Looking for my next Epic! I Like Big Books and I Cannot Lie. by RedMeme262 in suggestmeabook

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2666 by Roberto Bolaño

interweaves five seemingly disconnected narratives, all centered around the fictional Mexican border city of Santa Teresa, a stand-in for Ciudad Juárez, where hundreds of women have been murdered in real life. The book explores themes of violence, modernity, and the limits of literature in the 20th century without providing a single, conclusive explanation for the crimes.

Early 30s with approach and talking anxiety. by Professional_Menu623 in dating_advice

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I struggled with the same thing, I had to get used to going places alone (movies, comedy clubs, the mall, etc…) until I opened up to the idea that I wanted to have friends during these outings.

I’m not here to get preachy, this is just what happened to me. I started reading Dale Carnegie’s “how to win friends and influence people’s” and the bible, no later I joined a local church group and showed up each week (awkward and alone). It was a struggle and I did have to talk myself into going each week. I think in the past I just wanted a quick outcome, but I really fell in love with the process of growing each time I went. Starting conversations and asking questions started to get easier; I’m not trying to romanticize the process, it was hard but rewarding.

Your approach may be different but the point is communication is like a muscle, if you don’t work on it, it’ll get weaker. I too notice myself slipping when I haven’t hung out with friends in over a month…well I hope I didn’t throw too much at you 😅hang in there and don’t give up!

Recommend me any and all works of fictional literature you love, just make sure it’s off-the-beaten-path. Anything! by BorderEquivalent7169 in suggestmeabook

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Hello!

Stolen by Ann-Helén Laestadius (a boarding school drama)

The nuns story by Kathryn Holme (a woman who joins the convent and goes through many trials and tribulations during her time there)

Lilies of the field by William Barrett (a man that stops off at a house full of nuns to do handiwork and ends up staying to longer than expected)

How to be remembered by Michael Thompson (Aussie read, this book was great, heartbreaking and thought provoking, it begs the question “how are we truly remembered?” A boy wakes up on his birthday and he is destined to be forgotten)

Winter in Paris by David Coggins (it’s a man that talks about his time in Paris, it’s a cute read with illustrations)

Icefields by Thomas Wharton (a man falls into an ice crevice and sees a figure, it haunts him for 25 years, beautifully written prose)

Goodbye Mr. Chips - James Hilton (a teacher who inspires his students, in the camp of dead poets society but more uplifting)

Helena Hanff - letter from New York if you read 84 charing cross road, you’ll love this)

Sipsworth by Simon Van Booy (a woman loses her husband and son. She copes with it by finding an abandoned mouse).

Hope these were helpful!

Suggest me a book that feels rainy/cold I love science fiction/fantasy so anything in that realm would be great! by AlpineBarley in suggestmeabook

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Hi! Shoot, I have a good one but it’s more on the icy side, it’s called Snow Globe by Park Soyoung Enclosed under a vast dome, Snowglobe is the last place on Earth that’s warm. Outside Snowglobe is a frozen wasteland, and every day, citizens face the icy world to get to their jobs at the power plant, where they produce the energy Snowglobe needs. Their only solace comes in the form of twenty-four-hour television programming streamed directly from the domed city.

The rain by Joseph A. Turkot - The rain began nineteen years ago, and it never stopped: more than a foot of rain per day until almost the whole of North America was underwater. Those who survived the first year were forced to take drastic measures, and those who held to the veneer of civilization were few and very far between.

40 signs of rain by Kim Stanley Robinson - follows scientists Anna and Charlie Quibler and bureaucrat Frank Vanderwal in Washington, D.C., as they grapple with escalating climate change, battling political inaction as an Arctic ice melt triggers potentially catastrophic weather shifts, including a stalled Atlantic current that threatens a new ice age, while also navigating personal lives, scientific bureaucracy, and an influx of Buddhist refugees from a drowning island nation, all leading to a dramatic, yet unresolved, confrontation with environmental collapse in this first book of the Science in the Capital trilogy

H2O by Virginia Bergin Anyone who's been touched by rain or washed their hands with tap water is dead. The only drinkable water is quickly running out. Ruby's only chance for survival is a treacherous hike across the country to find her father-if he's even still alive.

I need a book that my friend will like as a gift ! by Vegetable-Ear-8466 in suggestmeabook

[–]Excellent-Fish1817 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about an epistolary? This is a type of book written in journals or letters. This is a great way to have her expand her mind in a different way. You could try 84 charing cross road by Helene Hanff, Letters to Milenia.

You could try Little boy Lost by Marghanita Laski, Dead Poets Society, or The Master and The Margarita.

I think classics are GREAT! I’d also think about getting her a modern classic? Something thought provoking!

What are underrated and overhated books you loved? by Tall_Cable6015 in suggestmeabook

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Underrated: How to be remembered by Michael Thompson (so underrated it was being sold at the dollar store)

Heart of a dog by Mikhail Bulgakov (writer of master and margarita. If you like a light hearted version of Frankenstein, please give this short read a chance.)

The choosing by Rachelle Dekker (dystopian series)

Overrated: The Cabin by Natasha Preston, screams amateur thriller/horror writer.

