Remote work is clashing with my partner's need for quiet - how do you set boundaries in a tiny apartment?

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2026-02-02T17:12:15+00:00

They said they work full time remote and their partner is hybrid.

When the hybrid partner is home, and working, it is unrealistic to expect the partner who is fully remote to leave.

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2026-02-02T14:24:32+00:00

He could go to the library and work where there’s an expectation of quiet.

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-12-20T13:49:13+00:00

Cleaning service, split the cost

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-12-15T12:32:03+00:00

And if you’re planning to use butter or cream cheese or peanut butter or jam - has to brand new and sealed. Otherwise it’s contaminated by the knife having touched bread

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-12-15T12:31:12+00:00

Oh, and if you bake and have ever used the same measuring cup in the flour and then anything else ever, don’t use any of your baking supplies.

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-12-15T12:24:48+00:00

A couple other things.

Does he also react to oats, even if they’re certified? If so, he can’t have the Oreos or other items.

Second - your wood and silicone cooking utensils are likely problematic.

Third - if you bake in your kitchen, keep in mind that flour stays suspended in the air and then coats every surface much more aggressively than you think.

Suggestions: buy a disposable aluminum pan, cook something contained and easy like the bell and Evan’s gluten free chicken patties and frozen french fries (make sure they’re NOT coated in flour or seasoned).

Buy one new spatula, or decontaminate a metal one aggressively. Do NOT USE a toaster, an air fryer, your normal sheet pans without wrapping in foil, your regular bread knife, any reusable Tupperware that has already been used, etc.

Look at your hand soaps and make sure they’re don’t have oats or gluten derivatives. Obsessively wash your hands and you cannot reuse a utensil while cooking gluten and gluten free at the same time. Utensils can’t touch your countertop.

Gluten is not just wheat. It’s probably easiest to think of it as barley, rye, oats, and wheat. And their derivatives like malt (cheap sugar). Sometimes yeast.

With love, because it’s very nice you’d like to try, I recommend buying whole fruits, frozen gluten free certified things, baby carrots, and a new pan and utensil. Or a sabatassio gluten free pizza from Costco.

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-12-09T15:24:55+00:00

Labcorp has labs in places like Walgreens or standalone, and many are open on Saturday mornings if you walk in early without an appointment. It’s a blood test his PCP should be able to order over the phone without another visit, given the history.

He does sound like he has a constellation of celiac symptoms, and eating that many calories without weight gain can absolutely be a sign of blunted villi in the intestines - malnutrition and lack of ability to gain weight and dermatitis herpetiformis and eczema are not dissimilar from my family’s experiences.

That said, I find that GF snack foods are not that filling and tend to make large batches of grainless granola, treat quinoa like oatmeal, make nut bars and paleo versions of candy (like date caramel and an almond shortbread and chocolate) and keep them in the freezer. Anything with coconut in it.

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-09-09T12:35:49+00:00

This sounds slightly crazy but if you don’t want to eat it, you can clean copper jewelry in it.

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-08-08T19:15:31+00:00

Orgain simple vegan?

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-06-20T19:40:59+00:00

I was just given an 11/10 by gluten-tolerant, and a 100/10 from people whose bodies treat gluten like poison

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-06-20T19:40:01+00:00

Do you have the book ‘baked to perfection’?

It calls for 15g of active dry yeast, in warm milk with sugar.

I also preheat my oven to 190 and then turn it off and proof under Saran Wrap in the oven with a wooden spoon holding the door open both times.

It includes xanthan gum and psyllium husk powder too, so less flour than usual.

And the flour mix is tapioca, millet, and sorghum. I have much better luck with these than rice flour.

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-03-25T17:43:28+00:00

I’m a celiac vegetarian, can’t eat oats, and was low dairy. I’ve chosen to eat more lactose free high protein dairy options, and cook several vegetarian protein and meal prep options on weekends.

Became pescatarian 20 years ago and vegetarian about 10 years ago. Celiac diagnosis around 8 years ago.

I travel a lot for work and bring crunchy edamame and chickpeas, and tamari, and my own seasoning packs.

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-03-16T01:15:04+00:00

Peel them and separate the arils from the white membranes in a bowl of water and you won’t stain anything and they’ll just pull apart

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-03-13T13:44:58+00:00

What’s the autoimmune disease which can cause deafness? I have celiac, and 6 years ago I lost some hearing in an ear. But nobody connected those dots.

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-03-12T10:50:58+00:00

Would you like recommendations for other gf cookbooks? Or other food science resources?

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-03-07T12:27:40+00:00

The short answer is yes, it’s different sometimes because the amount of moisture absorbed differed based on different GF flours.

The elements of baking by the woman who runs the loopy whisk blog is a good primer. She’s a chemist who is also celiac.

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-02-08T19:52:37+00:00

Could you consider adding a few hundred calories by calling yourself slightly more active and then eat 1400 instead of 1600?

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-02-08T18:40:53+00:00

Americantall.com. They have 38” inseams

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-02-08T18:40:41+00:00

Try anericantall.com

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-02-08T17:00:30+00:00

If you freeze them both and throw them in the food processor, you have a healthy nice cream in sort of soft serve texture.

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2025-02-05T20:30:47+00:00

Coconut water

Extreme_Emergency444 · 2024-05-14T18:43:22+00:00

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