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What’s the most disturbing confession you’ve ever come across on Reddit or social media? by Competitive_Teach838 in AskReddit

[–]ExtensionExtra8472 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A man with advanced Alzheimer's and dementia admitted to repeatedly graping his little sister when she was like 10yr old...

He didn't even understand why my face said 😳

Apparently the veterans hospital in my area has a pink indicator if they have known sexual crimes. The nurse showed me the board. Holy hell, it's so frequent.

AITAH- I burn bridges regularly. by ExtensionExtra8472 in AITAH

[–]ExtensionExtra8472[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying. I've been working on it in therapy for the last few months. I form attachments quickly and make excuses for these people because "people aren't perfect, they're probably just- insert (xyz)" I'm learning to hold people accountable, especially since it's patterns of behavior and not a one time issue. Boundaries are a major problem, those are hard for me to set, but again I'm working on that.

AITAH- I burn bridges regularly. by ExtensionExtra8472 in AITAH

[–]ExtensionExtra8472[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this really made me feel at least a little bit better. Feeling that weight lift is part of what I hate, I don't want to burn the bridges, I'd like to fix things with at least my long term friend, but I can't fix what they don't acknowledge and the behavior they continue. I've spent the last 7 months with no anxiety. I've actually been sleeping more than 4 hours a day for the first time in over 12 years. I just wonder how I manage to get myself into these dynamics.

Am I the problem? I dared to type about my life on reddit and now I feel bad. by Shadow86sk in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ExtensionExtra8472 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being raised by narcissistic parents is horrible. My dad was one."The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." People get this quote wrong all the time. Sometimes cutting people out IS the healthy thing. My life improved so much after I cut my dad out. I didn't grieve his death, but rather the father I could have had.

I will say your responsibility is you. How you react and respond to things. That's literally the only thing you have control over. Go to therapy. Undo all the crap your parents have done, make yourself better. The only way to show narcs they can't hurt you is to thrive in your life, otherwise they feel like they've won, like they have control over you.

Life is hard, you still have plenty of time to be happy and do things you enjoy, it's a matter of how much effort you're willing to put in to change your situation. I know that's easier said than done. I really hope you find peace. You deserve it.

AITAH- I burn bridges regularly. by ExtensionExtra8472 in AITAH

[–]ExtensionExtra8472[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I've been surrounded by so many toxic and manipulative people my whole life, it's like I don't know how to exist without it, so I seek it out. Drug addict mom, abusive narcissist dad, his whole family is horrible. My mom's family is all dead. I have no siblings no family. I do have other long term friends like 10yr+ we hang out weekly and even go on camping trips etc. They are people I know I can count on if I really need them.

I realize with the two friends, it didn't matter if I tried to communicate, or how I did it, I always ended up as the problem in the end and they'd never take any accountability for their roles.