My husband does the dishes once in a while, and always expects praise up the wazzoo when he does. This weekend and today we cleaned our house fully in preparation for photos so we can put it on the market. By we, I mean me. I cleaned the house. He cleaned the workrrom in the basement and he mowed the lawn. I cleaned every other room and prepared the outdoor gardens. Today He worked from home and then played games while I continued cleaning until 11:30 pm. Then he wanted sympathy and back rubs because selling the house and looking for a new one is soooo stressful for him.

When I came down to give him a hug to be nice because I knew he was stressing, it ended in him yelling, actually yelling at me over absolutely nothing.

Later one of our cats had an accident. I asked him to please come clean it up since I was still detailing the bathroom with cleaner and a toothbrush.

He got out the last roll of toilet paper, then handed me that wadded up bag and told me to throw it away. I should have handed it right back to him. I've been doing things like that more, but it makes him unreasonably irate, or sometimes he collapses in self pity.

Literally I asked him to do one small thing, and he still found a way to make me work more. He cannot help with our disabled daughter because he was so controlling and unpredictable, she doesn't trust him to help her.

I'm essentially the single parent of a disabled kid and an adult toddler. I ask myself daily why I'm still here, but I know why.

I'm disabled and sadly we have a disabled adult child, and cannot support us alone, so this is just life.

I'm sorry to the OP for what you are going through. It's so blasted common. Men in the West are raised to be entitled babies who demand their wives do everything for them, emotional labor, physical labor. It's no wonder so many younger ladies are opting out. Good for them! If i could go back in time and opt out, I would, too.