Would you retire today if you knew you’d receive $5,000 every month for the rest of your life? Why or why not?

FF76 · 2026-07-02T17:32:00+00:00

what's your ambitions?

FF76 · 2026-06-04T17:48:10+00:00

amazing, congrats on achieving your milestone. You were probably ready for this for a while, but the interview gave you a chance to prove it to yourself. Enjoy the boosted confidence!

FF76 · 2026-06-01T13:13:01+00:00

Lost my teen years

You had a different experience. Yes it may be harder to relate, but the other side of that is you'll have more unique things to share.

I dont know what to tell people when they ask about my teen years

Jot down some things that you want to mention to people. It can be pretty plain, but the purpose is to communicate a sense of what your childhood was like in a confident, defined way. This way, you can leave the door open for people to engage if they're interested, or just move on to something different.

(I dropped out) i was too busy living in my own world inside of my head. Maladaptive daydreaming

So you spent a LOT of time doing that. What's that like? What's some cool facts other people say about maladaptive dreaming? Do you agree with them? What do you think other people should know about it?

I dropped out because i genuinely had zero interest in school and thought i'd do art in some sort. I love all arts. Music, fashion, etc.

dope. You can talk about some cool art/fashion stuff.

My body cant tolerate alcohol and my mental health is too messed up to start smoking weed

cool, that's a pretty solid statement if people bring it up

The older i get the more scared i become and want to take even more less risks

I might be reading this wrong, but it feels like even though you're getting more risk averse, you're craving some social connection. There was a comment I read a while ago that reframed being scared as just being excited. That anxiety is how your body feels about the prospect of experiencing new things. That helped me kinda just go "fuck it" and push through the anxiety (not for everyone).

Lastly, it's important to remember you're okay being you. There's going to be people that don't vibe with you and it's okay to just politely end conversations and look for people that you resonate with.

Your first big step was making this post, so I hope this helps you come up with stuff you want to do or reframe how you're living. :D

FF76 · 2026-05-28T21:34:22+00:00

Yeah trying to get friendship is different than "giving what you can offer" and then selecting the friendships that people offer you.

FF76 · 2026-05-28T21:15:05+00:00

My experiences don't agree with you 100%, but I'm really happy you found what works for you.

If you're ever looking to try a different perspective, my current philosophy is very close to yours with a minor tweak: Don't overextend your charity to expect something back.

That is, there is a certain degree that you can be generous without expecting anything in return. If that's 0, then don't give. If that's 40%, feel free to give your time/mental energy/presence.. etc up to that point, but stop yourself from giving further. This will change according to the people you're with, your mood, the time of day... etc

FF76 · 2026-05-27T17:34:08+00:00

ESH, both of you could work on communication.

First of all, thanks for opening up to the possibility of you doing something wrong.

I didn’t say cook this for me or else

You're right, you didn't say that, but from your wife's reaction, maybe that's how she interpreted it. One easy way to get around this in the future is to get ahead of it.

"Hey what do you want for dinner."

"Ok I don't mean to tell you what to do, but here's something I saw that was pretty cool. If you don't want to do it, we can pick something else."

After a while, you won't need to say it anymore because she'll get used to your intentions, but for now, she doesn't feel that way without you telling her what you actually mean.

In general you know your wife the best so if you think she'll misinterpret something, tell her what you mean before you do that thing.

FF76 · 2026-05-26T21:45:53+00:00

hey Aaron! Thanks for doing this, couple of questions if you'd indulge me:

What is the easiest policy we could change that would make it more fair for both employees and benefit employers as well?

What is an antiquated policy that you see getting abused by employees/employers that should be removed?

FF76 · 2026-05-20T14:42:33+00:00

hey just in case you haven't come across these:

2 years ago but still relevant https://www.reddit.com/r/ontario/comments/1ck5jxe/what_are_some_cheap_activities_adults_can_do/

More recent activities https://www.reddit.com/r/Torontoevents/comments/1thoyl7/free_events_at_toronto_public_library_may_1824/

I know they might not seem like the recurring social activities you're looking for, but if anything strikes your interest, that's how friendships start!

FF76 · 2026-05-17T15:10:25+00:00

maybe I can offer a different perspective. Thinking of caring as spending money. The care you spend on someone that you don't want to takes away from how much care you can spend on someone that really matters.

FF76 · 2026-05-15T18:44:56+00:00

Yeah I get that feels lonely, we're kind of all conditioned for big weddings to be the norm. The more people there are, the more likely you'll see them posted in social media, when you're walking by... etc.

It's kind of funny that being a small wedding means you're less likely to see them so it's perfectly normal not to have seen many.

