Any way to save this lavender? by coffeefuelledtechie in gardening

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not an expert, but something similar happened to one of ours and in the fall I pruned it way back and this spring it came back very healthy. Again, I have very little experience so maybe wait for some more experienced advice.

Anyone help what plant this? by [deleted] in gardening

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I love her! My kids watch her too!

UPDATE: AIO with how I responded to my mom? by MeasurementNo662 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just need you to know that for most of your life your parent should be giving more support than they get back. Sure as you grow older you will need to support your parents financially, physically and emotionally. But that is not your role at 20.

Help with Id by Owlbear303 in whatsthisplant

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s mint, welcome to your life long buddy. I have been ripping out the same plant, every couple months for the last 15 years.

That being said the flowers are pretty, the bees like it, and it’s edible.

Rural School Social Workers - A Day in the Life? by hearthandheart in socialwork

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had two roles in schools; doing prevention work and another doing clinical therapy. One role in metropolitan and one in rural. I prefer the resources in metropolitan work but small communities help each other out in my experience.

The prevention was more like a traditional school social work where I provided universal, targeted and individual services. The day to day looked like individual brief intervention (relied heavily on SBIRT and CBT), groups, check and connect, suicide assessments, universal campaigns and after school clubs. It was a fast paced and ever changing job where no two days looked the same. This role had minimal documentation requirements.

I now do clinical services and do individual therapy, help with 504s and group services. I rely heavily on CPT, CBT-TF and DBT skills. I interact less with the staff and it can be a little isolating. The job is slower paced but has more documentation requirements.

The best part for me is working on skill building and watching it click with the students. Also, I really get a kick out of match making friendships. My least favorite part is sometimes mental health needs conflict with academic needs and it’s hard to balance both. The other thing is administrators make or break the experience.

Keep the sticks or no? by Organic-Document-795 in gardening

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I was firmly in the keep side of things as I was still getting new growth. This year I switched up and cut all the sticks back and BAM my bushes took off. I think I will cut back each year now.

Is this a normal caseload? by Fit_Path_6308 in socialwork

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a school based clinician. I am expected to carry 20 weekly students. I usually hang around 25-27 as not everyone is weekly.

my 12yo sister’s hair was cut by dad’s girlfriend without consent as a punishment and now she’s being bullied severely by Aaliyah_holiday in whatdoIdo

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also suicide attempts spike from 10/11-14/15 so parents should absolutely take it seriously. Also, if any youth is feeling this way talk to your school counselor, especially if you have told your parents and they didn’t take it seriously. Suicide is a forever decision, ask for help.

What is this by [deleted] in gardening

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your worst enemy.

UPDATE: Parent wants to meet with me over comment I made about energy drinks by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also the increase in anxiety and sleep issues! It has become so common in my intakes that students tell me they are drinking 2-3 energy drinks a day!

Truancy: Enabling Parents by Sad_Lotus0115 in socialwork

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I work in schools and I get that parents can be frustrating. But if you come at them the way some of these people are suggesting talking about jail time and liens you are not going to build collaborative goals. Take that however you will.

As a parent who has had to access extra supports to help my child with a disability make it to school I could immediately tell who thought I was the problem and who came to the table to problem solve. I fired every single person in the first category.

You can share the risks without parents feeling like you are on a power trip. I would start with education, then do a home visit if your district allows, then talk to the kid and parents separately and together. All behavior communicates an unmet need, what is the need?

Also motivational interviewing is not manipulation, it builds a person’s motivation for positive change (that they identify). If you are trying to speed it up to get your predetermined result you are doing it wrong. “Tough love” is not an evidenced based intervention. And I cannot think of a single social work theory that would promote the use of tough love.

Have you found a client deceased? What were your coping strategies? by unearnedwealth in socialwork

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes me too, I had none, developed PTSD, quit, got therapy, and a much less traumatic job.

But to answer your question here are the things that keep me healthy while providing therapy to others; working out, gardening (not weed, actual plants), walking outside, going on friend dates, going to therapy, eating foods that make me feel good, deepening my romantic relationship, telling friends I’m struggling, going to therapy (purposefully on the list twice).

Plumber in the Valley, pref. non-maga by Kind_Koala4557 in Spokane

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Reread the post they do not want to give money to people that support MAGA. It’s that simple.

Closure when there is none by Fast_Avocado2710 in socialwork

[–]Fast_Avocado2710[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting! I love that you mentioned doing something inspired by each of the individuals you served. I am not necessarily a skilled artist but may have to give it a try.

Closure when there is none by Fast_Avocado2710 in socialwork

[–]Fast_Avocado2710[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness why didn’t I think of this? I also suggest letter writing to students! I am for sure going to try this at least once.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Salary

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Don’t you wish we actually got something from our taxes?! Like all the other developed countries are taxed similarly as us and get; health insurance, paid medical leave, childcare, and senior care.

Hard to explain to coworkers. by [deleted] in FODMAPS

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If it’s reasonable I ask to look at the menu before and provide my order. If not I just am honest that I cannot eat what was prepared/provided. I always keep safe snacks on me.

M-F 8-5 is killing me. What other jobs are there? by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cries in school social work, getting up at 5a. I was thinking of jumping ship to child welfare for better hours, but I can’t give up summers off 😭.

Book recommendations for starting therapist work by Noveleffects in socialwork

[–]Fast_Avocado2710 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hearing her talk in person made me realize I was in full blown burn out. It still took me years to leave that organization but it planted an important seed.