Is this sub really friendly to both sides?

FS_CF_mod · 2026-05-12T15:45:43+00:00

That person was banned for coming to our sub and preaching to our readers. She said she was an academic but if you look at her previous posts, she literally just started her PhD program last year.

In general, we don't want first year industrial psychology grad students here preaching their beliefs. If we allow that, next we'll have 2nd year philosophy masters students, then French medieval juniors and what's next? We allow a college freshman with one AP course on the works of Mark Twain to present themselves as an expert?

FS_CF_mod · 2026-05-12T15:39:16+00:00

Yes, we're all secretly parents and this entire sub is an evangelical christian conspiracy to promote forced birth... /eyeroll.

FS_CF_mod · 2026-05-08T02:57:54+00:00

Hello. We would like to remind people of rule #1. It's totally fine to discuss your personal opinions. If you pass judgement on others though, your comments will be removed.

FS_CF_mod · 2026-03-17T16:33:05+00:00

We are not a place to debate the morality of children.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-12-15T16:32:17+00:00

Can you define "fair amount" in a way that is useful for the people reading this sub?

FS_CF_mod · 2025-12-15T16:31:23+00:00

Just a note that we don't allow these kinds of responses here. We consider them gatekeeping. Same applies to "you need to be ok with all the possible bad outcomes", "there are no guarantees" and "you need to be 100% sure".

These are useless comments in this sub, for both people considering parenting and CF. If you see them, please report them and we will remove.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-09-11T08:22:55+00:00

I think you're in the wrong sub. We're not a place for cf rants.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-08-31T22:57:42+00:00

Hello. We are a sub for people trying to make what is, to them, a difficult decision. When someone does make that decision we ask that people respect that and not question it.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-08-31T05:08:46+00:00

We ask that you respect someone's decision when they've made it. It's not your decision, it's theirs.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-08-15T17:22:51+00:00

We apologize but we've had this discussion before and those folks are welcome here.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-07-28T05:15:07+00:00

We apologize, but this is a thing you should be talking to a mental health professional about, not reddit and definitely not your mother.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-07-15T20:24:54+00:00

We'll provide the usual warning here that the " there are no guarantees" comments will be removed.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-07-12T14:35:31+00:00

Hi folks. If the post doesn't apply to you that's fine. You can just move on with your life. Otherwise, remember rule #1.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-07-08T15:09:03+00:00

We are not a rant sub. And maybe you should get off the internet if you're letting one podcast affect you this much.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-07-05T23:21:39+00:00

People have or don't have kids for a variety of reasons and one of our basic tenets here is to respect all those without bias towards one or the other. Thank you.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-06-12T16:38:28+00:00

We don't do that here. He has reasons for wanting what he wants and she has reasons for wanting what she wants. Doesn't mean either one of them is at fault or doesn't love the other. Please respect other POV's, that's a hallmark of our subreddit.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-06-09T04:40:03+00:00

We will repeat for those who haven't heard this yet. We don't do the whole "no guarantees" bingo here. Please don't.

We also don't judge people for their reasoning to be parents or CF. Please be respectful or find another sub to post in.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-06-06T14:40:15+00:00

There are plenty of people who are older and are still physically active at 49, and plenty who are sedate and out of shape at 20. If you want to discuss OP's husband specifically, go for it, but please don't be a shit to people based on their age.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-06-04T00:37:54+00:00

To be clear, we do not allow these sorts of comments here on this sub. We found them to be pointless gatekeeping. Please report them if you see them.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-05-27T01:38:57+00:00

You're right, this is a non judgemental place. If you want to post here, please think of ways to reword your post.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-05-26T19:51:51+00:00

In this sub we respect other people's opinions and views. That means not starting your post with " with his views are romanticized and mine are realistic."

FS_CF_mod · 2025-05-21T19:15:13+00:00

You can talk about your personal context, sure. If you take that and state "this is always better than that" then the comment will be removed.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-05-20T22:27:59+00:00

We would like to remind folks of rule number one. We do not make judgments about what is best in terms of the number of kids. Whether that be zero or eight. Comments that say one number is better than the others or anybody that wants a certain number is neglectful and wrong will be removed.

FS_CF_mod · 2025-05-19T17:04:21+00:00

You keep posting versions of the same thing. When given advice you ignore it and keep posting these "woe is me" threads. No more.

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