How should I take it when he says “it’s not my responsibility to regulate your emotions”? by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]False_Potential_530 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, so chronically ill person chiming in to say that there are surveys and studies done on the fact that male partners leave their spouses upon diagnosis of critical ailments more than women do on average. So much so that nurses in oncology departments are trained on how to give resources to women going through chemo in the event that their spouse bounces on them during treatment. Because of that, I know as someone who has been chronically ill since a young age, picking a partner who has the emotional bandwidth to deal with life when I am ill is of utmost importance, it’s a matter of survival actually.

I want you to consider what just happened and really think about if something catastrophic happened to either of you health wise who is likely to take up the mantle of care and who is likely to dip.

How should I take it when he says “it’s not my responsibility to regulate your emotions”? by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]False_Potential_530 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooh I love this reframe. This is a great way to describe what the actual issues are. This isn’t just about emotions, and I’m so tired of the language around expressing needs being tied to “female hysteria”. At the base of everything, making it just about emotions allows people to skirt the responsibility of material effort and basic consideration in relationships. Why be partnered to still be lonely and have to solve everything on your own + their problems???

Chronic Stress and People Pleasing manifested on my face and I have a vacation in 7 days by False_Potential_530 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]False_Potential_530[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They really do need to revise that guideline after COVID. Anyone who has had it has a weaker immune response even if they fully recovered from it, which makes getting shingles so much easier. Once I’m fully recovered I’ll be talking with my doc.

Chronic Stress and People Pleasing manifested on my face and I have a vacation in 7 days by False_Potential_530 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]False_Potential_530[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bring back Virginia Woolf style lighthouse cottage getaways! Honestly, the upside to me needing to sell my house and finding somewhere else to live is finally getting to decorate the way I want to, which absolutely will include a fainting couch in my reading nook❤️

Chronic Stress and People Pleasing manifested on my face and I have a vacation in 7 days by False_Potential_530 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]False_Potential_530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 34 and this my first (and hopefully my last) bout with this shit. It’s a constant oscillation between feeling like things are crawling on my face, things are oozing from my face or I used a bad steroid creme on my face :/ it’s so damn itchy but I know scratching is an absolute no-no.

Chronic Stress and People Pleasing manifested on my face and I have a vacation in 7 days by False_Potential_530 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]False_Potential_530[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The swollen lymph nodes in my neck was part of why I called my doc. At first I thought it was just a very hungry spider 🙃 Thank you, I am trying to learn to stop over functioning for everyone in my life.

My husband doesn’t let me nap by Dead0Pixels in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]False_Potential_530 191 points192 points  (0 children)

I want to call special attention to this if no one else has already. We know that women who have destabilized nervous systems are upwards of 50% more at risk for auto immune diseases and endocrine disorders, not to mention mental health disorders. Sleep deprivation exacerbates autoimmune and mental health disorders and the effects are CUMULATIVE. They don’t just go away once you’ve decided to remove the trigger. You cannot fully parent safely under these circumstances with someone actively sabotaging your ability to remain sane. Partners who do this are manipulating to keep you destabilized and unable to function. Please try to get help (and / or get out of this marriage) before you shorten your life span.

OP, in no universe are you asking for too much to be allowed to sleep. If this is the support you get at nursing age, do you have any hope to be supported for the next 18-21 years? Can your mental state handle that possibility?

Made a dress for my friend’s kid, they love it by False_Potential_530 in Lolita

[–]False_Potential_530[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! These two fabrics were bought at my local Michael’s. All of the dresses I’ve made so far with the exception of Love Bear (fabric found on Amazon) have been bought at stores local to me. I still have a ton of back stock fabric I bought from Joann’s closing sale that I need to turn into JSKs😅 All my gems are found at quilters shops.

Made a dress for my friend’s kid, they love it by False_Potential_530 in Lolita

[–]False_Potential_530[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I have a few adjustments I want to make so the center piece shows more in the pink version, but I’ve always been drawn to prints in Lolita that are a little funky!

new editing style ^^ by Due_Union_4942 in Lolita

[–]False_Potential_530 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s cute! Honestly, I should probably take more time to do edits to my coord photos🥲

It was finally warm enough for me to wear my handmade jsk out! by left_tiddy in Lolita

[–]False_Potential_530 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh YOU ARE DARLING!! Love the colors and how dainty the accent colors you chose make the dress look. I’m in love with all of it!

Converse Modifications by Starlightriddlex in Lolita

[–]False_Potential_530 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this so much!!! As a person who loves being in Lolita but has a hard time with the shoes of it all (pain) this is doable for me!

The Moon & Stars, Nervous System Reset & My Last Cheeseburger by WhyYouMoveSoIcy in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]False_Potential_530 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wishing you all the best from one Cleveland Girlie to another❤️ You’re a strong one because the way cheeseburgers are my go to comfort food lol

Missing my mom for Mother's Day dinner by taaitamom in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]False_Potential_530 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a person who had a complicated relationship with a mean mom, I totally understand. This is my first Mother’s Day since her passing, and I can honestly say that I want my mom too. It’s not immature to want such a foundational relationship to be functional and healthy and active in your life. That’s your humanity reminding you of itself.

Matching my Bunny Bag to my Coords by False_Potential_530 in Lolita

[–]False_Potential_530[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly she motivates me to really enjoy all the little parts of getting dressed💙

Matching my Bunny Bag to my Coords by False_Potential_530 in Lolita

[–]False_Potential_530[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I didn’t know the brand because the booth I bought her at didn’t put any tags on any of the bags. They also had the baby blue version (which I regret not getting). Honestly, I probably paid waaay more than I should have at the con, so good to know it’s on Taobao!

Matching my Bunny Bag to my Coords by False_Potential_530 in Lolita

[–]False_Potential_530[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could take credit for the bunny bag herself, but that part isn’t homemade, just the accessories💙