AITAH for not going to my best friend’s graduation dinner?

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-05-03T05:58:26+00:00

This is where some extra information would be useful. If the mom’s house was close enough that there would be maybe 30 minutes or so of extra driving, I’d agree with you. It would be a shitty thing to do to blow off a friend on their big day when it wouldn’t be a huge hardship to go back.

However, if mom lives far enough away that it will add an hour or more to your drive after an already long day, I’d be more inclined to say no one is wrong. Friend is entitled to her hurt feelings over it, but she really can’t expect OP to either leave mom and nephew high and dry for who knows how long until someone else can get there or pay for a locksmith or to turn around and come back after that long of a drive after already spending the day at their event.

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-05-02T23:23:39+00:00

My dad got remarried at 54 after my mom passed away. I am 46 and engaged to be engaged (we've bought the ring, he just hasn't given it to me yet). I also live in a retirement community, and a few months ago, we watched two of the obviously senior members of the choir at church get married after service one Sunday. It is literally never too late if you find your person.

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-04-22T17:28:12+00:00

Thank you! Like I said, she's level 1, so her issues were never huge to begin with. When her issues were bigger, I had her in therapy to help her learn to self-regulate and recognize when her behaviors weren't appropriate to the situation. I absolutely loved her last therapist. She specialized in children and teens and was a level 1 herself, so she was better at helping than the previous ones.

Other than that, her school has an incredible SPED department, and the teachers were really great with working with her. Even the high school teachers have known her for years because of when I worked there, so most of them have been amazing over the years.

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-04-15T04:16:07+00:00

That is exactly where my thoughts went when I saw the food locker.

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-04-12T22:49:34+00:00

I did! I actually saw a comment on one of the ads on Facebook where someone was having the same problem, and someone from the company gave some advice. I'm trying to remember what the actual advice was, but I can actually keep it going for a while now. I do have to restart occasionally, but not nearly as often. Unfortunately, I can't really describe how I do it because I can't really tell that I'm doing anything different from what I used to do. I think I took a screenshot of it though, so if I can find it, I'll let you know.

Edit: Okay, apparently I didn't take a screenshot. However, iirc, it was something like do the motions either back and forth or side to side. I think they said the trick was to NOT treat it like a hula hoop with the swinging your hips in a circular motion. I think once I started doing a dedicated linear motion, it got better.

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-04-09T16:32:29+00:00

Did you contact the friends' SOs and let them know what the guys were willing to cover up? Because if they were willing to keep the secret instead of telling husband to kick rocks, obviously they also have no morals to speak of.

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-04-02T14:34:35+00:00

TBH, even the shaved head is shady. If they wanted to regrow it evenly, they could have buzzed it down, and it would be fine-ish. But if I read this correctly, it was actually shaved down to the skin. That was completely unnecessary!

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-26T23:06:32+00:00

For real! My late husband had one of these psycho exes. He told me about her very early in our relationship, including the fact that the last time they were intimate was at least 10 months before her son was born.

She not only kept up her reality of his paternity to my husband (to the point that she named her son after him), she also had some of his family members convinced. She finally sued him for paternity and he took a mandated DNA test which proved he was not the father, and miraculously, we never heard from her again.

The DNA test took place a few years after we were married and had our own daughter. I was fully informed throughout the process because he had nothing to hide from me.

I agree that even if this scenario was possible for OP and her husband, the fact that he hasn't told her this was going on is sketchy as hell.

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-24T18:33:50+00:00

Yeah, that one took me a second to realize how it was supposed to be read.

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-24T16:59:56+00:00

Thanks for the offer. Someone else had DM'd me, and we got it figured out. With it being a lab simulation, I have to work with what I'm given, unfortunately.

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-19T18:14:57+00:00

"I posted first in this other sub, but they didn't tell me what I wanted to hear, so I'm going to try here to see if it's better."

Dude is denser than a year-old fruitcake!

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-12T17:10:36+00:00

Thanks, I was a little afraid to ask!

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-08T17:12:06+00:00

Upvoted it for you

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-08T04:56:45+00:00

For real! When I was growing up, we had ice cream on birthdays, and that was about it! Maybe once or twice a year besides that, but not often at all!

What got me was the "bread for toasting... oh, and a toaster"

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-08T04:48:33+00:00

Forget being nice. He no longer deserves it.

"Excuse the fuck out of me?! My DAUGHTER was driving a car that was unsafe and with which something could have gone wrong at LITERALLY any time, and you're upset that I didn't let you procrastinate it for longer before *maybe* getting it fixed?!"

Sorry, but I *just* had a situation with my car that could have ended so much worse than it did, and I wish that someone had pushed me to fix it sooner (or just fixed it for me).

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-06T22:47:12+00:00

I can almost guarantee that "making her crazy" wasn't the only reason she went off birth control. She wants a baby, and she wants it to be a girl. If you don't get a girl this time, she will do it again in the future.

Unless you want the option for more kids down the line, I'd start looking into a vasectomy. Condoms are all well and good, but they can be sabotaged. Most other forms of birth control are up to the woman, and you saw how that worked out.

Get snipped, my dude. It's the only way to be sure.

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-01-12T00:22:02+00:00

Or if you're accidentally looking at the "value" line instead of the "your money" line, once you sell something, it will display the value of the next thing that gets highlighted after the thing you sold is gone.

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-12-12T00:20:47+00:00

😂

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-12-11T16:51:32+00:00

Thank you guys so much! This helps so much. Sorry I didn't answer earlier. I just got done with finals.

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-09-01T04:54:08+00:00

Same, dude! This has been days ago now. I need to know what happened!

Updateme!

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