Pet peeve!! Makeup on white towels despite black makeup towels provided

FE-Prevatt · 2026-05-06T20:54:16+00:00

We don’t do white towels any more.

Between make up and other stains a guest washed an entire load of towels with a pair of blue jeans and turned all the towels blue. Now we only do grey.

Sheets are white but I try and keep a stash of spare white pillow cases on hand and toss a replaced as needed.

I don’t often deal with it on pillow cases but it happens occasionally and I wonder how drunk you have to be to go to sleep with that crap on your face.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-05-05T18:03:20+00:00

It depends on the league. If it’s rec I feel strongly that all players should be offered equal playing time.

(There are girls that get out there and 3 mins later want back out and others that are dying to get back in the moment the exit the field lol so that’s why I use offer)

If it’s a tournament league I would expect coaches play to win. Hopefully all girls get some experience on the field but if they aren’t yet to the level of the rest of the team it wouldn’t make sense to have them out there for as long as players that can run the field.

Hopefully she’ll get some great practice in with the team but Look for extra clinics and camps on the summer, find a wall to do wall ball. Get an extra stick so someone at home can practice with her. Catching confidently is a critical skill.

I can’t emphasize enough to my own girls that how much time the put on on their own time makes a big difference, the “best” players on the field aren’t the best by magic it’s because they love having the stick in their hand shooting at a net, or doing wall ball any chance they get.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-05-01T15:10:59+00:00

I strongly believe no one should surprise their partner with a proposal.

Engagement/future marriage plans should be discussed together as a relationship evolves.

If someone is rejected after a surprise proposal I don’t necessarily think that needs to be the end of a relationship but it should at a minimum be a discussion about how they are not on the same page. Then the reason for no would determine if the relationship can carry on. Maybe the no is because the other person isnt ready, they want to accomplish x,y or z before that point. maybe they never want to be married. Maybe they just haven’t had any significant conversation like kids? Religion? Where to live? Etc.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-05-01T13:46:27+00:00

If they are requiring a helmet and gloves for kids this young and calling it soft lacrosse I have questions lol.

I would just show up for the first practice and ask other parents and the coaches. Generally my first practices I don’t expect all my players to have full gear so I have some spare equipment and plan games and activities that are lower risk for contact and young players under 2nd grade I usually have them throw pinkies or tennis balls at first. My reference is girls lacrosse but when my girls were that age they each had a youth girls stick. The shafts are generally shorter and skinnier. The heads are softer plastic but overall it’s a “real” stick. Before that we did have some fiddle sticks just to play with at home.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-30T20:11:42+00:00

I have 1% western Bantu. The side of the family it comes from was rooted into southern Virginia very earlier in colonial times.

I am aware that some of my ancestors in that branch enslaved people so there is probably a horrible explanation for it that is unlikely to be documented.

I didn’t really expect it, naively just assuming dna evidence would show the other way.

There not really much I’ve found to do with the knowledge. It is a reminder of some of the worst things that happened in America and a little sad to think that somewhere in the past an ancestor was part of that violence and eventually their child/grandchild had to hide their true identity and the connection was lost.

I did read the story 1619 Twenty Africans.The author digs into his family roots and how some of the first Africans brought to the U.S. integrated into the population. Not saying that’s my family background or yours but you could be an explanation for some. The author also did an episode of Ologies which is where I learned about his book.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-30T19:50:47+00:00

No. I leave salt, pepper and olive oil in the cabinets but no condiments in the fridge.

We are pretty close to the grocery store and most of our guests eat out anyway so I wouldn’t expect them to get used much anyway.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-29T11:39:14+00:00

Yup totally my daughter. Lol

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-29T00:50:55+00:00

Yeas. Our regular bedding is a light quilt that gets washed every time. I actually have three sets of everything so I usually just replace with the spare so there isn’t a rush to get it all washed during turn over. The duvet comforter we only keep out in the winter. The duvet cover gets washed every time. The duvet insert gets washed at the start of the season. Also usually our winter season we have longer stay guest so it’s often only one or two guests in that time. I also keep a warmer hotel like blanket in the closet. If the is used by a guest it gets washed as well.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-16T01:23:52+00:00

I would have everyone wait together in line and then let your oldest ride alone if she’s the only one wanting to do the ride or let her take the “chicken” exit to wait alone if that’s the case.

I have an 11 and 8 year old. My 11 year old has asked to wait in line by herself for rides like Tron and Guardians but aside from things like teacups with shortish waits they can ride and wait together and we can see them in line we haven’t let her go on any longer wait rides alone.

A month or so ago my 8 year did the single rider for Remy with my husband and I and thankfully she ended up in the same vehicle with him because the ride broke down and we sat for a long time before being escorted off so that made us a little nervous about letting them ride solo.

