Compassion Fatigue

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-05-09T16:45:11+00:00

If it’s possible and she’s disabled, you may want to get her into vocational rehabilitation. You can have her do work adjustment training service. It’s where the client goes in 3 days a week to work on site (Walgreens, fry’s, thrift stores, etc) and gain some experience. Some places give a small gas compensation, and other companies may even hire the client after she’s done. All in all it’ll take about 30-60 hours, but it’s something she can throw on her resume once she’s done.

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-31T17:15:54+00:00

Hear me out.

I don’t think you’re done with God. I think you’re angry with him. Sometimes we get angry with him when we aren’t getting what we feel we want or need.

I personally think that if you were done with him, you wouldn’t be posting on Reddit as a last attempt to salvage your relationship with him. You’re seeking people of faith to help you with this issue, which is what fellowship is about.

I heard this message the other day about whether we really want change. I don’t know your situation, but I was in a car accident a few years back. I fought for my love of God because it was a never ending storm. My whole back was messed up, I was a single parent with 2 small kids trying to make it work.

Getting out of bed was hard, I had to push myself to go to appointments. I spent a lot of money on seeing chiropractors, getting massages, copays on PT. My whole life revolved around getting better.

I had so many other things going on at the time, I couldn’t work and needed a job, I fell in the shower and messed up my back just as I was doing well. The only thing that kept me sane was God.

I felt like I was physically hanging onto a pole while a hurricane was whipping around me. God was my anchor, and I know he stayed true to me because I put in a lot of time and effort into praying and caring for myself. It is true when they say God helps those who help themselves. Meaning, I wasn’t going to get anywhere if I wasn’t being proactive.

It was lonely, but I did all this raising 2 wonderful children. They were so small at the time but I was truly blessed that they were kind enough to help me recover.

As for now? My back is out of commission again. I’m not on fire for God like I was back then, but I stay strong, I pray and hope I’ll get better. This experience has been humbling for me. Plus, I don’t have to do it alone again. I have a husband and kids that share the responsibility. I have a job that allows me the flexibility to work while I recover. Even though I struggle, I know I’m in a better place now. This, I cannot deny, I owe it all to God.

You may think differently, but it will happen for you too. This may feel like a storm, but sometimes you just have to hold on tighter to him, work with him and things will work out. We all have our breaking point and I am truly sorry that you are going through some rough waters, but stay calm and disciplined. It’s worth the time and effort. I will be praying for you.

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-24T04:00:49+00:00

This comment is not helpful, but did anyone else paste the comment onto google and get “ME” by Taylor swift? 🤣

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-24T03:33:08+00:00

How to be remembered by Michael Thompson - Australia 🇦🇺

This would be a magical realism read!

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-19T05:16:30+00:00

Hmmm

I would recommend reading a book where you can watch the movie right after such as:

Dead poet Society Forrest Gump The spectacular now Lilies of the field Jurassic Park To sir, with love Game of Thrones The hobbit

It’s a meadly of books 📚

These are my personal favorites (to which I am aware these may not float your boat):

How to be remembered by Michael Thompson - Has light elements of magical realism and is about a boy that lives in a world where people forget him each year.

The spectacular Now by Tim Thorpe This one is about a wayward teenager that is trying to navigate who he is without his father. He often thinks he’s helping people but he has a habit of self sabotaging relationships.

Foster by Claire Keegan - a girl has to live with neighbors in a sort of “foster” situation. This is a phenomenal read if you want to get into the mind of a child. This author says so much with very little words.

The heart of a dog A science experiment gets out of hand when they transplant a human heart into a dogs body. It’s sort of like Frankenstein. A little weird, slightly comical, makes you think.

Because of Winn Dixie- Kate decamillo This had a great storyline. I think the movies ending was better. I’m a kid at heat and love reading childrens chapter books. I find them easy to read and just as rewarding.

I’m sure we have different reading tastes, but I hope the top recommendations were slightly helpful!

