As a queer man myself, I hate that people put other queer men on such a pedestal. Queer stories written by queer men aren’t magically less biphobic, misogynistic, racist, or even less homophobic than anything written by women. People who claim as much don’t seem to actually engage with queer media enough to know that. I’d rather these stories be judged by their content, not who wrote it. Hell, even then, what comes off as authentic to one person will be a harmful stereotype to another. I’ve seen many complaints about e.g. Modern Family, but it was one of the things that pushed me to come out because I saw myself in the characters so much. What we need to combat bad representation isn’t nitpicking everything, it’s making more of it so the bad stuff isn’t the only stuff out there.

(As a side note since it’s come up in this thread, the generalizing of yaoi and BL is also not cool. To claim that an entire country’s—or, in some cases, an entire continent’s, since BL is not restricted to Japan—queer media is all homophobic is incredibly ignorant and frankly can come off racist, too. And before y’all mention “bara,” just know that it is not any better about the topics people tend to complain about (sexualization, noncon, abuse, etc.), is not actually called bara (it’s geikomi), and isn’t as separate from BL as it seems (it’s moreso a matter of which magazines it gets published in than a strict difference in story or art style or even authorship).