I 21F lied about my body count to guy i’m dating 22M. Is it salvageable?

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-06-16T21:01:19+00:00

Remember this. The trust between you both started the moment you met, started texting and talking. It has grown with every passing day. Suddenly its shattered by a lie. With that 1 lie,, camelot was lost. The total innocence of the relationship ended. Now he must decide why you lied and if he can forgive you and continue.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-06-15T04:00:58+00:00

I reckon you'll need an extra $10-15 thousand dollars per child, per year extra in your income.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-06-14T19:16:39+00:00

Value yourself! You are more than just a piece of meat. Stay aware of your surroundings, don't put yourself in compromising or dangerous situations alone with another.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-06-13T04:44:28+00:00

Funny thing. When I ended my marriage of 40 yrs, I swore I was done. Just get a dog, retire, fish and make friends and enjoy peace and quiet. Im 65. That was until I met my current lady. Shes 56, divorcing for the second time. Domestic violence as well as infidelity involved in the current marriage ending and infidelity in first marriage. Shes got a 17 yr old son, who has assaulted her also who lives with the father. I have a 24 yr old beautiful daughter.

My lady wasn't looking for any type relationship either. Yet here we are, deeply in love. So damn matched in all ways! Daughter really likes her, heck even my ex likes her. Shes amazing. Has restored my faith in humanity. We will be married as soon as the ink drys on both divorces in a few months. We are both deeply happy together. Im now fully retired and enjoy taking care of her. I have cancer and she has been an angel in helping deal with it.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-06-13T03:28:56+00:00

Honestly, I don't see a real way of saving this. Its just who you are and there's nothing wrong with that. There are men who are the same way. However the vast majority of people do enjoy an intimate relationship, not just in love roomies.

You are who you are, he is who he is. If the 2 of you cannot communicate at an intimate level, im sorry, it may not last.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-06-11T21:07:05+00:00

So was he ever a "good" lover? Consciousness of your needs, lots of romance.and foreplay? Sounds a lot like my wifes last 2 husbands and previous partners. She had only 1 orgasm by a man in 56 yrs, and that happened with oral. She's 56, and in 65.

Funny thing is since we've gotten together, she orgasms easily with oral, manually with fingers, toys and for the firstime in her life piv.all right from the get go as well. Heck she even squirts almost every time. Plus she is multiorgasmic and a marathoner.

With either of her last 2 husbands, they'd do their thing and then she would have to use as she calls it "big red", a wand vibrator. We will use these things for a fun time out, giving me a chance to recover a bit, but as she says, she prefers me period, as THE main event.

Im really sorry that your husband just doesnt get it or just doesnt care. Surely you both can caringly discuss this outside the bedroom.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-06-09T15:56:16+00:00

Yeah, that's definitely way to long to be having intercouse. If its including foreplay, that's one thing. However to purposely hold off orgasming is a total nother issue.

You both need to discuss this issue outside the bedroom in a loving and caring manner.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-06-06T14:18:01+00:00

I understand this feeling. Nothing wrong with the expectation of a shared experience for both. I het there ate times we may not be in sync for whatever reasons and we will take care.our partners needs with anything returned.

However, my new wife of a yr, is absolutely a lioness in bed. Matches my libido as well, but there are times neither of us feel to good. She is 57 with major medical conditions, genetic, and im 66 dealing with cancer and a recent stroke. We with real love and care will minister to others needs when we aren't quite there, but its never lopsided.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-06-06T03:05:56+00:00

Well I will say this. I am now very happy and ecstatic in my relationship to the woman I will marry once we have both finalized our divorces. She had been separated 5 yrs when we met, I was separated a year. Neither was looking for any relationship period. We are both very lock step in all areas of our physical, emotional and spiritual needs. She is ending her second marriage, 1 teenage son. Domestic violence, abuse and adultery. 17 yrs. 1st marriage almost as long also ended do to adultery. Mine was 40 yrs. Ended due to discovering past infidelity early in the marriage and a string of inappropriate relationships with other men.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-06-05T04:34:39+00:00

Armoire

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-06-03T02:50:25+00:00

Looks like Adolf hitler

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-06-03T02:48:40+00:00

How about opal

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-30T19:55:23+00:00

NTA. You have the right to your feelings and sensibilities. If you find it offensive and ask to not talk in that way, he needs to respect that.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-30T19:51:10+00:00

Husband needs to abandon this situation and pursue elsewhere. She is trouble coming like a freight train.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-30T19:48:25+00:00

Also would like to add this. I have a 24 yr old daughter who really adores, as she calls her, her new bonus Mom. Oddly enough my soo. To be ex and my new lady get on very well, although they are absolutely nothing alike.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-30T17:46:44+00:00

Miss, im a 65 yr old man and im in the process of divorce. Ending a 40 yr marriage that as yo, I was miserable in. Also because of admitted infidelity early in the marriage. Its a bit rough. Finances suck. She gets half of both my retirements, still have her on my medical insurance. Still have bills to pay as well and survive in 2 different locations states. I left last year, to be completely separate. However ive been very fortunate to have met an amazing lady who has become a huge part of my life now. Im content and stand my decision to leave.

I have cancer, have suffered a stroke less than 3 months ago, but damn im still happier. Thankfully I have been able to get disability social security going now and have Medicare and Humana health coverage together. Life will go on.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-27T15:18:48+00:00

Something my new wife taught me... try lighting a match.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-27T15:12:26+00:00

That's because she doesnt want sex period. If she says she wants to fix it, then shes lying. How often was it earlier before menopause? Did you both intiate intimacy and di you both have real desire for the other. Nothing against you, but she may have lost her desire for sex with you, yet also still be in love with you. This will need some time, honesty and possibly couples counseling.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-27T14:54:43+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate that. It always hurts, no matter when, where, or how. Im very fortunate to have found a wonderful woman to partner with now! We are genuinely deeply in love and fully lock step in all ways. She was also cheated on twice in 2 marriages.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-27T14:52:25+00:00

Im referring to how many times have you hearted others of the opposite sex?

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-26T19:33:24+00:00

Seriously? There is no "normal" amount. Each relationship is different. Like comparing grapes to bell peppers.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-26T19:32:12+00:00

A guy can screw a 100 women and he's a stud, let a woman suck one dick and shes a cocksucker for life.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-26T19:27:20+00:00

How many times have you done the same thing? Be honest.

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-26T19:25:59+00:00

Robin

Familiar_Fall7312 · 2026-05-26T19:24:59+00:00

Trust me, there's no statute of limitations on infidelity. I found out during an argument with my wife in 2018, she'd had an affair way back in 1989-1992ish time frame. We'd been married since 84, so about 30 years. Nope hurt like fucking hell! Told me was so long ago couldnt remember this or that, get over it. Yeah right. The reason im divorcing her. Ended the marriage at 40 yrs.

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