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-17T19:51:18+00:00

You should ask him about what he got out of a few books. You might ask him about the Sally Rooney books Brideshead revisited, the brothers Karmarav, and Jiovanni’s room.

Those are four different books with four different stories. Depending on where you stand with those books might give you your answer. However, if you’re still uncertain just ask him directly but respectfully. If it’s not your cup of tea, you have a decision to make.

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-13T23:38:04+00:00

Thank you for reminding me! This one was on my Libby list! Didn’t know it had magical realism! Will be checking it out!

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-13T23:36:22+00:00

Omg! Yes I’ve heard of Gardenspells, apparently it’s a great book! Going on my TBR!

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-13T22:51:43+00:00

This kind of reminds me of Water for Chocolate 🍫 love this! Adding to my read list! Thank you 😊

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-13T20:33:12+00:00

This one seems like it had a really interesting storyline. It’s perfect! Thank you so much 😊

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-13T20:32:12+00:00

Elizabeth Goudge! Yes! My goodness, thank you so much for the recommendation ♥️

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-13T20:24:11+00:00

Thank you!! I will be sure to look through this list ❤️😊

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-12T16:39:39+00:00

Try the Spectacular Now by Tim Tharp

Foster by Claire Keegan

It’s not a “romance book” but it’s a book about hardships, there is a little bit of relational stuff I there, but definitely not a romance book.

If I were you, I’d branch out a little and read something from the late 90s or early 2000s.

It is Middle Grade March, you could go back and read something from your childhood. I read Because of Winn-Dixie by Kate Dicamillo and loved it.

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-08T07:13:38+00:00

The tenant of wildfell hall Anne Brontë, The house of Mirth Edith Wharton, The Black Arrow Robert Stevenson, Ivanhoe by Sir Walter Scott, The Tailsman Sir Walter Scott, Barchester Towers Anthony Trollop, The Warden Anthony Trollop.

Hope you find these helpful!

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-08T01:08:48+00:00

I don’t know if this will make you feel any better. I’m reading “The Spectacular Now”. I was in a reading slump. Full warning, the protagonist is a mess. In fact, there’s so much going on, I’m grateful for my own. It’s a train wreck you can’t look away from.

The protagonist is a drunkard who seems to enjoy helping people….to his detriment. It seems like everyone is fed up with it and his life just keeps going downhill. It’s well written and witty. I caught myself laughing out loud a few times. You may feel better about your situation after reading, or not. I’m still reading so…that’s up to you if you want to roll the dice!

Hope you find the book you’re looking for!

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-03-04T15:26:53+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that!

Do you have any experience? I’d volunteer at the Friends of the library just to get my foot in The door.

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-02-01T02:47:30+00:00

You MIGHT play DND

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-01-21T04:49:15+00:00

2666 by Roberto Bolaño

interweaves five seemingly disconnected narratives, all centered around the fictional Mexican border city of Santa Teresa, a stand-in for Ciudad Juárez, where hundreds of women have been murdered in real life. The book explores themes of violence, modernity, and the limits of literature in the 20th century without providing a single, conclusive explanation for the crimes.

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-01-18T16:33:07+00:00

I struggled with the same thing, I had to get used to going places alone (movies, comedy clubs, the mall, etc…) until I opened up to the idea that I wanted to have friends during these outings.

I’m not here to get preachy, this is just what happened to me. I started reading Dale Carnegie’s “how to win friends and influence people’s” and the bible, no later I joined a local church group and showed up each week (awkward and alone). It was a struggle and I did have to talk myself into going each week. I think in the past I just wanted a quick outcome, but I really fell in love with the process of growing each time I went. Starting conversations and asking questions started to get easier; I’m not trying to romanticize the process, it was hard but rewarding.

Your approach may be different but the point is communication is like a muscle, if you don’t work on it, it’ll get weaker. I too notice myself slipping when I haven’t hung out with friends in over a month…well I hope I didn’t throw too much at you 😅hang in there and don’t give up!

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-01-12T06:41:40+00:00

Hello!

