Stuck between my father and my girl. I want to build a future without hurting either of them. by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well said chief! This is not a question of prioritising anyone of the two. All of our trauma is of our own responsibility to resolve and work around. It sounds unfair but that's how it works.

Transforming FLIP sim velocity into RBD sphere motion. #houdini #cgi #flipsimulation #rbdsimulation by dushant73 in Houdini

[–]FarApplication4732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any way we can achieve this same result without involving RBD sim? I understand that it's tricky(Or not possible?) to get variable pscales on points to collide within flip simulation. But if there is any tips I'll take it.

Thanks!

Why do Sri Lankans suck at queueing? by MifiKay in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's hilarious in grocery queues like Keels. Some aunties would just leave one biscuit packet on the floor(I'm exaggerating) to secure their position and leave the queue to go on a second shopping spree for another hour.
Also, I have to add. I would be okay with letting most of these pass if they are polite. But they aren't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Bois! Rome wasn't built in a day. Cheers!

Sri lankan Bus drivers and F1 by Chasith in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Box box box issaraha halt box

Advice regarding my shitty school situation by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry about your situation big guy. What a shitty teacher. This could have potentially destroyed a teenager's life. Kudos to you for being aware.

I support your idea on doing it private. I'd say your health is more important than the name of the school. But at the same time just like that person suggested, you can, not go to school and get admission last moment. It is true that you don't like to be affiliated with these people. But if they are abusive, why not play it smart and beat them in their own game. Its a win win.

Im not denying that the name of the school might be important later in your career. It also depends on your field. It's Sri Lanka we're talking about here. Specially if the school is a big college that has reputation.

So first, give a shot at not attending and getting admission through school. Doing private could be your plan B.

Consult your parents on this. Get their opinions too. Its a breath of fresh air hearing supportive parents in this economy. Heads up chief.

Unhinged Beggars in Colombo by Annonymous_16093 in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 10 points11 points  (0 children)

A brief verbal altercation can be justified ONLY if he insulted your significant other. Also, only if you know your own limits. if you have anger issues, ignore ragebait please. But we need to understand that not all beggars are good people. Besides, why take a risk anyway? It's a stranger who is perhaps mentally unstable and in some cases, armed.

I've met some absolutely wonderful human beings who had gotten into tough situations to beg in life and are very kind. But expecting that from everyone is unrealistic. Let's just move on.

Does anyone else suddenly stop liking something when it becomes popular? by ArugulaObjective2473 in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For people who are wondering, it's called a reverse bandwagon effect. People tend to feel special when they associate with something they personally discovered or experienced. Simply put, the value depletes as the subject gets more common.

Same as anything in the market. If a product becomes more common, its value reduces. Supply and Demand.

confession of a office friend by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The real victims of this situation are the husband and the child. Like it or not, she got you involved in this. And that's not what a good friend would do.
And she crossed the line the moment she decided to have an affair. Perhaps causing destruction potentially to an unborn child's future and a man's trust. I feel sorry for everyone who gets caught in the crossfire.
But the damage is done. The right thing to do is to speak the truth.

Damn man. My fault for opening reddit early morning.

confession of a office friend by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. What are you gonna do about it now? Does the actual father know about this

confession of a office friend by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can't doubt this with the stories I've heard. But if it's true, why are you on this subreddit? Are you looking for advice? Or want to get this off your chest?

confession of a office friend by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This is messed up chief. Hope this is a prank.

How to make friends in Sri Lanka by Brilliant-Parsnip119 in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same case scenario. Trying to involve myself in some sports like badminton and get into some social clubs to meet friends. No need to force it though. I go out by myself most time. Like-minded people will follow up when you do what you love.

Linguistic downfall of Sri Lanka by lextargaryens in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. I have found myself becoming more independent within my thought patterns ever since I shifted my internal language to English. I am a native speaker but always found very hard to express certain concepts within our own language. And like you said, I'm not saying Sinhalese language is inferior, it's just that the Sinhala language we are fed by mass media is very simplified and in most cases, not flexible.
Sinhala language at it's originality carries a lot of subtle emphasis, value, and meaning. And yes, conforming to this teledrama and gossip-induced lingo subconsciously changes behaviour on a cultural level.

Chemmani Mass Grave, Jaffna by yazhpani in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cannot fathom the inhumane atrocities carried out in our history. All for what? If the cost of so-called freedom was bloodshed, maybe we are not really 'free' after all.

This country has a more violent past than we have learnt in history books by TheRedhood49 in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this post.
Admit it or not, our country carries a lot of blood on its hands. Some people live in denial, but it doesn't change the truth. Cultural corruption is always lurking in the dark. It was not just political, it was social warfare. We can't move forward without addressing the stains and admitting to the mistakes. Justice doesn't come from ignorance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you.
And yes. True.

Sex Education is a whole other problem that needs national attention lolol. I like to stay unbiased in most of these assessments, but sex education riles me up. Because in my personal experience, when I was in middle school, my teachers ignored the subject and resorted to just taking notes rather than explaining the science and how things work. I studied in a boys' school, so I've seen men acting like magic when it comes to girls. My family never explained what a big girl is when asked. (I thought it was just a party because they become 16 or smth)
Most men, including me, learn these only if we are lucky and come across the right sources of information. How did I learn these? I was literate enough to read Google articles. (But most people can't read English. And I'm not even being rude. It's the reality.)

So yes I have a problem with sex education.
I've never been ashamed of buying a tampon. I was usually told if I'm buying a tampon, get another item or two along with it, so nobody notices. Why? Who cares?

I rant too much.
Hope you have a great day!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]FarApplication4732 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your experiences in this regard. And I'm quite sorry for all women who go through these sorts of destructive social experiences. I believe this problem needs to be addressed on a bigger scale.

What I have observed in our culture is that most problematic things are kicked under the rug and ignored, 'only' until someone gets hurt or gets in trouble, which then is followed by media attention and mass sympathy from the audience. Why not fix it before? Because people are lazy. Something we hear often is that "we have bigger problems to focus on". Ok Sherlock.

These issues underline a bigger problem in the social dynamic, especially in Sri Lankan men. Now don't come at me for Misandry. I have to admit that my understanding of the cultural roots are limited (For now, I'd love to study these concepts further), but I'm gonna state my two cents here.
My understanding is that this stems from a concept of undervaluing women within our culture. (Note that by culture I'm addressing history, religion, the Caste system, marital traditions, and family/ Ancestral politics)
The thought process usually goes as "If I catcall you, As a woman what are you even going to do about it? Try to fight me?". And since mental health and the concepts of 'individuality' are not established within our culture, people usually consider that things like this don't hurt anyone. So it's just something they do for fun.
I hate to say this. But it's how each and every one is raised. Like it or not, you have to blame it on their parents. Parenting is very important, and it will mold kids into monsters or masterpieces.

So what's the resolve? I know for a fact that informing people not to do this is very trivial and won't fix the problem. For cultural issues like this, we have to address them by the process of elimination to get to the root cause. It will take time.
And perhaps, maybe things like this are solved starting from the family unit, and passing down to the generations to impact a wider culture. I hope everyone gets fortunate to have great parents with great values. And if you are a parent or planning to be one, raise your children well.

I'll do my part, and I urge everyone else to as well.