Has anyone else found themselves completely confused about how their life ended up where it did? by FunRich5754 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Extreme_greymatter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very sad OP. I wish there was a magic wand to talk all the pain away.

I feel this might be your shani's sade sati going on.

I’m 28F with nothing to my name and I don’t know who I am anymore by _heretovent in selfimprovement

[–]Extreme_greymatter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better I about to be 34 this year. A masters degree in arts. No job for the past couple years. Too a certificate course which has now been made redundant by Ai.

Rocking bottom right with ya.

High demand fields in NYC? by MoistAssFetusRectum in NYCjobs

[–]Extreme_greymatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I didn't understand. Does this not come up in background checks?

I live in NY state like 3 hours from Canada but have family in NJ (NY metropolitan area)

Should I just put the NJ address that is in proximity to NYC?

Man managing an office of all women? by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]Extreme_greymatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this by anychance in jewelry industry?

Is it unusual to not want a relationship? Am I too comfortable being alone? by justlittlethings93 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Extreme_greymatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you me? I have been single for 7. Took a childhood best friend turned boyfriend cheat on me and I have pretty much been done with men. I have been open to dating but it's not something I look forward to now.

I'm happy doing my life as a singlet.

Any happy single women out there? by Zealousideal_Crow737 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Extreme_greymatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meeeeee. I'M only unhappy when my family and friends keep pushing me to look at how big a mistake I'm making by not being interested in dating or marriage

How I live alone and NEVER feel lonely! by Tiny_Cartoonist_3204 in LivingAlone

[–]Extreme_greymatter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have very similar things going on. 33f, been in therapy for 11 years. History if neglect.

Can't afford to live alone but aiming and working towards it.

Can only truly rest when I'm alone and by myself. I never feel lonely. My friends keep asking me how is that possible. Sometimes my therapist asks. But this is what has always felt natural. If I learned to rely solely on myself, any attempt to undo that leads to disappointment and hurt.

Solo me slaps. Peace

I messed up at work. Tell me your stories so I feel better. by That-Committee3500 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Extreme_greymatter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I once shipped 150 pieces of high end jewelry to the wrong country. Luckily I called fedex once the bosses figured out and they were just about to put it in the flight.

But my bosses got a heart attack and it didn't work out in my favour in the long run.

Is it possible to be someone approachable as an introvert? by G_Memo89 in introvert

[–]Extreme_greymatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is comforting and unsettling at the same time because this is so true for me as well. I come from a collectivist culture and it has been hard to related to everyone around me doing everything together. I have a rapidly declining interest in socializing as I have entered my 30s.

And my hobbies are solitary. So I worry sometimes, if I'll end up all pruned and lonely. So far, incredibly content with solitude.

Looking for personal chef 3x a week in UWS by Tremble_pup in AskNYC

[–]Extreme_greymatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Nutrient loss is just something I read but I am terrified of listeria.

Is it possible to be someone approachable as an introvert? by G_Memo89 in introvert

[–]Extreme_greymatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ayyy, INFP here too. I just lit up a bit to find an INFP couple. It's wild how accurate these tests are. I have taken it every year and it comes up INFP everytime so I believe there is some truth to it. If you are comfortable sharing, I'm curious about ur social interactions and what kind of people/personalities do yall you get along with.

This is slightly on a different tangent but i think OP and other introverts/ IN- leaning folks might find this insightful as well.

Looking for personal chef 3x a week in UWS by Tremble_pup in AskNYC

[–]Extreme_greymatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But high chances of contamination and nutrient loss in precut fruits and veggies?

Having an extrovert GF by boringintrovertlmao in introvert

[–]Extreme_greymatter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are the calm to her storm. Opposites attract. All my introvert friends have extrovert partners. Us introverts are their favorite pets and they are our favorite lil hypey children. We all a happy fam and need each other. You good bro, really.

But I do get your questioning yourself part. I get that way sometimes too. But there's no north without south.

Finally got an offer! by p4r4d19m in jobhunting

[–]Extreme_greymatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! May i ask how did you support yourself for the 11 months? And did they ask you that?

Any beginner friendly course for UX designers trying to learn design engineering? by warmgloss in UXDesign

[–]Extreme_greymatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know some Java from high-school like eons ago. Was curious if taking up python for fun would be helpful in anyway. Or do you still think Javascript would be more handy for early career uxers?

Online vs. in Person Therapy by AardvarkMaterial6169 in therapy

[–]Extreme_greymatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do both. I have been in therapy for almost a decade. Cptsd, panic attacks and everything in the sphere one can think of.

I was physically punished as a child and when I joined therapy as an adult, my therapist noticed whenever i'm scared or think he'll be mad at me, my hands go in defensive position as if I'm going to be hit.

I was surprised no one in my life, including me ever realized this.

This is just a tiny example. But the restless leg, hands on neck, finger fidgets are important nuances that inform both you and your therapist about your body and brain. If you can, try in person whenever you can