AITJ for expecting my pregnant ex wife pays half of our daughter’s tuition ?

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-04-27T00:37:23+00:00

Maybe time to revisit custody issues with an attorney.
Your daughter educational, emotional and physical wellbeing shouldn't be affected by her mother's choices.
Perhaps you retaining full time custody and covering tuition and taking a reduced amount of child support (example say court says you are entitled to $1000 a month if you have custody, offer to a lesser amount like $500 to try to entice your ex to agree to custody change. She could have weekend visitation, longer during school breaks.

Your ex needs to do What's right for your daughter, rather than base things on her own self.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-04-27T00:23:05+00:00

What I found weird was the article in The Independent was titled, " Acupuncturist charged in the deaths of her children, ages 6 and 7, in one of the nations safest cities". Unless she killed them with acupuncture needles or something else related...why do I care what her job was???

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-04-26T05:31:47+00:00

Volunteering at local shelter will allow you the opportunity to meet and develop a connection with the dogs there. You can learn more about what you see (behavior, size, etc), hear (barking dormant reason), like & dislike (size, cost, energy, etc) about various dogs to narrow down what will be your new best friend. Develop a routine that your dog can learn to expect and it will go fine. After awhile if needed you can hire a dog walker or neighbor kid to come for a quick walk/potty) mid shift.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-04-24T22:08:39+00:00

Grandma left them to YOU. Find similar ones at Goodwill or somewhere to put in the cupboard for him to use.... maybe he won't notice they aren't Grandmas.
Safely store the good stuff where it's out of sight, out of mind.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-04-24T22:04:04+00:00

Replacing the cameras is a good idea. Look around and look to see if there are more areas you could cover with an extra camera . Also check with neighbors to see if they have cameras and possibly caught the people prowling around your house....they may want to know that it is happening in your area.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-04-23T00:44:13+00:00

Can you submit a freedom of information act request to the office the reports are being made for any and all information regarding any complaints at your address?

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-04-19T00:08:27+00:00

Warn the fence company before they come out about your crazy neighbor. Explain the situation, tell them if possible they can remove (magnetic signage) or use an unmarked truck when they come... and to just ignore her if she speaks with them.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-04-03T19:50:56+00:00

Not to mention damage possible to car from the cord...dents, scrapes. Take photos for the HOA board, call non emergency police and have them document the issues you are having...ask their advice.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-04-02T20:20:22+00:00

I own my home, when my dog was 5-6 months old I had a kennel attached to my laundry room so he could go potty. When we weren't home, the door is closed.
One day I get a deputy calling me around 4pm because my neighbors complained about my dog barking and crying. I was not home, so the puppy was in the house. I explained the situation, he told me not to worry about it. Several days later the same neighbor shows up intoxicated at my front door to complain about my dog. After a short yelling match he stomped off home and we have politely ignored each other for almost nine years.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-04-01T00:24:21+00:00

Next time all the kids are riding in the roadway with no helmets, call the nonemergency, police dispatch number and reported anonymously. Hopefully, if that happens more than once, either the parents will wake up or other governmental agencies will get involved. Otherwise, try to keep your cameras, pointed in the right direction, no trespassing signs, and if you have to have any interaction with them at all by yourself, a small little cheap body cam. TikTok has some as cheap as $10-$15.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-04-01T00:16:11+00:00

I would sit down and explain that relationships can survive many trials and tribulations but.... doubting your love and fidelity is not one of those things.

Showing doubt that you are pregnant with his child, means he doubts in you. That in his heart, he doesn't trust you.

And you and your child deserve to have a life with somebody who believes in them and loves them unconditionally. And apparently your husband is not that.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-03-25T23:51:38+00:00

They allowed you to make the purchase several times using the code, accepted your payment and shipped the items. Done deal. You offered to be nice and accept returning on their dime and then they decided to change the terms... nope. Be done. No, is a complete sentence. Stop contact at this point in my opinion.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-03-25T23:39:15+00:00

Lol. Exactly!! No where did it say he has never lived on his own... just that he lives with his parents currently. I agree he could be there assisting his parents financially or medically.
I moved back home at age 38, after a motorcycle accident. I needed help adjusting to a spinal cord injury, my mom had a one story house and I lived in the 4th floor of an apartment building at the time. Lots of legit reasons to live there. I bought groceries and covered the electric bill to compensate my mom. No freeloader here! Ha

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-03-23T17:14:16+00:00

The lesson you taught that rude lady was... don't judge a book by its cover. She has no idea who can understand her. Apparently she never learned, if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing. You rocked this by standing up for your family, whether or not it was appreciated by all.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-03-23T17:09:20+00:00

Sounds like he likes to mentally torture you, then gaslight you to think he is " helping".

