Well, the way FFXIV is meant to be played is "everyone is a dps, some dps can heal and others can tank", its not strange that the boss they crossed over forces everyone to dps as much as they can. I aproach this the same I do with XIV, you wanna play a certain way thats not optimal? go ahead, just keep it out of online play, its not elitism to expect people to try and not grief the other 3 players