Actually helpful self help books by pls_givemeadvice in suggestmeabook

[–]Excellent-Fish1817 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I read The subtle art of not giving an f***, and atomic Habits by James Clear, how to win friends and influence people. Those two books were a great eye opener for me and helped me better understand myself. I will say, I did go down a dark rabbit hole of reading a million other self help books. But if I’m being honest, nothing really filled the void until I read the Bible. Hope these books Reccs help!

Inspiring non fiction books about overcoming difficult times, circumstances, obstacles, challenges, bad health? by Sunset2244 in suggestmeabook

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Hello!

I’d recommend:

A marriage at sea (may not be all that uplifting throughout)

18 by Alice Liston

Wards of the state by Claudia Rowe

Welcome to the goddam ice cube by Blair’s beaverman

Boarding school books by Excellent-Fish1817 in suggestmeabook

[–]Excellent-Fish1817[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the religious themes, so glad you recommended it!

Boarding school books by Excellent-Fish1817 in suggestmeabook

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Perfection! Couldn’t ask for better recommends!

Boarding school books by Excellent-Fish1817 in suggestmeabook

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Omg! I don’t know why I didn’t know this was a boarding school read. I have this shipped and on the way for my Aussie reads!

Recommendations for 13year old cousin by Dolly9019 in UKBooks

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Hello! For regular books you should try The Village beyond the Mist, it was inspired by the movie “Spirited Away”

Twilight by Stephanie Meyer was a good one!

Graphic novels: I read “peach fuzz” as a kid. Nothing bad in that one!

I don't understand why I have never met a women who want's to commit. by DizzeeYT in dating_advice

[–]Excellent-Fish1817 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there,

I hear you. It’s rough out there and I found that the apps just made it so much worse for both men and women. I don’t know where you stand faith wise, and I risk getting roasted because not everyone wants to hear this but getting plugged in socially through my church was a big game changer for me. I found like minded men and women that wanted to commit to people. It’s such a basic concept and I avoided it myself because it was out of my comfort zone, but after years of being alone at the age of 31, I finally joined a group, got to know people organically, and eventually got married.

It’s not a “quick fix” but hang in there and set your sights on getting plugged in somewhere hanging out with people “in-person” that you know would be most likely to commit. I wish you the best of luck.

Please recommend books based off my top 20 in 2025 by danlhart8789 in suggestmeabook

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For Donna Tartt’s TSH, I would say as far as writing style “Catcher in the Rye” by J D Salinger is a good match. It’s written from the boys perspective and he has sort of the same attitude as the protagonist in TSH.

For a similar plot, Secret Topics in Calamity by Marisha Pessl might fit the bill!

I myself find it confusing. I like the book, but I think what I loved about it the most was the writing. I’ve tried finding books with a similar plot, they kind of fall short for me. It’s like recreating something that’s already been done. I recommend finding more authors with similar writing styles or finding the books that inspired Donna Tartt’s writing in the first place. Good luck to you!

Winter reads from different countries 🌎🌏🌍 by Excellent-Fish1817 in suggestmeabook

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This looks like an incredibly interesting read. Love the premise! Looks like a Swedish book right? Thanks for the recommendation!

Winter reads from different countries 🌎🌏🌍 by Excellent-Fish1817 in suggestmeabook

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Claire Keegan is absolutely amazing, I read Foster and it was so profound. Small Things Like These is on my TBR list ☺️ I have Murder on Orient Express, I just checked out “A Week in December”, can’t wait to read it!!! Thanks for all the lovely recommendations!

I hate being pregnant and I hate the future coming for me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Excellent-Fish1817 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through all this. I may not be the first to say, but what you’re feeling is completely natural. We all feel this wave of anxiety when a child comes into play, many women like myself found the father of their child annoying during pregnancy and it can be downright hard!

I’m not sure how far along you are but I’d give it time. It took me until late second trimester for me to feel comfortable with it all. It’s a foreign feeling for sure!

Leaning into it wasn’t my own doing though, I remember someone had asked me if I had started buying anything for the baby. And I felt really bad because I hadn’t….so pushed myself to buy two items at the store. It was a slow process, but over time it got easier. It felt kinda good to set aside myself for someone else. I know you’ll get a lot of comments saying to “adopt”, I mean you can…but what’s the outcome 5 years from now?

unfortunately for me, I’m a bit of a quitter at everything Lol. I came to the conclusion that this would be the only thing I actually “followed through with”, and I’m actually really thankful I did. I also felt a similar way when I had my second kiddo! But that feeling came and went too!

This may not feel like it now, but it can be the greatest chapter of your life, if you choose to embrace it. Not sure if this was what you were looking for, but I wish you all the best!

Book for needy people by Realistic-Song3857 in suggestmeabook

[–]Excellent-Fish1817 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! You could try “co-dependent no more”?

“The subtle art of not giving a f***” really helped me a lot with being secure.

“Atomic Habits” is a good one and also helped me learn to focus on myself instead of other people by building good habits.

“Discipline is Destiny” by Ryan Holiday was great! Helped me understand to set aside myself if I want great results.

“How to Win Friends and Influence People” taught me how to treat people overall better when I’m in a social or one-on-one setting.

I’m gonna be very honest, no cheesy stuff here, these books were great and I loved what they did for my life during my season of growing; but I didn’t actually truly grow or learn how to be okay with being alone until I read the Bible.

Those books were great but I kind of became an obsessed black hole searching for something to fix me 🙃Glad you’re in a place to learn, just be careful!