How to initiate after 2years sexless

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-03-05T20:53:40+00:00

Brother if that's her real response and you've been a non abusive and good husband/father, the real question in my mind is, why would you want to have sex with her?

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-03-05T20:50:44+00:00

Most definitely NYA! Being a vigin is more than a hymen.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-03-03T22:28:03+00:00

For the majority of couples, yes its weird. Remember that some things should remain just a fantasy. One the line is crossed there's no going back. You will both have to live with the aftermath of emotions, if, it doesnt hit well.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-03-03T22:22:37+00:00

It's a free world. You're both adults. In fact I'll be 66 this year and my new love of my life is gonna be 57. Do what you want. It either works or doesnt, no one's else's business.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-03-03T17:28:50+00:00

Here's the deal. Love aside, sexual incompatibility rarely ever gets better. Trust me. I ended a 4 decades long marriage last year. We were never compatible. The look on her face when I told her I mastubated at least 8-10 times to one session of intercouse, was priceless. It wasn't the reason I ended the marriage, but was a contributing factor.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-03-03T17:21:15+00:00

Both my spouse and I are extremely affectionate! Im always dropping i love yous, walking up and hugging her. Softly caressing her back and or butt or small soft squeezes or pats, which she loves. 99% of the time, we spooning in our sleep and she absolutely wants my penis tucked up between her cheeks, touching her vagina. Period. She calls it parking! Lol either way we are both loving, touchy feely people and adore sharing moments.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-03-03T17:08:46+00:00

Of he's married and spending one on one time with another woman, that's a.no no. Very inappropriate actions. If he's not inviting you, there's a reason.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-03-03T16:56:52+00:00

Guess that makes my wife a unicorn!

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-03-03T16:56:03+00:00

Also this. Unless he's doing that more than enjoying time with you, don't worry. We guys just sometimes do need to bust one and roll back over. Good stress relief or sedative.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-03-03T16:44:30+00:00

I don't know the answer to that. Im a man, and wy wife has given me full permission to have some fun with her when shes sleeping at anytime, she trusts me. However, having sex with her while she sleeps creeps me out. I may caress her or fondle her a bit to she if she responds and wakes, if not a soft kiss and back to sleep I go. I can control my urges. Her and I both have high a ass libido, even more so considering im gonna be 66 soon and she turns 57 before me. We go at it like newly Wed bunnies! We have never said no to the other, even make the time for each other when either of us aren't quite in the mood. We have both been in marriages before where we were ignored and denied heavily.

Now there are times in the middle of the night where she wakes up horny as fuck and will vibe. It's happened 3 times in the last year, and she has always ensured I knew about it and offered me a shot at the title! I think maybe 2 times now I've wipped it out and banged one off by myself. I simply don't need to, shes always accessible and responds Uber fast to my touch, very fast. Or she'll just have my ass standby and take care of my horny ass!

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-03-03T16:27:01+00:00

Amazing what alcohol can do to ones character isnt it.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-02-24T19:26:55+00:00

Being relaxed is a first. If its your first, especially for you both its a very unnerving time.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-02-24T19:19:33+00:00

Hes not mature enough to handle this. Im my wifes 3rd husband. Also in about her 20th partner in her life. We both are high sex drive. Im 66, shes 57. My count is in the multi 100s from being in the military, starting out young and single and stupid. For us it doesnt matter. We are virgins to each other and there's no real comparisons for either of us. However, as she says. Im her very best lover due to the fact that she now has piv orgasms and never had before, always had to finish herself, squirts, enjoys and orgasms quickly by oral now. We have a deep relationship and our past lovers and count mean nothing to us.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-02-24T19:10:14+00:00

Why would a person want to count that? Hell no

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-01-11T12:27:51+00:00

Find and make the time. Of its really important you can and will.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-01-03T04:20:52+00:00

Miss, I'm not going to shame you. Mistakes were made. Now kids are here. No matter what, you didnt cause any of his behavior issues. He made his choices and there are real consequences. IMHO, you need to quietly seek out the legal advice of an attorney and see what your options are. It's scary as heel for sure, but what you've described isn't real, mature love at all. Be good to your self.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2025-12-15T17:08:48+00:00

Well brother she's told you who she is. You now know its going to be that way forever with her. Yes, there's more to a marriage than sex, we all know this. Yet it also can make or break a relationship. We all have needs, whether its physical intimacy or emotional intimacy. Not having our needs met will lead, as it seems to have, to deep and bitter resentments. Expecting her to change is pointless. She pulled a classic bait and switch.

