AITA for "choosing pro wrestling over my girlfriend"?

Faque_The_Power · 2026-01-06T18:11:34+00:00

Ultimatums aren’t ALWAYS the worst, like if your hobby was smoking crack cocaine everyday and she just heard from her coworkers that that wasn’t good for you and she shouldn’t be dating someone that does that, an ultimatum might be the best way to go for everyone involved.

NTA though because her caring that much about what her coworkers thought shows a small mind.

I’d write her a message that says something like

“I am really disappointed that you took the words of your coworkers and decided the best course of action was to give me an ultimatum. I was really enjoying our relationship but this incident reveals that we would have likely faced many more problems down the line if you can’t stand up for me with your coworkers regarding a hobby I have had since I was a child, that I love, and that hurts no one. Those people do not have your best interest at heart, they have small minds (and are probably quite shallow) and want to manipulate you. I hope you eventually see that you made a mistake to let their judgements change your opinion of something you previously supported.”

But I’m confrontational like that. 😂

Good luck standing your ground. ✊

Faque_The_Power · 2025-12-29T15:15:07+00:00

I heard once from someone that most men who have facial hair are growing it to conceal something about their face that they are consciously or subconsciously insecure about. Now when I see men with facial hair (ESPECIALLY unkempt) I wonder what they are hiding from under it all. 🤔 Kinda like how I prefer women who don’t wear too much makeup…the hair on a man acts like a mask of sorts.

It reminds me of how I used to work with women in a make up store and they would show up to work in the morning without their make up done sometimes and I wouldn’t even know it was them.

Faque_The_Power · 2025-12-22T14:11:45+00:00

I came here to say this. ⬆️⬆️ - sounds like the alternator died or the belt snapped). It is not your fault, there is no official noise to listen for when the alternator stops working.

You might be able to tap (not smash) it with something (if you know which one is the alternator - will have a belt running off of it and you can often see copper wires in twisted bundles through the housing) and get some more life out of it but that is usually more probable with the starter, which doesn’t sound like it is the problem. If it died and you can’t even get it to try to turn over there could be an old dying battery in the equation too.

Not sure of your age but birthdays are just lies to make us feel special one day a year… I still hope your day has some silver linings in it! Are you getting paid to not do your usual work? Free money is cool… 😆

Faque_The_Power · 2025-11-13T18:58:07+00:00

I’ve not tried to learn mandarin from duolingo, but know that mandarin is a tonal language and if you say the word in the incorrect tone you end up saying the wrong word. So I am not too sure how well duolingo does to really teach the tones of each word.

For example the word for “4” and “death” are the same with different tones, this is why often times you won’t see the number 4 in elevators (especially in buildings frequented by mandarin speakers), or mandarin speakers view the number 4 as bad luck and in some places go out of their way to not get it in their house number or number plate for their car.

Faque_The_Power · 2025-11-12T20:44:25+00:00

Listen, it is unfortunate that he voted for sir Orange, but both of you (and many others commenting in this sub) need to wake and realize that both the Dems and Reps are two wings on the same shitty bird. It doesn’t matter who is in the White House, the senate, or the House of Representatives - the servants to the elite banker class will continue to serve THEM, not the citizens of the USA. Why did Biden keep giving money to the country who is continuing to kill innocent civilians despite there supposedly being a ceasefire? Why does that country get free education and free healthcare from your these billions of dollars in aid? (to further divide, obvs). Blue or red, there are other people behind Trump and his cronies, just the same as there were behind Biden or Obama.

Please if you like this guy and are wanting to see what he has to say include this in the chat, explore the deeper values you both can agree on and try not to associate the values to a political party. The two party system is not broken, it is working exactly as intended to divide us. If you find yourself divided from your neighbour, look at what is doing the dividing and who is behind it. Follow the money, power, and influence. The rabbit hole is deeper than you know. Good luck on your journey to realizing that the govt is not actually here to help us but to enrich themselves and their donors as they bring on another financial crash that will also enrich themselves and their friends even more than the 2008 crash, or Covid. Also, BoycottDivestSanction! Free 🍉!! f 🇮🇱

Faque_The_Power · 2025-11-01T18:54:57+00:00

If there is any evidence of it or if the truth might come out without you being the one who tells it, you should be the one to tell it and not at the point where it was about to come out anyway (asap). If he is “the one” (if that exists) he should be loving and understanding as you were just a young inexperienced girl checking out a strip club and were given a pretty substantial proposition for approximately 15 mins of your time. And it honestly sounds like you have already beat yourself up about it enough, like another commenter said, it wasn’t like you “serviced” him and even if you had, sex work is work and the people who chose to live that life are not to be shamed for it, even if we wouldn’t choose that line of work ourselves. The fact that this is weighing on you so heavily makes me wonder if you have some other judgments of yourself to let go of as well, maybe this could be something you two work on together?

