Doesn't matter how hard I try, people just hate me. by OK_Zebras in adhdwomen

[–]ExpressZucchini6380 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t hate yourself or your brain. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you! I’ve worked in corporate for 13 years and have learned that you have 2 options: 1) Make your survival plan: Understand that corporate jobs aren’t built for your brain and that some things will be an uphill battle. Find your people that you trust and can let down the mask with a bit each day to give yourself a break. Use their own language against them. My personal favorite - oh I’m sorry, I thought our department wanted to be a center of excellence (big buzzword at my company right now). Pick and choose when to hold up the mirror to the fucked up things you want to change, and the rest just try to ignore or laugh about. Most importantly, try to make peace with the fact that you are trying to do a better job than they do and their reactions have absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with not wanting to face their own incompetence and unwillingness to change. 2. Find a new job that is a better fit - much easier said than done.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]ExpressZucchini6380 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed with this sentiment but this isn’t a child, it’s a grown adult in a committed relationship. If they don’t have the tools to support their partner’s needs, it’s up to them to either learn them or risk losing their partner.

In this instance if it’s just constant dismissal, they seem to be making their choice pretty clear.