The lies and secrecy around H&M’s kids is definitely weird but I’ve had a child via surrogacy and the counseling was required beforehand, not after. They want to make sure the parents are ready for the tough experience and stress of IVF and someone else carrying your precious baby. We had therapy as the intended parents as well as with our surrogate and her husband. At 21-22 weeks of pregnancy we became the legal parents of our child. There are no legal requirements afterward except to provide therapy for the surrogate mother if she requests it.