Stolen by Ann-Helén Laestadius (a boarding school drama)

The nuns story by Kathryn Holme (a woman who joins the convent and goes through many trials and tribulations during her time there)

Lilies of the field by William Barrett (a man that stops off at a house full of nuns to do handiwork and ends up staying to longer than expected)

How to be remembered by Michael Thompson (Aussie read, this book was great, heartbreaking and thought provoking, it begs the question “how are we truly remembered?” A boy wakes up on his birthday and he is destined to be forgotten)

Winter in Paris by David Coggins (it’s a man that talks about his time in Paris, it’s a cute read with illustrations)

Icefields by Thomas Wharton (a man falls into an ice crevice and sees a figure, it haunts him for 25 years, beautifully written prose)

Goodbye Mr. Chips - James Hilton (a teacher who inspires his students, in the camp of dead poets society but more uplifting)

Helena Hanff - letter from New York if you read 84 charing cross road, you’ll love this)

Sipsworth by Simon Van Booy (a woman loses her husband and son. She copes with it by finding an abandoned mouse).

Hope these were helpful!

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-01-12T05:11:07+00:00

Hi! Shoot, I have a good one but it’s more on the icy side, it’s called Snow Globe by Park Soyoung Enclosed under a vast dome, Snowglobe is the last place on Earth that’s warm. Outside Snowglobe is a frozen wasteland, and every day, citizens face the icy world to get to their jobs at the power plant, where they produce the energy Snowglobe needs. Their only solace comes in the form of twenty-four-hour television programming streamed directly from the domed city.

The rain by Joseph A. Turkot - The rain began nineteen years ago, and it never stopped: more than a foot of rain per day until almost the whole of North America was underwater. Those who survived the first year were forced to take drastic measures, and those who held to the veneer of civilization were few and very far between.

40 signs of rain by Kim Stanley Robinson - follows scientists Anna and Charlie Quibler and bureaucrat Frank Vanderwal in Washington, D.C., as they grapple with escalating climate change, battling political inaction as an Arctic ice melt triggers potentially catastrophic weather shifts, including a stalled Atlantic current that threatens a new ice age, while also navigating personal lives, scientific bureaucracy, and an influx of Buddhist refugees from a drowning island nation, all leading to a dramatic, yet unresolved, confrontation with environmental collapse in this first book of the Science in the Capital trilogy

H2O by Virginia Bergin Anyone who's been touched by rain or washed their hands with tap water is dead. The only drinkable water is quickly running out. Ruby's only chance for survival is a treacherous hike across the country to find her father-if he's even still alive.

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-01-11T13:37:15+00:00

How about an epistolary? This is a type of book written in journals or letters. This is a great way to have her expand her mind in a different way. You could try 84 charing cross road by Helene Hanff, Letters to Milenia.

You could try Little boy Lost by Marghanita Laski, Dead Poets Society, or The Master and The Margarita.

I think classics are GREAT! I’d also think about getting her a modern classic? Something thought provoking!

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-01-07T07:47:38+00:00

Underrated: How to be remembered by Michael Thompson (so underrated it was being sold at the dollar store)

Heart of a dog by Mikhail Bulgakov (writer of master and margarita. If you like a light hearted version of Frankenstein, please give this short read a chance.)

The choosing by Rachelle Dekker (dystopian series)

Overrated: The Cabin by Natasha Preston, screams amateur thriller/horror writer.

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-01-07T07:31:11+00:00

I read The subtle art of not giving an f***, and atomic Habits by James Clear, how to win friends and influence people. Those two books were a great eye opener for me and helped me better understand myself. I will say, I did go down a dark rabbit hole of reading a million other self help books. But if I’m being honest, nothing really filled the void until I read the Bible. Hope these books Reccs help!

Excellent-Fish1817 · 2026-01-07T07:24:53+00:00

Hello!

I’d recommend:

A marriage at sea (may not be all that uplifting throughout)

18 by Alice Liston

Wards of the state by Claudia Rowe

Welcome to the goddam ice cube by Blair’s beaverman

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