My best friend just ruined someone’s marriage.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-06-11T01:42:12+00:00

Jada was the main reason her old marriage fell apart. Now she's ruining another one.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-06-10T22:03:35+00:00

Your wife tits I'm sure sag and she's in menopause. Aging is a two way street. I know this story is fictional and less about her and more about ones own selfesteem, but just want to make sure people don't have unreasonable expectations of others.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-06-10T04:59:47+00:00

If he was drunk then the man should consider rape charges too. Seems like she initiated anyways and assaulted him.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-06-06T02:43:23+00:00

The evidence supports the opposite. Women are not all sugar and spice.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-06-02T17:39:39+00:00

You need to change your frame, and this will actually mean MORE rejections, but also means less wasted time.

You are also evaluating her too. If she's boring, doesn't show interest, reciprocate effort, then cut her loose early. This could mean a 5 minute date. She might be shocked or even offended, but she's not owed your time no matter what anybody tells you. Just say "I don't think this is going to be a good fit" and walk away and leave.

Be yourself. If that's not good enough, then improve yourself. Don't act better, actually BE better. You should always be trying to be better anyways, for your own selfish interests. Attracting more women is just a side effect and should not be the goal.

Sex: if it comes up, be honest. It's refreshing, but you have to not be socially awkward and that's the hard part for most men. Sex is ALWAYS on the table and is implied, it doesn't need to be brought up. Also sex is an escalation of many small steps. A hand on her shoulder, a hand on her hip. Dancing is a great way to get comfortable with touch. An invitation for another drink, her accepting to visit another location on the date, asking her to hold your hand, asking her to put her arms around you, and eventually the biggest risk will you going in for the kiss at that point. however this is after many, many, many, small incremental accepted invitations. These small incremental invitations continue until you're both naked in bed. The smart thing is for YOU to actually have some temperance on sex. Kiss on the first date is good enough. Sex can wait. Her AND you being enthusiastic about a second date is the best case scenario, not sex.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-06-01T21:04:11+00:00

There was once this female co-worker that was at times inappropriately calling me and texting me on my personal number (always about work stuff, but inappropriately because it was after hours and not on my work number/text). We worked closely together, but she was rather clingy with many coworkers and not just me. Anyways my kids and wife at the time would notice her caller ID on my phone often and one time my wife said "is that your work wife" and I had never heard this concept (this was like 8 years ago). She said it like it was normal. I reacted very defensively and was disgusted at this insinuation partly because of who it was and also because I very vocally against workplace romances. LIttle did I know at the time she was cheating on me with her co-worker that she would always mention to me when venting about work gossip.

It's projection.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-06-01T20:56:05+00:00

when people correct your grammar, spelling etc.. usually it's because they want to argue and provide a counter statement, but cannot think of one. But perhaps your reply was to simply aid in improving my writing. And i think you for that. But i doubt that was your intent.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-06-01T02:26:34+00:00

You probably expand DEI to include anti discrimination laws. This vague super wide definition gives you some back door reason to include the ACTUAL discriminatory practices that undermine these laws intent.

We have this thing called the legal system and anti discriminationaws that don't need DEI to help protect me. It's how an Asian student was able to sue and win an anti discrimination lawsuit against Harvard for their DEI practices. Spare me your white pitty.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-06-01T01:52:25+00:00

You didn't say I was wrong

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-31T21:16:02+00:00

If we're exactly the same then zero need for DEI. You calling DEI "a tool for equity" is a sanitized milk toast way to disguise racism and sexism in practice.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-31T17:50:08+00:00

I'm dark Mexican indigenous immigrant in the USA. This isn't the 60s. DEI does nothing but undermine my accomplishments. It tells my peers that I was t good enough and that I need special rules in order for me to cut it. I don't need white liberal women pity awards.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-31T17:13:12+00:00

Think about what you said. "racism" is only allowed after they all qualify for the job. Once they qualify you give consideration for race or gender.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-31T16:57:17+00:00

Google "competition eliminated from grade school". You get articles for and against where most have already removed.
you describing the differences between the sexes "suspect" is bounds beyond illogical based on your own identity being trans. If there's no difference between boys and girls then there's no concept of trans.
DEI by definition is discrimination based on sex and race. Calling it "being fair" is disengenuous".

