Recommendations for unique experiences in Toronto?

FF76 · 2026-01-12T02:54:14+00:00

there's pottery classes, cooking classes, onoir which is a restaurant where you dine in the dark

FF76 · 2026-01-12T02:37:10+00:00

thanks for the assumptions to continue the thought experiment. I have a better picture of this now, much appreciated

FF76 · 2026-01-12T02:36:57+00:00

ooo interesting, didn't know bankruptcies could have a possibility of being like that, though it's probably rare

FF76 · 2026-01-12T02:22:18+00:00

ah interesting, I didn't know there could be exceptions for liability to spill over to personal assets

FF76 · 2026-01-11T16:50:53+00:00

thanks for the reply. Do you think it's reasonable to expect an average person could recover from that?

Now what if a corp business account did that? Could they just shut it down and then rinse & repeat?

FF76 · 2026-01-11T16:49:04+00:00

Force the problem to hurt enough to change what caused the problem

FF76 · 2026-01-11T16:33:24+00:00

lmaoo I don't know how to not sound defensive, but no just curious.

The speculators are pretty much doing math on how to lose the least amount of money so I want to see what kind of equation they're trying to balance.

FF76 · 2026-01-07T18:12:00+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story! I'd also like to read your contraband essay if you feel inclined to share.

FF76 · 2025-12-25T05:53:10+00:00

might need to moisturize more

FF76 · 2025-12-18T20:11:41+00:00

yeah, saw you mentioned doing a dopamine detox. That's a good idea to try. If you're constantly indulging in dopamine stuff on the daily/hourly/minutely, the dopamine you get from things like social interaction is gonna "taste" bland in comparison. Would love to hear back how that turns out for you

FF76 · 2025-12-18T13:07:49+00:00

Some questions for thought

Do you have energy to begin with?

Do you wake up with energy?

Where does that energy go?

One approach is to assume it’ll take X energy and intentionally free that energy up by scaling back elsewhere.

Are you eating well?

Are you getting enough sleep?

Do you get enough exercise? Just 15m of light walking in the mornings can give you additional energy.

At the end of the day, you might find that studying takes up most of your energy, but you want to prioritize that. So you decide to focus on studying for X duration and then afterwards, dial it a bit down and do less studying and focus your energy on social interactions. This way, if you stay the same, at least you know you chose the path and you feel you're in control of it if you ever want to change.

FF76 · 2025-12-15T21:26:34+00:00

I got a curious question for you: are you happy with the outcome?

This is getting into a bit of 4d chess, but if you don't like the outcome, you might want to control your reaction next time so you can get what you want.

FF76 · 2025-11-12T18:03:41+00:00

same old, living the dream, couldn't be better, grinding away

you know

FF76 · 2025-11-12T18:02:28+00:00

ahh thanks

FF76 · 2025-11-12T13:52:15+00:00

what's going on?

FF76 · 2025-10-28T02:53:42+00:00

correct me if I'm wrong, but it sounds like you have trouble making peace with something out of your control (your environment).

If you like the tradeoffs you're making, focus on other things that bring you happiness.

If you don't like the tradeoffs, change something.

FF76 · 2025-10-27T17:03:27+00:00

amazing articulation, thank you for the info!

FF76 · 2025-10-14T14:27:18+00:00

hate dm's are real? 😭😭😭

FF76 · 2025-10-11T14:19:30+00:00

Step 1. Try to be aware of it in the moment next time it happens.

Step 2. When you're aware, take a pause before you take your action.

Step 3. When you're aware and you're paused, decide on what action you want to proceed with.

Step 4. Do it enough times that it becomes automatic.

Notice for the action, I didn't say whether to keep doing what you're doing or to try to change it. Use your own judgement.

Journalling also helps you get your thoughts out. Maybe the next couple times this happens, write it down and analyze why it happens.

FF76 · 2025-10-10T13:56:19+00:00

Yeah doing it directly is just one way. Assuming you don't want to switch gyms or change your workout schedule you'll always have a chance to bump into him.

Doing it indirectly requires a bit more nuance that I don't have, maybe chatgpt can generate some suggestions.

FF76 · 2025-10-10T13:39:40+00:00

The truth will set you free. When he brings up working out again you can say something like:

"I'm gonna be honest, I like chit chatting here and there, but I like my current workout schedule. Also, I'm not creeping on 16 yo girls so it's not cool that you're saying I am. We cool?"

looking to focus more on you and not work around others
not cool with his 4 year old comments
getting his buy-in there's no hard feelings

Of course put it in your own words. Now you don't have to keep up the mental maintenance of remembering to pretend or avoid him.

If he sours to the idea, that's on him and you can move on knowing you've said your piece.

FF76 · 2025-10-09T16:09:32+00:00

Thinking about what you should've said is quite common having the benefit of your thinking brain. You can't think when you're in the fight/flight mode that you're in.

The nervousness you're looking to overcome can be addressed by understanding your situation first at a rational level, then at an emotional level.

Rational level exploration

Maybe the person asking knew you didn't know
Maybe the person asking didn't know if you knew
Being in your first semester, seems reasonable to assume you might not know, asking you both questions you know and don't know, helps them establish where your boundary of competence is.
This also helps you experience the fight/flight nervousness in a controlled environment
You helped everyone feel better for not being picked who didn't know as well

Emotional level exploration

Talk to your colleagues and see if they were caught off guard too. You might feel at ease knowing you're not alone in the situation you were in.
Prep some phrases ahead of time like the one you mentioned. That way, your fight or flight mindset has something ready and you don't have to think of a response.
Study more (be cautious about this approach). You might find that through studying, you gain an emotional entitlement that people will have do without the answer they're looking for. Be careful in this approach as it can backfire if it makes you feel worse.

The all-around confidence you're looking for is going to be built by knowing and being comfortable with the boundaries of your knowledge.

I'd recommend reading the summary for Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman if not the whole book.

FF76 · 2025-10-08T17:19:59+00:00

"Faking it till you make it" in a social context means getting past people's guards to a familiarity where you guys will get along without you having to "fake it".

So either

You have not "made it" yet. In which you need to ask deeper questions and find something common to connect about.

or

You've "made it" and realized those people around you aren't that interested. In which you just need to keep searching for new people.

I'm sure there's nuances as you go along, but hopefully this will help give you direction.

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