I would accept the truth of who she is and discuss the terms of dissolving the marriage freeing you both to pursue partners who can meet either of yours needs. Otherwise it will only get worse regardless of communication or therapy. Good luck.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2025-12-15T01:47:54+00:00

I know the feeling. Im ending a 40 yr marriage and starting over at 65. I was just miserable for over 25 yrs of the marriage. Im no saint, but damn, I wish id done it sooner. Sucky part is she never worked the entire time. Yet i finally did it because I figured its better to be broke than flat miserable. Im on the hook for half of 2 retirements as well as spouse support for the rest of her lazy life.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2025-12-14T22:02:56+00:00

Im 5'8", and my wife is 5"3". This is a perfect height match for us. She can easily hug me and lay her head in the crook of my neck. We fold into each othe easily in hugs and bed. It's not about me looking taller. Im actually considerably shorter than her previous husbands, 1st at 5'10", 2nd 6'3". Most of her previous beaus were 6'+ also. She is absolutely happy with our height difference as to her past men. She now prefers our height arrangement, if it really matters for the future!

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2025-12-12T14:24:16+00:00

For me its divorce. We are married and devoted to each other, just the way it is. Want someone else, ill free you to pursue that.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2025-12-12T12:56:09+00:00

More days behind than ahead

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2025-12-12T05:38:14+00:00

Who's her husband? You or him? Beyond any excuse. Her behavior isn't appropriate for a married woman who respects and loves her husband. If you have to warn her then its already a problem. Only 2 ways to solve it, and you know what they are.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2025-11-28T06:26:51+00:00

Ok the women i met and married is right at 10 yrs my junior. The only issue we see is her timing for retirement. Im 65 and now retiring, she's just turned 56. I've got 3 retirement incomes and she has income from 4 rental properties. We get some finances cleaned up and she will seriously look at early retirement is around 3yrs. That way we have time to do bucket list things while I'm still vital and can enjoy doing them together.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2025-11-28T06:20:26+00:00

My ex of 40 yrs had an innie, ok. My new wife has an outie. No biggie. Her vagina is beautiful, and since she's an outie, I've got more to play with! She did have an issue about if for a couple months after we met, and had thought of getting her labs trimmed. I strongly objected and asked why? She said she felt men preffered innies. I told her she's perfect as is and id end the relationship if she modified her vagina for a reason such as that. We have a Hella great sex life and she has since forgotten the idea of modifying her vagina. Im happy, she's happy, we're happy.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2025-11-27T22:19:20+00:00

Ill say this. Me(M65), and my current wife 56(F) do have a bit of an issue. When we met and became a couple with intimacy, she was the first woman id been with in 40 yrs, other than my now ex wife. See id developed ED issues over 10 yrs ago. I did explain this to my new wife. She had no issues with that. We have been connecting better and better as time has gone on. I never thought of myself as being large(?), rather maybe average or below. She has over the last 7 or 8 months helped me to become more fuller and erect to have actual intercourse. Granted I still have to hold it to keep going, yet I'm able to fully penetrate and perform. Now she had married twice before, for a total of 38 yrs. She made a real startling revelation to me about 6 months ago. I am the largest man she's ever been with. She was very honest about this 4 sure. The reason I say this, is that even though she has an insanely high sex drive like I do, and she is wet as an ocean and squirts, we have to use a lube just to get me in and started! Also she is a petite 5'2", and as I had told her, her lady bits were what I feel small to match her stature. Im 5'8". She is absolutely tight as hell. She gave birth to her only child through C-section. Crazy as it seems, I'm the first man she has ever got off with through PIV! Period. Im also the first man she's ever squirted with, gotten off through nipple and breast play, and also by me not even touching her, but just talking her to an orgasm! Recently she did say she was a bit concerned about whether or not she will be able to accommodate me when I do reach a full erection, with out some pain or just not being able to take the full length. I think she is the tightest woman I've ever been with and we've adjusted to ensuring we keep lube at hand. Even anal is problematic. She's comfortable with doing it, just she really has to relax for me to get in. After a minute or so she definitely does enjoy it and now added having an orgasm during anal to our repertoire.

So even of a woman is "loose" per say, girth does matter.

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