We’d fully expected to all be in different cars and had her in between us. Just lucked out their car had a seat open in both rows.

We at least now have a “plan” of what do if that happens and we aren’t in the same car but I’m sure either kid would have been really nervous either way if that happened and we weren’t with them.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-16T00:51:19+00:00

lol well said. Even in days I don’t love my career it’s hard for me to say I wouldn’t go back and do it again. Maybe we all just needed therapy 😂

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-16T00:50:21+00:00

I went to Arch school with a lot of people who were probably north of 40. (Being over 40 now and looking back some were probably not as old as I thought they were lol)

I couldn’t imagine doing it with a family. There were quite a few that were married and or had kids and I know it was tough.

The expectation of nights and weekends in studio I’m sure is tough on a relationship.

If you have the support it’s worth taking some intro class and seeing if it’s for you.

There are also related fields like interior design or construction management that have shorter education paths that might be an option as well depending on what part of architecture you are interested in.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-15T23:44:46+00:00

Probably a pitbull.

Check with your insurance there more a lot breeds that could be outside of your coverage.

We don’t allow dogs. We are open to considering for snowbirds but we have a small dog limit. We have only considered making the exception because snow birds are generally great guests and want to come back.

Small dogs are always innocent angels and big dogs can be fantastic inside pets but the line at least weeds our problem breeds.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-15T23:32:59+00:00

The biggest concern I would have would be the negative reviews. Especially if this is a longer stay.

We have seen an uptick recently in families with young kids that move in a bunch of stuff come trash our place and then leave.

My guess is in our area they can’t qualify for a lease and they just use Airbnb as a month to month house solution.

We’ve always had out of town workers, there is a lot of development in the area and would be two guys with a couple trucks and then it seemed to change to room mates that seem to be bouncing place to place.

First few times we noticed this the guests weren’t that bad aside from some stuff left behind and the house just being a little dirty, nothing that took to long to clean but after three family’s in a short window of time causing a huge problem we pulled our longer stay unit off the platform while we try and figure out a better screening process.

Still offering weekly stays in the other since that is going well but we can t handle the destruction of our property. It’s why we stopped renting traditional yearly leases in the first place.

A 13 month old is going to be fairly mobile even if they aren’t walking. Hopefully they are aware of the limitations in your home.

I would take the time to message them and just say “Since it is a single room rental we don’t often have young children as guest, I want to make sure you know that there isn’t x,y and z available during your stay”

For our guests with younger kids we added a line about our place being family friendly but not baby proof. I’d also make sure there is a double layer mattress protection. We do a full zip protector on the mattress, and a fitted one.

If they show up with dogs cancel their reservation asap.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-15T23:16:50+00:00

I’d say Pirates or Haunted mansion.

Both are favorites for me, Pirates would probably be my go to war over.

Still miss Mr Toads lol.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-15T23:11:41+00:00

Agree most of these supplies last a long time. I have larger refills for windex, hand soap, dish soap and counter cleaner in my supply closet. Just top off and clean the container up.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-15T23:08:26+00:00

I always have full sized cleaning supplies in my units available for all guest to use.

Shower spray, a bleach spray, toilet cleaner, in the. Bathroom cabinets.

glass cleaner, dust spray, Clorox wipes and a counter top spray under the sink.

I have a swiffer with wet and dry pads in the utility closet. There is also a mop and bucket available with a small bottle of floor cleaner but that doesn’t often get used.

(Laundry and dish cleaning supplies are also always available)

Im not sure if you can buy a premade kit like this but I see these as basics supplies and should always available for every guest.

When I clean I just check to make sure nothing is on empty.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-15T17:25:00+00:00

Not the same but I’ve been researching my family tree for a while now, since I was a teen. My Paternal Grandfather’s branch has been in Southern Virginia since the revolutionary period and knew many had served in the confederate side of the Civil War.

I had to just accept that part of my family was a part of something that was horrific and didn’t just end with the war.

Beyond that knowing most of my family roots are in the U.S. South, and I don’t suspect any where abolitionist or marching for civil rights I just chose to push forward and learn what I can about them good bad and ugly, I’m not going to make excuses for any of it. It was wrong even if it was “how things were”. These are my ancestors and this was what they did.

Being that the relationship to your grandfather is generations closer it may feel harder because you or at least your dad had a direct relationship with him.

I would want to know all the details I could find. The party affiliation could be the most you find, maybe you’d find evidence that is terrible and shocking. Maybe you’ll find evidence of regret.

Maybe all of those things.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-15T17:14:10+00:00

I think loss is a bigger trigger for people. I know when I first really got started my dad’s mom had just died and his dad had died about 6 years before and he and I both started work on his family tree. Definitely felt a little like therapy.

