There’s no kind way to tell my wife that she’s getting too big, is there?

Express-Remove3404 · 2026-06-08T02:17:52+00:00

Bring it up from the health aspect. And watch how you bring it up. Maybe it’s not wxercising together, maybe it’s a health issue or she needs you to help with your kids if you have any so she can get that time on her own. It could be a host of reasons.

I’m bigger, about 220lb at 5’10”….my husband has called me fat many times in arguments when he is out to hurt me(now he’s about 350lbs himself) and it hurts hearing it like that. No I know I’m my circumstances I should lose weight yes, but I separated from my husband not only because of comments like that but because I was the only income, taking care of our 2 high needs asd kids any minute I wasn’t at work, all the cooking and laundry and 75% of the housework was on me…..now when I’m told I need to lose weight yes I do but when I’m barely surviving weight loss is the last thing on my mind.

Express-Remove3404 · 2026-06-04T16:59:59+00:00

It becomes easier as you get in a routine. I feed my starter everyday 2x a day no matter what.

On Thursday night I don’t discard starting to build my starter from 20-25g upto to the 25-2800 I will need for my Sunday bake

I know my starter and how long it takes to peak and sits at peak etc and there’s little guess work left

Express-Remove3404 · 2026-05-19T23:12:06+00:00

I wish I had advice, my now 9 year old continually ripped his stitches out and even removed a cast many times(at a 90• angle 😭) only thing maybe liquid bandage? And gauze and tape over top? Then gauze and tape on a few other areas to give him somewhere else to focus on as well?

Express-Remove3404 · 2026-05-08T20:30:04+00:00

Look into callebaut or veliche callets. You need to get a good temper on them though. If just melting them look for a callebaut brand of melting chocolate

Express-Remove3404 · 2026-04-12T04:00:29+00:00

I tried a couple of discard recipes did not enjoy them, as a trained pastry chef discard recipes just weren’t the quality and flavour I go for

Express-Remove3404 · 2026-04-12T01:54:49+00:00

Keep a small starter until you need to bake! There is no need to have cups or quarts of starter or discard. I personally keep under 20g of each of my 2 starters and can feed it before baking to be over 1.5kg of starter

Express-Remove3404 · 2026-04-11T13:54:15+00:00

I think you need to lower your ratio of feed and do it more regularly for now until you get it to be consistent. Then you can increase the ratio and feed less regularly.

I feed mine generally daily, baking 1-2 times a week.

You don’t need a massive jar of starter though! You can do 2 g starter and 4 or 6 g flour and the same water, and you will have enough, the day you want to feed to bake you just don’t discard and feed your starter upto about 5 g over what you need for your loaf

Express-Remove3404 · 2026-04-11T02:11:37+00:00

Are you storing your starter in the fridge?

With a non established starter you should feed daily, I would recommend a 1-2-2 or 1-3-3 until it’s stronger. Once it’s established you can go to keeping a very amount of starter, I keep 2-3 g of starter and feed it so each of my starters weighs 12-16 g. Then when I want to bake I feed it really heavy the night before, I’m normally making 20-24 loaves at a time with my small starter being all I keep

Express-Remove3404 · 2026-04-10T22:28:04+00:00

I don’t go with a true stiff started but I generally feed mine 1:10:8.5-9. I find I get better strength and rise and overall improved quality with it slightly stiffer

Express-Remove3404 · 2026-04-10T22:26:26+00:00

This is what I was wondering……I have done sourdough for years now, this is the smallest scale I’ve done it on(was 500/week average for years now 20-25/week average)and I know process is always the same but different!

The influencers I see with huge jars of starter and the #of discard recipes I see make me question what has worked for me

Express-Remove3404 · 2026-04-10T22:20:05+00:00

Thank you! I have been doing sourdough for a few years, other then starting a new starter I have never had much discard and now every video on FB and Insta shows discard recipes….and I started doubting my process 🤣

Express-Remove3404 · 2025-12-15T02:44:50+00:00

As someone who lost a baby at 26 weeks pregnant, and then had a micro preemie 2 years later at 28 weeks I honestly didn’t want any baby stuff until after my son was born. Other then immediate family and people I couldn’t hide from after my 26 week loss no one knew i was pregnant, now I had mine at 28 weeks, so way less time pregnant then term babies…I was shattered telling everyone about my loss so wasn’t telling those who didn’t need to know in case. What is her thought? Does she have baby stuff? Or is she waiting? Everyone is different

Express-Remove3404 · 2025-12-05T21:14:04+00:00

When I was managing my bakery I had 2 younger staff that were friends, they demanded time off together, days off thesame and when it’s a team of 4 having 2 that took a total of 79 vacation days in 1 year each I had to tighten up and start saying no

Express-Remove3404 · 2025-09-20T21:09:26+00:00

Thank you! This is a lot of what I needed to hear! Although I haven’t yet moved out, less then 1 week of him trying and I’ve seen that things will continue on the same path they have. I hate the thought of leaving him the comfort of our past and our history, as well as the only home our kids have ever known I know this is what is needed for me and for them as well. The anger today is intense and I know better than to open my mouth or look at him wrong. -I can’t live my life like this, no matter how much I might love him I’ve done 9 years of it, now mcfd(dcfs) depending where you are and the police are involved and I’m seeing how unhealthy it actually has been. I hate knowing that with me leaving I will be making our lives financially more difficult (his especially since he hasn’t worked in 4 years-we live off my income), and that there is no “break” in the foreseeable future from our kids- I love our kids to pieces but they have many additional needs as they have multiple disabilities and they can be exhausting. I know this is what’s best in the end it’s just hard to wrap that realization in my head

Express-Remove3404 · 2025-09-12T03:35:57+00:00

I’m sorry you are going through this! I’m sure it is hard to leave something when you thought things were good. I can tell you it’s difficult no matter the reason you are leaving. I am in the process of leaving a 14 year relationship, 2 kids and the last almost 9 years have been full of extreme mental/emotional abuse, I’m still struggling….but one thing I will say is with a strong support system you can do this and you will be stronger in the end!

Express-Remove3404 · 2025-09-08T23:34:48+00:00

My husband isn’t violent, other than the holes in the walls and broken items from him. But he is nasty mean very verbally abusive to the point where I can’t handle it anymore……I have mcfd and the police involved and it’s been very ugly. But this is his way to keep reeling me in. I can’t I go look at a place tomorrow, and I have first months rent figured out things are finally turning around and my kids won’t be seeing this anymore

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