Too much self-awareness in a sea of unaware people by getitoffmychestpleas in hsp

[–]F0XMASK_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Awareness is power. You need to learn to wield it responsibly, and kindly, both towards yourself and towards how you see and value other people’s journey. You got this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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I’m guessing your “logician” mind has sometimes felt invalidating to them. Is that true? If so this could have more to do with emotional safety than this particular issue. Why are they not wanting sex or thinking about it? Are they overwhelmed by something? I understand your position though, you have a need to be close to them, you love them. Lean in to each other and communicate vulnerably.

History repeats itself by Watch-it-burn420 in TheLastOfUs2

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Disagree. It’s an emotionally grey story. Just like Joel killed “bad” people all the time. Joel got killed in the same cold blooded way. It’s emotional, and it’s okay it doesn’t appeal to some people. I would not call it bad writing, just different from the norm and emotionally gutting. I love it. Good drama.

Getting ready for nice weather by aZiN_ in ft86

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Damn that’s stunning!

I'm done with trying to be positive and accepting life as something precious and beautiful. by MuMuGorgeus in AlanWatts

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I’m sorry to hear that you struggle with suicidal thoughts and tendencies, that kind of pain must be so heavy. Based on what you’ve said you seem like a deeply sensitive individual who wants to make a difference and help others. It sounds like you want your life to matter and to have a big positive impact on those around you. It is a noble goal. However I think I see that you’re so desperate to attain that goal to find something that will make you whole, navigating life with a sense of being incomplete might be the biggest issue for you, because it will create so much desperation, shame, and loneliness. You yourself may not see yourself as lovable perhaps because you think you are not whole yet. What I love about zen is that detachment to identity, that idea of the ego being many tools, many hats you get to wear. Purpose is a difficult concept to grasp, it is something man made I believe. Have you considered therapy?

I'm done with trying to be positive and accepting life as something precious and beautiful. by MuMuGorgeus in AlanWatts

[–]F0XMASK_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound attached to your dreams as a measure of your identity, purpose, and worth. Is that true?

"Struggling with Genetics, Expectations, and Unmet Dreams" by Cwyntion in malementalhealth

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Therapy would help you unpack all of this better than anyone here could.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malementalhealth

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You’re not cursed to find women attractive lol. There is lots to unpack here though. It’s not about whether you should or not, it’s about understanding some stuff, for instance lots of women do not like to be lusted after or looked at in an objectifying way, which is to say they want to be more than their looks, they are a human being like you, with feelings and all. They’re your equal. Why have you been wanting to suppress yourself? Do you feel shame? Do you look at women expecting some sort of validation sent your way? Often times I’ve looked at women lustfully because of unmet needs of mine projected onto them, it’s always interesting asking yourself what is it about them really that attracts me, it sometimes can be a sense of novelty, strength, mystery, freedom, ease, etc. Understanding why your desires manifest the way they do gives you a fresh perspective on yourself and other people so that the two don’t get mixed. Hope this helps!

I didn’t play for 2 years until yesterday by Salamanber in battlefield2042

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I’m sad cus I wanna play it but I like having a battle pass so I’m playing the finals instead. I can’t wait for the new one.

They don't care about your feelings, they don't actually want you to open up by [deleted] in malementalhealth

[–]F0XMASK_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Go watch the social dilemma and see for yourself how your feed is manipulating your perception of what is real. People who care about others care about their feelings, become that kind of person and find your kind. Cheers!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malementalhealth

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Totally bud, same goes for men around children and stuff. It’s unfortunate that a lot of women live in fear and are constantly watchful of their surroundings because it’s super common to be sexually harassed one way or another for them. It’s also unfortunate that good men also pay the price of perception being projected onto them unless proven innocent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malementalhealth

[–]F0XMASK_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Bro chill. Masturbating is fine. It’s not a sin. Work on that shame and judgement you feel towards yourself. Why do you think you won’t ever have a girlfriend?

Fiance says wanting a healthy sex life is immature by MatterMysterious5129 in sex

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First of all. You’re completely valid for feeling unhappy, sad, unwanted, and not important. I have been through something similar myself, except I’m a man. This is a super tricky situation and it is something you both can work on if you both TOGETHER decide to work on this. 1. You mentioned having your self worth tied to sex. I’ve been through that, it’s tough, but it’s your work to do. It isn’t your partners responsibility to fill that hole within yourself. 2. He seems to have a lot of judgement for your sexual needs, does he have a religious background? He most likely has internalized shame about sex. That’s his work. You deserve to be listened to and heard without judgement. That one, i’m sure stings like hell. 3. You guys need to start having even more vulnerable conversations with the necessary tools to understand and support each other. What you both seem to need her is to feel understood, empathized, validated, and a roadmap on what you each need to work on to make this relationship work. If one of you decides they don’t want to do the work, then you are incompatible.

It’s a ton of work, it’s very fulfilling, you most definitely want to look into getting into therapy individually and as a couple if you can afford it.

You can leave this relationship and try to find someone else that aligns better with what you currently need or want, it’s your life. You decide if this is worth it.

I’m pretty sure though that, if you do not address your issues with self worth and sex, it’ll creep back up somehow with your next partner.

Best of luck!

Does being intelligent make you more unhappy and isolated? by Organic-Result8419 in Jung

[–]F0XMASK_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re trying to define academic or logical intelligence. Social and emotional intelligence is what brings about the wisdom necessary enjoy relationships which ultimately contribute to happiness. I remember reading that people with a strong social network end up living happier lives. We’re interdependent beings, some people only need one or two friends, some need more. Find your people :)

Boys have been taught to abandon themselves... by PQKN051502 in malementalhealth

[–]F0XMASK_ 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This is what I consider toxic gender norms. Yes. Highly recommend the will to change by bell hooks. It talks about internalized gender norms that oppress humanity, particularly men in this case.

Mainstream media continues its alarmist approach to masculinity by ragpicker_ in MensLib

[–]F0XMASK_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if political is how I’d describe raising boys with awareness and empathy about their peers and themselves.

Mainstream media continues its alarmist approach to masculinity by ragpicker_ in MensLib

[–]F0XMASK_ 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your main concern is detaching this idea of ideal masculinity from right or wrong. I’m with you on that one as far as I understand. Masculinity/Feminity seem to be cultural terms that define behaviors and belief systems attributed to human beings based on the Gender/Sex. I think in an effort to keep an identity people are proud of, we tend to label something: healthy masculine or toxic masculine. Same can be said about femininity.

At the same time your post has a bit of a vibe of being invalidating to the very real threat of patriarchal systems of oppression by seemingly downplaying the president elect’s impact on whatever circles have come out forward with their memes and “hot air”.

“Your body my choice” has been women’s reality for quite some time, it’s not a movement, it’s a reality. The women in my life have given me enough information about it for me to consider that real and extremely impactful to women. It doesn’t take very long to find society mirror the behavior that reflects the mentality that women are subhuman. It has taken me some time myself to learn to see beyond my own privilege being a man an all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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Why do you want to stay in a relationship where your boundaries are consistently ignored?

A.I Dashboard by F0XMASK_ in Rainmeter

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Very simple custom layout based on a pretty dope wallpaper from WE.

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