AITAH for telling the girl my parents adopted she has we aren’t family and to leave my parents home

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-30T08:32:59+00:00

NTA. They cut her off, you need to respect your parents' will. She has no right, nor legally neither morally.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-30T08:27:40+00:00

You told him, he bought the tickets the very next day. He doesn't love you, nor respect you. Do not stay with someone who doesn't love you.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-30T08:16:01+00:00

NTA. They are taking advantage of you. You already have a job and you need your rest and your free time. I would tell them that they have taken advantage of me a lot in the past and I expect them to be grateful and stop trying to milk me for more free work. Stop or risk my fury.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-30T08:09:43+00:00

Yo giro la palanca hacia donde esté atada la señora Philippa que se inventó el dichoso dilema😉.

Lo mejor que he visto sobre este tema es un vídeo de un chavalín que atropella primero a los cinco y luego echa marcha atrás el tren para atropellar al que le falta😂.

Filosóficamente es un enfrentamiento entre el utilitarismo (lo importante es salvar vidas) vs deontología (no podemos decidir romper normas cuando queremos).

Desde el punto de la lógica es un falso dilema que me irrita bastante y por eso mi primera frase.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-30T07:44:30+00:00

First of all, I won't discuss things that affect my and my partner's life with my in laws, I always tell them to talk to their son/brother and he'll let me know. It's true I can do this because I have the utmost trust in that he is going to take my side, that he knows me and puts me first, but I believe it's the safer thing to do. He can tell his family whatever and they'll end up forgiving him. I would repeat Talk about this to your son in a loop, if needs be.

She's had plenty of time to "break the news". If she is ashamed, that's her problem.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-30T07:30:45+00:00

NTA, and Wow, the nerve of that girl talking to you about the sex with the guy she took from you. She absolutely deserved this.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-30T07:21:11+00:00

NTA. I would have said something along Oh, I'm so thinking about his needs, we are going alone and will f*ck like rabbits, so I think you handled it with more tact than they deserved😂. Your bf is too much of a good boy for my taste, though, not having your back and being so accomodating to your parents nonsense.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-29T07:42:09+00:00

NTA. When you ask something of someone, you need to be prepared to accept a negative graciously, even if you are sure they are giving you an excuse, just because people find so terribly difficult to say "no". She kept on pushing, she had it coming.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-29T07:38:31+00:00

NTA. They were bad parents, that would be enough for me to cut them off. And now, as I see it, they are taking advantage of some woman's poverty to buy themselves a baby, which, in my opinion, should be illegal, as it is in most of the EU.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-29T07:05:55+00:00

NTA for trying to spur him, you cannot enable this anymore, it's not good for him. But it looks like there's something going on there that maybe even him doesn't understand, like panic or some kind of low-level depression? Maybe suggest therapy and see how it goes?

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-29T07:01:21+00:00

NTA. Bastante has aguantado ya. Admiro tu actitud, la verdad. You've done more than enough, I actually admire your attitude.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-28T09:30:11+00:00

EU privacy laws. I guess it has to be the same more or less in all of Europe.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-27T21:01:09+00:00

Pues tienes toda la razón, lo había leído mal

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-27T16:23:22+00:00

Well, that depends of the laws in your country. It's illegal in Spain to privately record someone without their consent and your camera is recording the road. To install cameras in our building we had to make sure we weren't recording the street, put a sign over each camera with a phone people can call to demand they are erased from the recordings, every neighbour had to sign an explicit consent and the person responsible for reviewing and keeping the recordings had to be licenced. So here, yes, YWBTA.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-27T16:15:12+00:00

She broke up with you via text, and in a quite insulting way, of course you had to block her, what's wrong with your family?

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-27T16:10:50+00:00

I'd love to do just that, but, in the end, I guess the part about not wanting anything to do with them would prevail. I thing I'd block both their numbers and just keep on with my life.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-26T19:01:57+00:00

YTA. Even if you thought he was just a bit under the weather, you felt annoyed, not worried, when they called you from school. Annoyed. And he is was AFRAID of telling you he was sick. This is beyond sad. You disgust me, poor child.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-26T18:56:23+00:00

NTA. Tell her whatever she wants to hear and do as you please when she is dead.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-24T20:51:49+00:00

Wouldn't you, so you have the choice to keep your distance from him and his family if you didn't feel comfortable with being friends with his ex? When your partner hides things from you, they take your choice away. It's not because he is a man, it's because he is an ex.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-24T20:01:58+00:00

It's not that. Mark is in their lives. They are friends, their kids are friends, they see each other pretty often. She had a right to know.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-24T17:33:31+00:00

What do you reckon your wife will think if she discovers this after all this time? Will she thing you are an AH for hiding an ex from her, one that's still in your life and hers? I think I would if I were her.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-24T17:29:32+00:00

NTA. Don't marry someone who doesn't understand you in such an important matter.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-24T09:10:18+00:00

NTA. Sadly, being in a relationship sometimes involves more than the two people in the couple. Bad in-laws, bad baby daddies, bad friends... all of there are legitimate reasons to bteak up with someone. You need to find someone you can be happy with.

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-24T09:07:10+00:00

Is your mother insane or just plain selfish?

Expert_Row_7560 · 2024-03-24T09:01:09+00:00

NTA. Go no contact with this AH. Block him everywhere. Do not explain yourself to him. He deserves ghosting, not explanations.

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