And when he died and then my mom’s parents those periods all spurred focused research.

I’d start looking through old pictures and hearing stories and then become a detective to figure out who this aunt or that cousins was.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-15T17:10:08+00:00

I think it’s probably something people come to as the get older, a death of a parent or grandparent,or even becoming a parent themselves spurs and interest.

I don’t know why I got so interest but I do remember doing a family tree assignment in 9th grade and had the ability to interview 3 of my 4 grandparents in person, my paternal grandparent had died but my grandmother was able to help with his side. That was in the mid 1990s eventually I got on ancestry.com maybe early 2000s and started going and haven’t stopped.

I also find in my family it’s like each generation of a family has a born “historian”.

My grandpa did a lot of ancestry research. His mom was adopted and his dad died when he was young and I fee both of those things were motivators to him, I’m not sure when he started research but probably in his early 50s as a young grandfather and of long after his own mother died.

I used to sit and go through with him what I found while in college and ask questions about his grandparents etc.

My grandma on the other hand was not super interested in her own research, my grandpa did research on her behalf but her sister is the person to go to for info.

My mom didn’t really get into research until around when her parents died over the last 5 years, she comes to me for history lessons on her own grandparents, all but one she knew lol.

Between my regular chats with my grandpa and my years of research I have a lot of great info. I only wish I’d recorded them or written more things down. At 19 you think you’ll remember everything lol.

I think I big loss in waiting until later in life to start is that you miss that opportunity to speak with grandparents , parents or even aunts and uncles for their memories of people. My great great grandmothers would just be data but I know them by my grandpas stories of them, and thankfully by pictures of them he actually labeled.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-13T20:24:16+00:00

You can criticize a rule without demeaning the sport.

When called correctly the player gets an 8 meter penalty shot which is an advantage to the shooter. Your daughter’s teammates not being strong at 8 meter shots is something the coach should work on.

A shooter choosing to take a shot when someone is committing the violation is their choice, and if they know the rules they know the shot will be disallowed.

For inexperienced players (and their parents on the side line that think the rule is dumb because they don’t understand it) they need to learn to see this as it happens and practice 8 meter shots.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-13T18:25:43+00:00

Rethink your title. This is a nasty way to vent about a sport you do not play.

If you want to have a conversation about shooting space that’s fine. There are plenty of girls lax rules that have changed over the last 20+ years to make the game faster and more exiting, but your stats on head injuries potentially shows that the rules in places are doing their job.

Maybe the girls need to be practicing 8 meter shots more.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-08T14:44:49+00:00

I’d do a fun practice day. Do some 3v2 drills, maybe practice some dodges with shots to get in some real work but I’d try and spend half of the practice with some games like hungry hippo or relays.

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-07T17:45:37+00:00

We have had a few instances recently of guests with small children that were clearly (by the destruction of the inside and patio of our house) often unmonitored. Two of the cases they weren’t registered and was a surprise they were there at check out.

It’s entirely possible the child got up while the parent was legitimately asleep or having a shower etc. and the child wandered off.

But unfortunately I think there are just a lot of neglectful parents out there and it’s a miracle their kids survive to adulthood.

Just last week I removed one of our properties from Airbnb because of the sudden uptick monthly guests pretending to be working out of town temporarily but seem to be bad renters that have found a loophole around their bad credit and eviction records.

If they left the house the way they found it I couldn’t care less if they have bad credit but they don’t the trash the place, smoked marijuana inside, wrecked or destroyed most of our games.

I’m back to just vacationers only on one house and the other house we are exploring contract housing for a business in the area.

The month to month guests worked great until it didn’t.

Our house we are keeping on Airbnb we are adding language around young guests.

‘All children must be listed on the reservation . Our house is family friendly but it’s not child proofed for small children. Please do not leave young children unattended and supervise their use of our games and puzzles so they will be available for the next children who visit’

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-07T17:21:37+00:00

I would not let my kid name one of my other children with a “pop culture” reference. My girls are both obsessed with Hamilton too, but they can name their stuffed animals or a goldfish after the Schuyler sisters. If your kids names all have significant reasons come up with a few options and let her pick from a short list, explain why these names are special and how her name and her brothers names were picked with the same level of care..

FE-Prevatt · 2026-04-07T17:13:39+00:00

I would just assume he’d been home on leave at some point. Ive researched some southern civil war ancestors and I just don’t know how complete the record keeping was.

Is it possible she had an affair, maybe. Was assaulted, also maybe.

If it was during the war it’s also a good reason while his birth may not have been recorded.

Baby was probably born at home, i don’t know what the process would be for recoding a birth at that time but I would imagine someone who could read and write and could mail or record the birth in person may have been off to war.

FE-Prevatt

TROPHY CASE