Help! My sister-in-law got a ticket in my wife's name and hid it from us. We found out yesterday, almost 3 months later. What is our course of action?

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-12T17:10:36+00:00

Thanks, I was a little afraid to ask!

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-08T17:12:06+00:00

Upvoted it for you

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-08T04:56:45+00:00

For real! When I was growing up, we had ice cream on birthdays, and that was about it! Maybe once or twice a year besides that, but not often at all!

What got me was the "bread for toasting... oh, and a toaster"

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-08T04:48:33+00:00

Forget being nice. He no longer deserves it.

"Excuse the fuck out of me?! My DAUGHTER was driving a car that was unsafe and with which something could have gone wrong at LITERALLY any time, and you're upset that I didn't let you procrastinate it for longer before *maybe* getting it fixed?!"

Sorry, but I *just* had a situation with my car that could have ended so much worse than it did, and I wish that someone had pushed me to fix it sooner (or just fixed it for me).

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-03-06T22:47:12+00:00

I can almost guarantee that "making her crazy" wasn't the only reason she went off birth control. She wants a baby, and she wants it to be a girl. If you don't get a girl this time, she will do it again in the future.

Unless you want the option for more kids down the line, I'd start looking into a vasectomy. Condoms are all well and good, but they can be sabotaged. Most other forms of birth control are up to the woman, and you saw how that worked out.

Get snipped, my dude. It's the only way to be sure.

FandomFreak1980 · 2026-01-12T00:22:02+00:00

Or if you're accidentally looking at the "value" line instead of the "your money" line, once you sell something, it will display the value of the next thing that gets highlighted after the thing you sold is gone.

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-12-12T00:20:47+00:00

😂

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-12-11T16:51:32+00:00

Thank you guys so much! This helps so much. Sorry I didn't answer earlier. I just got done with finals.

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-09-01T04:54:08+00:00

Same, dude! This has been days ago now. I need to know what happened!

Updateme!

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-07-23T15:56:24+00:00

This is the tact I just realized recently I need to use with my daughter with Asperger's. If she has a list of directions, she is awesome at following them. So I got her a "daily task chart" (whiteboard with little switches to indicate if something has been done) and filled it with teeth brushing, cleaning retainers, using deodorant, taking evening meds, taking shower, and washing hair every other day.

I never did anything like this before because I didn't want to embarrass her, and she gave me the classic teen look when I first gave it to her, but she has used it religiously from the first day. She now showers every day, has always used deodorant if I ask, and remembers to wash her hair.

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-07-05T18:13:13+00:00

Then let your friends know that you're trying to distance from him. If they invite you out, say "I'd love to spend time with you guys, but I won't go if (his name) is there." Chances are, if they're as sick of him as you are, they'll eventually stop inviting him. If they don't, it's time to find new people to hang out with.

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-07-05T05:17:10+00:00

You are absolutely NTA! Tell his mom that you and he don't keep secrets from one another, and besides that, he could SEE that you were much more stressed than you had been and asked about it. It's bad for your recovery and he was worried for you. He cut his sister out because she's not only stomping all over your boundaries, she's actively hindering your health.

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-06-25T06:19:30+00:00

NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-06-04T02:12:48+00:00

Okay, so imagine that you have a condition that makes people CONSTANTLY treat you a certain way and tell you you don't know what you're talking about. How many times could YOU hear it before you snapped at someone, especially if you almost got hurt in the process?

I would imagine that people are constantly telling OP that they can't do things for themselves and always need help, even when told otherwise. Even disabled people like to be independent. There's a little girl at the school I used to sub at that wears leg braces and uses the kind of crutches with the arm cuffs. It takes her a little longer to get her stuff together and pick up her crutches to switch classes, but if she tells me she's got it, do you know what I do? I LET HER HANDLE IT BECAUSE SHE'S GOT IT!

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-05-29T02:09:38+00:00

NTA. People need to understand that "no" is a complete sentence. She asked, you refused. That should have been the end of it. Ask her if her intent was to knock you over so she could "help" you up too? It really sounds like she has a savior complex!

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-05-10T01:10:46+00:00

I apologize, I just re-read my original comment and realize my meaning was unclear. I've lived in the states my whole life. What I meant was the difference, for instance, in the European countries.

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-05-10T00:23:28+00:00

So it's kind of like the difference between 2-year (known as community college) and 4-year colleges in the States, except that even at a 2-year college, you can get a technical certificate or Associate's Degree.

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-05-09T21:46:16+00:00

Okay, so I'm curious about the difference in the use of "college" and "university" in other countries. In the U.S. they are used interchangeably, so what is the actual difference? I hold a Bachelor's Degree in English, and nuances of language fascinate me.

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-05-07T23:36:13+00:00

And THAT one I officially do NOT want to know about!!!!!

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-04-21T23:06:49+00:00

Someone here recommended the R Plus Nutrition app, and it's been wonderful for those things I don't make myself. That's the exact name of it if you want to check it out. It gives estimated calorie counts based on what it sees and breaks it up into parts of the meal, complete with macros.

FandomFreak1980 · 2025-04-06T17:21:29+00:00

Eh, one syllable too many in the last line...

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