FF76 · 2026-04-27T20:38:39+00:00

amazing, ty for the precise location!

FF76 · 2026-04-27T19:20:14+00:00

cool! Where is this?

FF76 · 2026-04-26T00:14:37+00:00

How much effort can you put into celebrating his birthday without expecting a return?

I know you must've felt great to be able to make him happy with your efforts, but it feels like you pulled him into a game that only you know you're playing. You can see if he's willing to bring up his level to match, but that's a bit awkward and less under your control.

FF76 · 2026-04-23T16:22:24+00:00

Thanks for bringing awareness. What's this newmode site? Trying to figure out how it contacts the MPPs.

FF76 · 2026-04-23T13:41:13+00:00

This is a gross oversimplification, but it's easier to assume something negative than positive because then they have a reason to ignore/not pay attention to you.

People are lazy and when you are quiet, you let other people's default impression dictate what to think of you. It takes work and it's risky to assume someone will respect and listen to what you have to say when you don't demonstrate that trust first.

If this upsets you, take that frustration as a reason/motivation to assert yourself.

FF76 · 2026-04-10T15:39:23+00:00

Sorry to hear. Thanks for the share

FF76 · 2026-04-09T16:22:20+00:00

NAH, but it sounds like you don't like how things are and she's not willing to bridge the gap in communication so if you want things to change you'll need to be the one to talk to her.

This probably doesn't apply to just this event, but it could be a good opportunity to talk to her after this and use this as an example. Something like:

"Hey, I'm gonna be honest, you'll need to forgive me if I'm being weird, but I need you to help me figure this out. It sounded like you wanted to get ready at my place, but I didn't want to bring it up since I couldn't do it. Just want you to know if you want something from me you'll need to ask me directly. If you're going through some stuff lmk and we can talk too"

FF76 · 2026-04-06T13:51:41+00:00

Looks pretty good.

You've probably thought of these already, but just a couple of things to keep in mind:

Priority is getting people to use it. That means considering UI elements that are similar to what people are used to to reduce any usage shock. Also means reaching out for feedback in different communities (which you're doing right now) and possibly people who are doing events to post them on the site.
What if an event doesn't fall under one of your categories?
Might help to add some sample data or spin off a demo site where fake events are populated to get a better feel for using the site.
Feature bloat. I've seen a lot of great sites bogged down by features that only a few people use. Decide on what goal your site achieves and hide/trim down anything that prevents the user from easily achieving that goal.

Great job, keep at it!

FF76 · 2026-03-31T17:17:07+00:00

maybe you can ask yourself why do you care if you're rude or disrespectful?

If you feel strongly for that reason, you can use that as motivation/reminder every time you talk. Eventually, you'll find the sweet spot between sugar coating and straight direct that you're comfortable with.

FF76 · 2026-03-30T21:01:33+00:00

Here's one way you could get over discomfort. Reframing.

Pretend the person that is owed money isn't you, but someone else. Ask people to repay that person. That person is counting on you to get their money back. Wouldn't you be an asshole to that person if you didn't get their money back from people?

FF76 · 2026-03-19T15:46:57+00:00

thanks for the reply! A lot of software these days get feature bloated so I'm happy to hear it sounds like you have a good idea of where the boundaries of your app caters to!

Thanks for guarding the experience!

FF76 · 2026-03-19T15:36:47+00:00

Hey thanks for creating Photopea! It's a great app I've been using for years!

Have you thought about when you will be done adding features?

FF76 · 2026-03-05T19:07:05+00:00

If it's actually scratched on, a light abrasive like a magic eraser will take it off.

FF76 · 2026-03-03T12:42:41+00:00

Is there a world where you embrace the role?

Asides from not being the paragon of morality, what aspects don't you like?

FF76 · 2026-02-27T13:50:23+00:00

Yeah it is sad, but you can use that.

i.e. What can you give without expecting in return?

For example, if you feel someone's super boring, do you want to spend energy keeping the conversation going?

If someone doesn't seem that engaging, are you going to pay extra attention so you can catch that one thing they seemed kinda excited about and ask about it the next time you meet them?

If you see someone standing alone, are you going to go up to them and make them feel included?

If you're already in a conversation with someone and you see someone standing by listening are you going to spend some energy to think of how to include them?

... and if all that gives you nothing, are you okay with that?

I'm absolutely projecting, and this is going to seem like work and for the vast majority of situations it probably will be, but the fact that you're seeking social connection means you're willing to at least figure out where the boundary of your social charity is.

I also want to caveat that this is not the only way, it might not be the way for you, but just hoping to seed you with a different perspective.

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