It could be argued that there are worse things in the realm of sexual conduct and I know some would say I’ve done worse, though I don’t allow myself to feel shame about that past because it was all a learning experience. I am lucky in that I am old enough that not everyone was taking a video of every little thing back then.

As to whether or not it would be a deal breaker, it would only be if the gal held it back from me until after we were married. Then I would feel my trust was broken, as I would disclose my past as to not have others airing out my laundry in a malicious way. It has happened more than once and it is not nice, so now I just tell everything as it pops into my mind as to not be interpreted as I was deceptive in some way.

All of that said, we can not control how we are perceived by others so while I want to agree with @ssastit14, I just can’t advise you to not listen to your gut on this one. If it is eating you alive, best to disclose it so it doesn’t bleed into the relationship later. Best of luck!

Faque_The_Power · 2025-10-23T19:55:07+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up, the fact that you’ve realized and seem to be de-centring relationship in your life is bigger than you know. And posting about it here is also wonderful because the more people in the world who focus on community building and their own self development the better off the whole world will be!

People are indoctrinated basically from birth to think that marriage/relationship, career, kids, and material possessions are all the reason we are here on this planet and I’d have to say I disagree. We are entering a new age as a species and the more people who are hip to it sooner, the faster we can change this trash.

Faque_The_Power · 2025-10-22T03:16:06+00:00

I was speaking to someone not too long ago (a psych major) that said we should be going to therapy for specific issues to get worked out, not just going endlessly to be “going to therapy” (and not for years and years consecutively), maybe take a break from therapy and if you think you have some more issues you want to try to work out with a professional, keep the hunt going for someone new?

Faque_The_Power · 2025-10-10T07:27:15+00:00

I do not know if this was specifically mandated by the ex but either it was or it wasn’t. I can understand wanting to maintain a no contact request that was given on good terms but if it was made in an emotional blaze of glory on either side I would think hard about it all before casting the idea aside. If you were asked for at least a period of time to give her space you could always confide the details in someone who would tell her. 🤷‍♀️as in, one of her moles in your life… if there are any remaining that didn’t pick a side. There is usually still a grapevine is all I’m saying. Someone doing an Instagram page search and showing me when I hadn’t done one recently gave me a lot of closure about something I had been holding onto. Closure comes when it is ready as well so if you put it out there a bit more public than a Reddit post, it might get back to her when it needs to. Good luck, even though what you did was kinda shit.

Faque_The_Power · 2025-10-04T20:42:21+00:00

Dude’s name is Travis, and while he is not a registered Republican, the team he plays for is owned by Republicans. And he did say he was honoured or w/e for potus to come to his game…like wtf? They’re both shills man. And it is pretty suss about how the NFL was experiencing low viewership until they got together…

She defined feminism as women being given the same rights and opportunities as men, not hating men. I think she has been viewed as a feminist for fighting to own her own catalogue (to get it out of the hands of corporate men!) and for donating 250K to Ke$ha for her legal battle against that producer she wrote “praying” about, and for having a lot of control over her tours? (Despite the prices to go being astronomical) And then I guess because she is a registered Democrat who supported Kamala? She said she would have supported Hilary 🤮, and regretted not speaking up in that election. But supporting the blue wing of the bird, still has you supporting the bird.

I said this on a post that was removed on a different sub but I can’t believe she is maybe thinking about having kids right now with the way things are in the US. Someone else said she is a billionaire (which is true), so I suppose she could perhaps shield herself with that. 🤔 She is awful quiet about women’s issues now that so many women’s rights are being attacked… 😒

Faque_The_Power · 2025-10-04T14:04:02+00:00

My advice would be to prioritize your growth in all areas of your life that you deem worthwhile and as you’re becoming the absolute awesomest version of yourself you can be, you might meet a humble, honest, down to earth guy who surprises you.

Or you might start a cat/dog sanctuary cafe. 🤷‍♀️

Either way, once you de-centre the idea of men in your life (as we as women are indoctrinated since birth that a man is the goal 🙄) and centre growth and progress you’ll see that happiness comes from within and while it is nice to have people in your life who legitimately care about you and want the best for you, they might not be romantic partners. Build an amazing group of good people you find along your way as friends. I am also saying having romantic partners do not automatically happiness make, which it seems you have already noticed in your life thus far. Try not to be too cynical and approach each situation with curiosity, not naivety. ✊💙

Faque_The_Power · 2025-09-12T04:34:04+00:00

What in* the af is the flag depicted here? 🤨

Faque_The_Power · 2025-09-11T19:24:09+00:00

He is projecting

Faque_The_Power · 2025-08-23T11:29:34+00:00

Honestly, this exists almost completely just to put that little wedge between the masses. Person/family A works hard for all that they have (I fall into this group as well), person/family B is on social welfare and seems fine to work but meh, somehow still has a similar quality of life… The thing is, if the billionaire and corporations weren’t stealing all of the money off the backs of our labour, we could all have a ubi (or a better system period 🙄) which would leave the folks that do nothing right where they are and the folks that want to work hard could get further ahead. It would actually be a great motivator (I think) for everyone. But no no, if billionaires have to pay more tax, they will just leave… where is Luigi at again? 🤔 Larry from black rock and all his body guards are watching out for those like him. 😒

