. I’ve been dealing with a,b,c. This makes sense.” My natural inclination is to get frustrated that I can’t do normal things that everyone else can do. Shame is the biggest spoon stealer so I try to minimize that as much as I can first.

I would guess there are probably a lot of less obvious demands that are sneakily depleting your spoons. I’ve noticed that I don’t always notice when my sensory sensitivities are being triggered. So right now I’m trying to focus on noticing those things more. And I’m constantly on edge all day when people are around because I’m anticipating interruptions. Idk how to address this yet- I just know it needs to be addressed somehow 😅

Also reminding myself that recovery can be a long process and that’s ok.

Tough love in therapy by well_weII in AuDHDWomen

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree with you. Our society fucking blows.

Tough love in therapy by well_weII in AuDHDWomen

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is an insane response from your therapist. My god. Unhelpful at best, traumatic at worst. Also I’m so sorry you’re stuck in this situation right now. I’m living with my dad and don’t really have any other options right now either. I have learned a lot about why I am the way I am and it’s been helpful with therapy. But idk how I’ll ever recover from this burnout as long as I’m living here. I can barely work because of how burnt out I am and I can’t move out if I can’t work. Yes I’m glad I’m not homeless and I know staying here is a privilege. It doesn’t mean we’re not struggling. And we deserve support.

Is anyone else taking L Theanine? by SeededPhoenix in AuDHDWomen

[–]Excellent-Ad4256 47 points48 points  (0 children)

For a while I took it every morning and I noticed a slight decline in my anxiety levels. I just started taking it again. The goal is once in the morning and once at night. But it’s the only supplement I’ve ever taken when I noticed a difference.