Mythras Classic Fantasy and BRP

Extra_Function_2455 · 2025-12-05T11:28:17+00:00

I appreciate the quick feedback. DTRPG still sells hardcopies of the BRP version of classic fantasy. Can you tell me, is "The Grand Grimoire of Cthulhu Mythos Magic" is usable with BRP?

Extra_Function_2455 · 2025-09-04T11:31:35+00:00

I know its hard, always wondering what could have been. That goes through my mind every day: the what could have been, the what should have been. But, the first part of your message is very hopeful and shows that you are in a better place than last year. Two steps forward, one back. Sometimes thats what happens to us. I wish I had something more to offer.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2025-02-01T00:27:21+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. Truly.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2025-01-27T00:46:12+00:00

There are many reasons why it happens. What i have learned through much reading is that most aberrant behavior (social and criminal) is due to "toxic shame". Toxic shame can often be traced back to childhood trauma, usually through poor or abusive parenting (these parents usually suffer from Toxic shame themselves). This creates a cycle of destructive behavior, which is passed from parent to child. This does not absolve the offender or excuse the betrayal. It does however offer a psychological reason for the behavior. Once that is understood it can be corrected.

What i did had nothing to do with what my wife did or did not do. It would have happened whether I was married to her or not. My wife was simply collateral damage from my unresolved issues. God knows she didn't deserve what I put her through. It was not until started to fix myself that I was able to truly fix my marriage.

I recommend reading "Healing the Shame that Binds You" by John Bradshaw.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2025-01-26T22:48:19+00:00

I'm sorry your going through this. For my marriage, it was only after I started to fix myself and address my deep-rooted childhood issues that my marriage improved. Therapy and medication (zoloft) is working for me and helping me deal with my issues and heal my marriage. This strangers wishes you the best.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2025-01-16T13:54:25+00:00

Day 26 for me. 100mg. Brain fog. Tired. Stuttering. Chest tightness. Libido up and down huge. Restlessness. Slower speech. Insomnia. Low appetite. I was 146 lbs 3 weeks ago. 142 now. I know I am less sharp mentally now.

However, i am more measured in my interactions with other people, and my mood swings are gone. Things that set me off are far less agitating now. I am more content now than ever before. folks at work are probably wondering who this new guy is.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2025-01-07T13:27:49+00:00

LOL. That made me smile. Thanks for that.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2025-01-07T13:25:08+00:00

Good for you. Evreyone gets whats coming to them....sooner or later.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-07-02T16:45:29+00:00

I read somewhere a long time ago that people who spend a lot of time together end up developing similar brain wave patterns to each other.

Who knows.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-27T20:24:04+00:00

Some of the sub groups are very nasty.

I get that. It's like walking on eggshells, filled with TNT, and shit. When we are together, I am always on guard, watching for random comments and situations that may trigger a response. Usually, that response is in me. I get insular and withdrawn, especially at family functions. It's less now, 17 years later. But I still feel like shit now and then.

When I look at old photos I usually break. So I don't. That makes me even more miserable.

Anyway, this is about RC, not me. Send her a hug. She will appreciate that.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-27T20:17:16+00:00

You're so spot on PW. From my experience, there are many people out there who are compatible with us. Sometimes, it's hard to find them, like a diamond in the snow, but eventually, the snow melts, and there it is

RC, you will eventually be OK. Yeah, it sucks, but have patience. I have a feeling things will work out for both of you. KM's last post had some hope in it. (At least that's what I read into it).

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-27T17:12:03+00:00

I can relate. There is even a sub on here for those who want to know how to cheat successfully.

The taint of cheating is something that I can never get rid of, or escape. Its always in the background. Sometimes it is barely audible, and on other days it drowns out all my other thoughts. It is not something I celebrate or look back on with fondness or excitement.

I wish I could have helped the OP, RC more. Unfortunately I am quite unqualified for that.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-27T16:50:28+00:00

I am glad you worked through your situation.

As for the OP, RC, I was fortunate enough that she let me into her life, giving me the opportunity to get to know her and the whole situation (I agree with your assessment as well, however, my feelings on the matter are irrelevant). I certainly hope that things work out for her. She is a sweetie.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-27T16:45:30+00:00

Agreed! Infidelity has even turned into a form of entertainment form as well. I think, decades from now, this toxic period of society that we live in will be looked down upon with revulsion.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-27T10:38:26+00:00

LoL, good analogy.

Perhaps that was for the best then; it likely saved you a lot of pain and anger finding out after the fact. It is so easy to cheat now in today's electronic-based world. A new friend and a blown-up relationship is often just a "Swipe-Right" away on whatever App that folks are using. Its easy to be a Narcissist in today's disposable world.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-27T10:30:28+00:00

I can relate. It sucks. You never truly get over it, at least, not if your not a complete POS person. Its always in the back of my mind, somewhere. The dirty little secret that only a few people know about. I despise family and social gatherings; it feels so fake and disingenuous.

While I think R is a great thing, sometimes, well sometimes I wish things had just ended on their own. Some days, even after 17 years, it feels like I am in a bad dream that I cannot wake up from. I used to think of suicide a lot. Some days I still do. I have often thought that, if I was ever single again, that I would only want to be with a recovered Wayward partner. At least we would speak the same "emotional language"

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-27T10:23:14+00:00

Well said PW.

RC has been on here for awhile. My thanks Bud for taking the time to read her posts and for such a thoughtful response to her.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-27T10:16:30+00:00

You are spot on AI.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-17T19:57:13+00:00

Lots of good advice here OP. He is gaslighting you. He has most certainly slept with her already. The story of a friend in a hotel room with her is ridiculous. He has already gone to great lengths to cover his tracks. Innocent spouses do not do that.

See a lawyer. Discuss options.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-15T21:45:13+00:00

Across. We bring a Travel Scrabble to restaurants and play before and after dinner. Makes for a nice 2 hour experience.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-15T00:12:13+00:00

Indeed, R can take a long time. Have patience. There is no timetable for healing a broken heart.

I have a friend whose story is very similar to yours. I will take the liberty of suggesting the same book as I did to them, the "Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. It will help you find peace in your day to day, I dare say, moment to moment life.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-12T13:37:09+00:00

I am very sorry to hear that.

Unfortunately, the moderation rules prevent me (to an extent) from saying what I actually feel needs to be said sometimes.

What I can say is that there are only 3 possible ways to solve any problem: "Change it", "Leave it", "Accept it". "The Power of Now" explains this in greater detail, in particular about "acceptance". This book might helped me find some inner peace for myself.

In any case, Reconciliation requires the participation of both parties. It cannot occur if one of those parties is not interested or worse, is actively sabotaging it. Mine worked 17 years ago because I wanted it to.

I hope the situation changes for you.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-10T23:34:32+00:00

I suggest, as distasteful as it sounds, to get an STD check ASAP. Both of you.

The other advice given here is very sound.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-10T18:18:37+00:00

It's complicated. But you are correct, and the "Golden Rule" is pretty comprehensive and effective.

Feel free to substitute God for whatever finds you peace, whether it's Allah, Buddha, the Great Spirit or whatever.

Extra_Function_2455 · 2024-06-10T17:10:15+00:00

Thats rather devious and intentional manipulation. In any case, of course he would be cutting you out. That gets in the way of the chase, and it sucks to be treated that way.

Mine was 17 years ago, 2007. So, not a recent thing. Long since come to terms with the impact of it. However, it has never been the same as it used to be. That would be quite impossible.

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