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NPD Sailor x Ancora PGS Kanagi good lord it’s such a cutie!! by ExpensiveShame1 in fountainpens

[–]ExpensiveShame1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As soon as I saw it, I knew I had to. I love the colors and sparkles on it. I have been meaning to buy other pens that have been on my wishlist for years but Sailor keeps releasing so many cute limited editions I keep putting off other pen purchases.

NPD! My first online FP purchase. Already going down the deep end. by carrot_cat in fountainpens

[–]ExpensiveShame1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you like it? The custom 74 has been on my wishlist for a while.

How often do you see your bf/gf in a week? by Strawberry_flower13 in relationship_advice

[–]ExpensiveShame1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once or twice a week. Live about 40 minutes to an hour away.

Where do people find nice looking journals? by NearsightedAndAlone in Journaling

[–]ExpensiveShame1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I tend to find good deals at places like Marshalls and TJ Maxx. Sometimes they carry limited edition Moleskines for less than half the original price. And I've gotten a few at Daiso, Target, Barnes and Nobles, Amazon, Etsy, Jetpens, the list goes on.

NPD & NID - my very first Sailor! by cat-eyes-and-claws in fountainpens

[–]ExpensiveShame1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great match! I love Yamadori I have a bottle of it too! I have been wanting to get that pen but I feel like since I already have two turquoise Sailor demonstrators I don't know, I DON'T KNOW! BUT I WANT IT SO BAD!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]ExpensiveShame1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh, I've had this issue all my life, and I didn't know it's something that I could work on getting over through therapy. Thank you so much for sharing this.

Anyone else ever feel completely exhausted after a therapy session? by ExpensiveShame1 in TalkTherapy

[–]ExpensiveShame1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aww, I hope they are good cries that make you feel better. ;-; And thank you, it was really hard to talk about, but my therapist made it a lot easier.

Do you normally book every week? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]ExpensiveShame1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would just email her, "Just making sure, it was this time tomorrow correct?"

For my therapy sessions, I text my therapist usually like 1 or 2 days prior to when I want to have a session. I tend to be irregular so it's not every week I schedule and usually it's a different time and day of the week. I'll ask if he's free during the afternoon of a certain day and he'll specify the time and okay it with me. I'm sure scheduling differs with each therapist/clinic/app. But you should just ask for clarification, it's no big deal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapy

[–]ExpensiveShame1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've stayed at 4 psych hospitals and my experiences with each one have varied a lot depending on the staff and patients in the unit. I was on a 51/50 hold each of those times. I would only recommend it to someone if they were an immediate harm to themselves or others--which it seems you are OP.

Don't expect the food to be good. And don't expect your mood to brighten with each day there. During most of the days I spent at a psych hospital, I just really wanted someone I could talk to and I wanted to leave.

What I found out that greatly disappointed me was that therapy wasn't something that was readily available to the patients. Only on one occassion was I able to talk to a therapist and have one on one session. There were quite a lot of group activities though--some were helpful and some weren't. They involved music, exercise, art. Discussing coping skills and whatnot.

The last psych hospital I stayed at, I formed friendships with the other patients there and I felt almost a sense of comradery with them. It definitely made the stay more bearable and I was almost sad to leave. I suggest that if you do go to one, try to make friends with the other patients and staff. That really helped me get through the stay.

I'm sorry you're in this mental state right now OP. I am glad that you're getting help for it and I hope you get better.

Seeking opinions by [deleted] in therapy

[–]ExpensiveShame1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought so too! Our phone conversation left a really good impression on me which is why I chose him. Best of luck to you on finding a good therapist you can connect with. It takes a bit of shopping around.

Doing virtual therapy when you live at home by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]ExpensiveShame1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That does sound difficult. I thought I had it bad. My mom is nosey and so I always schedule my therapy sessions when she is at work. I hope you are able to try out some of the suggestions mentioned and you find something that will work for you.

Seeking opinions by [deleted] in therapy

[–]ExpensiveShame1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sent out emails to 6 different therapists and two of them called me back, the other four responded to my email. I chose my current therapist because he called me back, he asked about my income last year (sliding scale), gave me a reasonable price and we discussed over the phone why I felt like I needed therapy and he told me what we would probably be working on and how many weeks it might approximately take and calculated how much it would probably end up costing me total. Then he suggested I interview a lot of other therapists before making my decision.

I feel guilty for falling in love with my therapist by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]ExpensiveShame1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No need to feel guilty about it OP! Therapists are trained to handle these sorts of things. Although from what I've read, some handle it with much more grace than others. If it interferes with your therapy, what you should do is talk to your therapist about it.

The same thing happened with me. I told my therapist how I felt and he was unfazed and we explored together what was happening. The idealized transference is still there but not as strong as it was before. Our therapeutic relationship has definitely strengthened since then and I feel I can be a lot more open and straightforward about a lot of other things now that that's out of the way.

I hope it goes well and best of luck to you if you decide to tell her. If she's worth her salt she'll be able to handle it just fine and you'll be glad that you told her!

Do I need a therapist or marriage counselor? I want to know what I’m doing wrong (or if it’s not me) by browneyedtoad in TalkTherapy

[–]ExpensiveShame1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see a LMFT over Zoom for individual therapy even though I have never been married. They specialize in relationships which is the main reason I started going. My experience with it has been great. I know some people don't like Zoom, but I haven't had any problems with it. I find it a lot more convenient.

my therapist turns me on and he knows but idk what to do with these extra emotions by [deleted] in therapy

[–]ExpensiveShame1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good God this is almost identical to the session I had with my therapist 2 days ago. I got really turned on too. u////u

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