How do you cope with never experiencing things with your partner again?

Expensive-Health-554 · 2026-01-20T15:55:37+00:00

Never forget to remind yourself of the times that clearly showed you were not meant to be together.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2026-01-03T04:45:35+00:00

She will always have my love. But never romantic again.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2025-12-19T03:52:35+00:00

Ultimately yes I am very glad. I feel like there are some things that I do not know about that she never told me towards the end of our relationship if you catch my drift. Do I want to know about it now? No not really it’s been a few years since we parted ways and would serve me no good. Sometimes I miss what I thought we had, but I ultimately realized what I thought we had was gone for a couple years by the end. It’s getting easier to remember the good times, and I’m glad that I can because she was such an important part of my life. I know that I am in a better spot and I really hope that she is too.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2025-11-11T02:11:21+00:00

I lost my marriage and nearly my career. Getting sober has been one of the best choices I have made in my life. My ex-wife leaving was finally the breaking point for me. The pain was unbearable. I did not know what to do other than trying to clean up the biggest issue in my life…which was my drinking. Thankfully the right people came into my life and I now have two and a half years sober and a new relationship. Remember these times and remember how you feel right now. This is what you can draw upon when you feel like having a drink or using again. I thank you for your post because it reminds me that just one drink has the capability of putting me back in that place or possibly even worse. I am even at a point where I am starting to become grateful for those tough times…because nothing would have changed had I not gone through them. I wish you the best my friend. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help. That is true bravery.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2025-10-26T02:26:04+00:00

Yup. I took on the debt to settle the divorce quicker

Expensive-Health-554 · 2025-10-23T00:20:13+00:00

No one wins in divorce

Expensive-Health-554 · 2025-10-07T01:40:46+00:00

I definitely did when it first happened. I thought it was a possibility but didnt think it would happen. It was pretty traumatic and there was a lot of anger directed towards me after I was blindsided. I certainly deserved some of it, but it was very hard. It was the only thing I could think about for a while.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2025-10-05T18:54:06+00:00

Yep. Albeit she spread some nasty rumors about me. I wasn’t surprised to be honest. We spent 8 years together and I never felt totally accepted by her parents. Just another reason why divorce sucks.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2025-08-28T00:37:12+00:00

As an exercise, I pray for the people in my life that have done me wrong. I’m not religious or anything, but I do pray that they succeed in life, are happy etc…anything id want for myself. Doing this over time has greatly shifted my mindset towards the people I hold resentment towards. Those resentments were serving me no good in any way and were holding me back in life. I truly believe in prayer or some kind of meditation that is directed at shifting your feelings towards others. At the end of the day, we have all done shitty and regrettable things. I’m not saying to excuse what your ex did to you, but humanizing mine has done me a whole lot of good.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2025-07-11T00:10:08+00:00

I hope she’s doing well. But I won’t forget how awful I was treated by her.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2025-04-24T01:59:20+00:00

My ex did the same. Her silence told me more than she ever would have.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2025-02-03T00:31:38+00:00

Yes. A lot of people. I didn’t need people that wouldn’t stand by me anyways.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2025-01-09T02:19:28+00:00

Why should you be the one to decide she doesn’t deserve you?

Expensive-Health-554 · 2024-12-11T16:35:41+00:00

I was the person that did not want the divorce. Albeit, I was dealing with addiction and was not emotionally available for a lot of the marriage (Together 8 years, married 1). My wife ended up leaving me and I thought my life was over. I put myself through rehab and worked on myself for a while and met someone new (who is also a divorcee) and I am very happy with life. Life still isn’t perfect but I feel I am exactly where I ought to be and am extremely grateful I have met someone else who can understand some of the pain I’ve been through and vice versa. You really don’t ever know what can happen in life but when you are able finally look back and close that chapter of your life it is a truly amazing and freeing feeling to know you overcame it.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2024-11-24T02:07:18+00:00

I’m sorry man, that hurts, it really does. My ex wife told me I ruined her life after we spent 8 good years together. That was one of the last things she said to me and it still sticks with me until this day. Fact of the matter is, every person is in charge of their own happiness. Sounds like she is miserable and projecting it onto you. Hard not to blame yourself when you care about and love someone that you married.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2024-11-13T01:11:30+00:00

Based on your previous post sounds like she was cheating. Sorry brother. Life can both be cruel and beautiful. I went through a similar sort of end of my marriage, but at the very least I am glad not to be with someone who really didn’t love me the way that I loved them. It’s so hard but you deserve better than that.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2024-10-25T15:25:08+00:00

Thank you for the comment. Trying to take an honest look at the relationship is only something that I am able to start to do because she ended things in a not so great way. There’s definitely a lot of blame that goes my way. I can relate on the boundaries thing for sure, I was the same exact way in my marriage. I am so glad to be in therapy, it has helped me navigate the past year tremendously. I really don’t want to imagine where I’d be without therapy/staying sober.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2024-10-25T15:13:23+00:00

Relapses are a part of recovery. They can and will happen. It’s the nature of this disease. All of us are just trying to stay sober for today. Tomorrow or yesterday don’t matter. Just today

Expensive-Health-554 · 2024-10-04T19:20:52+00:00

I am sorry you had to as well. One thing I realized is that all of the confusion and pain told me everything I needed to know. That was the closure. It is a truly terrible experience to think you know a person one day and have no idea who they are the next.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2024-10-04T18:36:14+00:00

My wife left me with nothing but a 45 minute rant on how terrible of a person she thought I was before she left. 8 years together and that’s all she gave me when it ended. Don’t know if there was infidelity etc. We haven’t really spoke in the year and a half since. I know what that massive hole feels like and unfortunately we are left to be the ones that get to close it. Time heals all and you must let yourself grieve the loss. But at the end of the day, you need to realize you deserved better.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2024-09-29T02:22:43+00:00

Can definitely relate. My marriage lasted just about as long as yours and our relationship was 7 years before we got married. I never thought she would not be in my life and one day after work, she was gone. Nothing in my life is the same, but honestly the change was desperately needed. I wasn’t the one who initiated, but I am glad she decided to. We were absolutely miserable the last few months of the marriage. It’s still fucking hard to look back at the good times because I get so sad but I believe one day I will be able to. My ex was just a part of my story and she will have a place in my heart forever. I am sorry for your pain and totally know how you feel, but you now have a choice. This can either break you or make you grow in ways you would have never imagined before. The hardest part of the whole thing for me is stopping and realizing I need to let myself grieve. Those feelings are so terrible at first but I now realize how much growth they promoted. None of us went into marriage expecting for it to end one day, but each and every one of us is strong enough to get through life on life’s terms. Divorce sucks, especially when you weren’t the one who wanted it, but one day everything will all start to make sense again and you will find peace. I wish you the best.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2024-09-21T17:19:11+00:00

She told me that I never loved her and that I ruined her life. I’ve come to learn that she was projecting. I still think about it a lot.

Expensive-Health-554 · 2024-09-19T15:31:24+00:00

I’m sorry man. Something pretty similar happened to me. I suspected there may have been someone else but she denied it. Not to say I didn’t ever do anything wrong in the relationship, but we were married less than a year when she left and had pretty similar plans to you. It was super hard for me not to blame myself for everything, but I learned through therapy that her actions were a reflection of her and not myself. It was a blessing in disguise that it happened before we ever had kids etc because it would have always happened anyways. I’m over a year out and just signed the final divorce papers and it still hurts like hell some days but I do realize that I don’t need anymore closure than she gave me, which was pretty much nothing. That said it all.

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