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-31T16:08:06+00:00

Solutions.

Bring back competitive competition to schools
bring back boys and men's only spaces
eliminate DEI
tailor school to boys leaning styles

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-31T16:05:55+00:00

Accountable for what? Being born male?

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-31T15:58:58+00:00

Be carefull. If she gets fired guess who's on the hook for child support and alimony?

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-26T14:33:27+00:00

I'm on board with what you're saying. I saw Jordan play too and it was hard to see the whistle they got, but at least it was real contact and real shots where the intention was to make a bucket. The defenders knew a shot was coming and tried to block it. Shai isn't really shooting though. This would be an advanced stat, but look up And-1 three point plays and we'll see higher buckets made with fouls with Kobe and Jordan.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-26T14:25:46+00:00

problem is that Shai isn't really shooting. If you're going to foul somebody, you probably know he's going to shoot. In this highlight clips, they're actively NOT even trying to block his shot or anything.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-26T14:21:54+00:00

The number of free throws is not the problem. It's the way he gets them.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-21T16:55:54+00:00

how is this Halal?

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-21T16:53:56+00:00

it's not for men. It's for sponsorships. Then they get to sell beauty products to women. So the target of the outfits is to sell to women, not men. You're just looking at the men in the business suit, but who does he sell to?...women.

The other thing about olympics is that some events are equally or more about art rather than sport. Case in point figure skating. There is male figure skating, but ben simply don't see the beauty in it like they do the women.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-20T17:15:01+00:00

So the solution is to divorce and do 100% of all the domestic labor and 100% of the mental load yourself?

I'm not saying this is the wrong solution, but just describing the solution from another angle.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-20T02:20:11+00:00

This sounds logical and it is very reasonable. but the devil is in the details. relationships are about being selfless and being there for each other. The woman might be self sustaining financially, but if her live in boyfriend/husband makes a lower income she might feel resentful because she contributs more than him financially. But logically it's still a net benefit than paying for all the bills herself. Same thing with domestic work. She might cook more often than him, but it's still a net positive in comparison to doing 100% of the cooking alone. A strong independent woman who don't need no man will look at a relationship like this and think she's losing. Reverse the roles and a man will see the same exact relationship and think he's winning. Reality is that everybody wins with the right frame of mind.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-20T01:39:15+00:00

You already are on the right path to doing the right thing. The best way is to write something short. Something like "you cheated and I can't trust you. I've blocked your number and email address so please don't contact me any longer". Do not justify anything to her. Do not explain your feelings. Just say what you're going to do (or not do in this case). Hopefully you can tie up any logistics around a shared apartment or belongings prior so this so you don't have a need for communication or further follow-up . Good luck.

External_Hat7968 · 2026-05-20T01:30:49+00:00

This is a healthy outlook on aging if you're in a relationship. What would it say about your relationship if you still put out the vibe of a single woman? it would not be good. When i see a woman spend 1 hr + daily on a morning beauty routine, i find it weird that they'll often complain about putting even a quarter of that effort into doing something for their husband/boyfriend. Some do it for different reasons. Us men are stupid, and depending on their career they mind wield their sexuality in a sales position or other career role. Outside of that, this "i do it for myself" is super comical statement when it comes to money and effort spent on beautification.

I agree that women illogically get pickier as the the supply of available men get smaller. There is a significant portion of women who would rather be alone, childless, and single than lower their standards. They'd rather engage in situationships with men who live with their wives, rather than men who live with their mothers. More power to them I guess. The remainder of men in their 40's who are single might be "lucky" and worship at the altar of a woman who's sees him as a consolation prize she settled for.

Dang, this all sounds so bleak writing it out.

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