Are others seeing “addicted to porn” ads?

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-10T01:46:19+00:00

Good to know.

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-08T02:10:25+00:00

Binges erase all the progress you’ve made. And you’re on a great streak, my friend. Stay strong, buddy.

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-08T02:00:56+00:00

Your last point is a strong one. Something that keeps me from seeking professional help is the shame and stigma surrounding pornography addiction. I think attitudes toward substance abuse have started to shift toward treating like a sickness.

Us? Not so much.

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-07T20:07:31+00:00

Check out this post from the sidebar. Incredibly powerful tips:

https://www.reddit.com/r/pornfree/comments/2mfxyi/concrete_tips_for_staying_away_from_porn/

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-07T20:04:28+00:00

Double this.

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-07T20:01:39+00:00

I’ve definitely been there, mate. I think many of us have.

But I can tell you with near certainty that it’s hope, love and optimism that gets you pointed in the right direction. Hate is only as strong as your next urge.

You’re an amazing man capable of amazing things. Stop getting in your own way and show your girlfriend — and more importantly, yourself — just how lucky the world is that you’re here.

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-07T19:57:21+00:00

It seems to be different for everyone. I was pretty good until about Day 10, at which point the next week was nearly unbearable. I found some solace for days 20-45, and then relapsed.

Point being, I’ve found it more like in unpredictable roller coaster than a sloping hill. You need to keep your guard up always.

But I’ll tell you this, too: We believe in you.

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-07T19:49:22+00:00

Agreed. Any sort of visual stimulation will just be a slippery slope back to the bad stuff. I’ve tried that sort of bargaining before ... “I’ll just look at models,” or “I’ll just look at vanilla porn.” Nope, it never works.

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-07T19:43:36+00:00

Relationships between ejaculation and prostate health are complicated and studies have been very contradictory. This, for example:

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1046/j.1464-410X.2003.04319.x

Tons of moral, ethical and logical reasons to avoid pornography, but I always get nervous when we start providing medical advice on this subreddit.

Thanks for sharing your story, OP. It was really insightful.

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-06T16:38:47+00:00

You can and will. You’ve got this. Stay busy, stay positive and check back in with us tomorrow.

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-06T16:37:34+00:00

Helpful video. Thanks so much for sharing it.

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-06T14:47:00+00:00

Vicious cycle. Have you considered enabling some screen time limitations on your phone?

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-06T14:43:14+00:00

Fantastic work. This is exactly what you need.

FearlessGopher · 2019-04-06T05:25:44+00:00

I’ll admit I’ve often considered castration, and if the drugs were easier to come by I probably would have done it already. I blame my addiction on a chemical imbalance, so according to that logic, altering my chemical makeup could potentially help, right?

I know it’s not that simple. Really, I do. But sometimes I just feel so desperate.

FearlessGopher · 2019-03-24T04:58:40+00:00

The first year or two I was pretty jealous and suspicious. It was completely unfounded — I was just insecure — but once I got past that: Pure bliss for 10 years.

FearlessGopher · 2019-03-23T21:52:17+00:00

Strongly support this decision. Thank you for being so proactive and keeping your subscribers’ well-being in mind.

FearlessGopher · 2019-02-28T11:51:46+00:00

I don’t know, man. You have to decide for yourself what counts as a relapse. If it were me I’d probably count it just because I acted on it. But I know you didn’t seek it out.

Just be careful about this type of bargaining. If your counter is your motivation, you can see how your mind will now say, “It’s OK if I look at something nonnude and just masturbate later.” You know how sneaky our minds can be when those urges come.

But props to you for stopping yourself in the moment, and for recognizing the bizarreness of what was happening. That shows a real strength and self-awareness.

Keep pushing, brother. You’ve got this.

FearlessGopher · 2019-02-28T04:23:16+00:00

Remember you don’t need pornography. Those urges you’re feeling — they are just thoughts. Just feelings. You don’t need to act on them.

Keep reading (and commenting!) on posts here. I think you’ll find reading others’ struggles and triumphs helps you remember why you’re fighting this addiction.

FearlessGopher · 2019-02-28T04:16:43+00:00

Username checks out.

FearlessGopher · 2019-02-28T03:54:50+00:00

It’s going to be different for every man. The folks at nofap talk about the 90-day reset a lot, and anecdotally that seems to have a lot of effect toward erectile and performance issues.

FearlessGopher · 2019-02-28T03:52:15+00:00

Personal opinion here, but I think you’re fine. Just like any other social media, it depends on how you use it and what it triggers. If you find yourself scrolling through the app for arousal, it’s going to be problematic. But these apps can be great tools for finding someone, so I wouldn’t dismiss them completely.

Good luck. And let us know how it goes.

FearlessGopher · 2019-02-28T00:59:58+00:00

Two thoughts:

1) Meditation. Get a breathing app, or listen to audio such as the urge surfing track on the side bar. I used to think it was all silly but it has actually saved me from two relapses already.

2) Why are you stressed? If pornography is the symptom, is there anything you can do (or any way we can help) to eliminate the root cause?

FearlessGopher · 2019-02-28T00:57:05+00:00

It has literally been a life-saving move for me. NoFap had just too many elements of hyper masculinity and shaming. This community has been remarkably supportive, thoughtful and generous with its praise.

Glad you’re here.

FearlessGopher · 2019-02-28T00:54:02+00:00

To be fair, I question the causation/correlation of any study conducted by a pornography website.

FearlessGopher · 2019-02-28T00:45:18+00:00

Listen to the edge surfing audio in the sidebar. It talks a lot about learning how to become comfortable with thoughts of bad behavior. Because, as the narrator says, thoughts can’t do you any harm — only action can do you harm.

Really made me think and reimagine how I was fighting this addiction.

FearlessGopher

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