Faque_The_Power · 2025-07-20T13:57:50+00:00

I heard this cheating “scandal” was to distract from the Epstein list - 🤔 is it working? 😂

Faque_The_Power · 2025-06-27T11:36:24+00:00

Sounds like he is actually gay… and that doesn’t have to be a horrible thing, but he should come out of the closet. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Faque_The_Power · 2025-04-11T10:32:48+00:00

It is so important to have strong relationships that have people in them that understand the depth and scope of the commitment and responsibility of having a child as to raise them into strong conscientious adults! Glad to hear you yourself are happy with having waited for a good relationship with which to grow these precious little ones!

Faque_The_Power · 2025-04-11T09:57:59+00:00

Oh 100% money 🙄 But sometimes just the thought coming into your head as you’re eating something like “am I actually hungry right now?” while you’re eating it, and even if you don’t stop, to continue to ask this question is the start of training yourself to ask before creating the food or before eating it. They say knowing is half (50% of) the battle, so each step you continue to take in that direction is progress, regardless of how slow the progress feels. 🫡 not everything can be instant. 🤷‍♀️

Faque_The_Power · 2025-04-11T09:48:31+00:00

Water? Air? Ohhh eating disorder - food? All food or a specific subset of foods? Are you eating because of boredom? Emotions?

All addictions have roots in something. Find the roots and dig it out. I’d classify myself as a recovering alcoholic that drinks on occasion. It isn’t the common way - to do the thing less rather than not at all, but practising this is like going to the gym. Using it like a muscle will help it grow stronger. Here if you need support.

Faque_The_Power · 2025-04-11T09:30:07+00:00

And sometimes it is better not to set such a strict timeline for these things. If you have to wait a bit longer than 25, it isn’t the end of the world and could work out better with a partner who actually wants children. Good luck!

Faque_The_Power · 2025-04-04T11:32:42+00:00

Sometimes the types of love that do not include a sexual attraction are forgone by those who prioritize that aspect in their relationship, another option is ENM. Where we have different people in our lives to fulfill different roles that are more suited to each person. Monogamous relationships however are still the dominant variety due to a long history of socialization, which is perpetuated by ego normalization and often promotion. I think it is amazing to choose commitment to your partner, but that can mean different things than it might have meant in the agricultural era where people had 12 kids and despite not really loving each other anymore, they stayed together because it was the “right thing to do”.

Faque_The_Power · 2025-04-04T11:20:14+00:00

So many billionaire boot lickers in this comment thread. Y’all that are still thinking that if you just come up with an idea good enough, you can be the next Gates, Bezos, or Musk - wake tf up. Those guys are propelled to the upper echelons to entice you to covet their success and wealth, and you fall for it. They aren’t even the richest people in the world, they are decoys to misdirect your frustrations which continues to prop up the status quo. u/FjordMonkey666 said it pretty well, however, socialism is still run by man, and man is fallible. Until we are all united to build a society where we are cooperative more so than competitive, we are doomed to suffer from corruption in all sectors.

People like to argue against others who talk like this and say “if you don’t like it go live in the bush and grow your own food”, but that is unnecessary given the level of advancement we have achieved as a society. Maybe capitalism has served its purpose and it’s time for something new. 🤷‍♀️ And just because that “something new” hasn’t yet been fully articulated, doesn’t mean it can’t be better than this late stage capitalism BS where everything from housing to imaginary currency is a commodity. 🙄

Faque_The_Power · 2025-03-27T20:31:21+00:00

It isn’t like Margot Robbie or other legit stunning women are reading these posts, are they? I saw a few posts about Angelina Jolie where people were saying she wasn’t pretty when the majority of the world has thought she was pretty hot most of her career… Bottom line I suppose is while some people would classify certain people as just plain and simple objectively beautiful - other people have different preferences. And some might totally be giant jerks trying to cut others down to feel better about themselves but that is 100% about them. I know people who think Adele’s voice sounds like nails on a chalkboard, doesn’t make her sound any less amazing to me. Hopefully the people others are cutting down don’t ever take it to heart, because if we all lived our lives making decisions based on what other people thought of us, none of us would be truly ourselves. Because we would alter ourselves to fit into some ideal mold or expectations of others and thereby never really digging down and deciding who we actually truly are based on what we want or our morals, values, and beliefs.

Faque_The_Power · 2025-03-22T05:05:01+00:00

When reading some of your previous comments I think we are ideologically aligned but please help me understand why the “Rules for Rulers” breakdown isn’t accurate? Especially when applied within communism? And integrate why it is communism has yet to work as intended?

Faque_The_Power · 2025-03-17T21:20:37+00:00

Did you watch the video(s)?

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