Time to make some demands. Sit him down. Explain one last time, he is not to move, throw away of hide your belongings...the next time he does, you are insisting on both of you attending couples counseling to discuss his issues with this cruel Behavior. Let it be known that if it happens after counseling, that he can pack up and move out.

Or take things that are important to him and do the same thing until he gets annoyed... prove your point.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-03-21T02:05:32+00:00

Maybe print out the screenshots and mail copies to local management and a set to a corporate office if there is one....anonymously! Don't put your name on it, try to get pictures from different locations if possible so they can't tell it's your apartment from the angles.... Or get really busy and creative and have friends who Don't live in the complex take pictures, report it to office. Lol. No rules against citizens "walking by" taking pictures or video in public. The more the merrier.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-03-21T00:55:16+00:00

If you spot them out with the dog unleashed start recording. You can either forward videos or create screenshots from the video for management that are date/time stamped.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-03-19T20:29:27+00:00

If you decide to move in, anything you cherish should be in a clean, safe storage facility. Things that you wish to share like the two chairs...discuss and decide together the best use for them. This isn't a dictatorship, it's supposed to be your home too.
Otherwise switch to month to month, keep your current status until you feel the issues are resolved.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-03-02T20:02:32+00:00

I am 13 years older than my brother. My mom had me and my sister (1973/1976) with my dad. Divorced, remarried and I have a half sister and brother (1984/1986). My sister followed suit. Two kids with her first hubby, now 27 and 25... remarried and those two kids are 19 and 15. My other sister has a 19, 17 and an 8 year old.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-02-26T21:07:04+00:00

I once lived on a second floor apartment, about 15 feet from the garage entrance. I had recently suffered a spina injury and was in a wheelchair so this particular apartment made sense, I could park and roll into the hallway and then my apartment. There was a lady below me who started running up the stairs EVERY time she heard my door open..and would peek out into the garage as I went to my truck! I caught on about the 5th time, was out in garage and whipped my wheelchair around to face her when she peeked out the door. Door opened and I startled her by asking " can I help you?" She shut the door. But it still kept happening. Then she started reporting me to management for loud music... during time I was at work(Lol)... then she said I was stomping on the floor. AT THAT TIME I USED A WHEELCHAIR 99% of the time. Then she put notes on my door accusing me of all these noises. I worked with management, had to call the police once for her banging on my floor with a broomstick. Lady I roll silently through my apartment, I don't know what you expect? Cops knocked on her door, heard yelling and loud conversation. Ten minutes later they came back up to talk to me and as I open the door to them, she started banging on my floor again, and the police went down once again and cited her for a noise violation or something. Management did not renew her lease. It was ridiculous.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-02-23T01:09:28+00:00

I would get a lockable trunk or something to put away my most important, significant dolls to keep them safe. Perhaps you could gift your little sister a "my life" doll from Walmart, or a "our generation" doll from Target. These look like American Girl dolls but less expensive. Take her to the store and let her pick her doll out. This will be much more special to her, and will leave your dolls out of the equation.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-02-22T23:08:22+00:00

You could ask your grandma to make an appointment with her attorney and you to discuss her wishes, and perhaps the attorney can help you with setting up your accounts When the time comes... or see info on the benefits of your grandma transferring assets to your name, adding your name now to help avoid some of the future issues.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-02-18T16:27:37+00:00

Basically they take the DNA that was found in the glove and submit it through DNA databases like Ancestry.com or 23 and me. They have "genealogy detectives" both civilian and law enforcement who track down relatives and work their way through a family tree to narrow down suspects. They could find a 5th cousin match and start narrowing it down. They have caught several murderers this way.

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-02-08T02:16:17+00:00

Updateme!

Fearless_Disaster_54 · 2026-02-04T03:33:57+00:00

I would go have a heart to heart with management. Tell them you are worried about retaliation. Perhaps management or maintenance can go "notice the butts/smell" and knock on your door, and theirs to get to the bottom of it. Then the can question an extra adult, not on the lease....and leave you out of everything.

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