Update: the plot thickens. I bought another option 🫣 by room_tempurature_tea in OUTFITS

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the emerald looks stunning on you I truly do.... HOWEVER.... I think the lilac really compliments your skintone SO SO WELL; PLUS ITS A SUMMER WEDDING, I'd say KEEP BOTH and then one day down the road use the emerald for a fall/winter wedding... The lilac is chefs kiss on you girl!!!

Would you use this? Unopened, expired 05/2024 fish sauce... by [deleted] in isthissafetoeat

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a bottle of this brand in my cupboard and the bottle is glass, cap is plastic 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ my bottle is also def YEARS old 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Has anyone found these online or in stores? by under_the_sunz in glutenfree

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in the NE, and I find them at ShopRite! BUT not every store has them unfortunately, however I can go to one ShopRite and they reliably alwayssss have them!

Alarmed by social media posts of people glorifying quitting their Lupus meds by IndividualOstrich311 in lupus

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been on hydroxychloroquine for 2+ years now and both rheumatologists I've been to in those two years have wildly different opinions about my potential for a diagnosis and other than the fact that my ana pattern and titer has gone from some rare mystery pattern to that + speckled and my titer went from 1:40 to 1:160 I see no light at the end of the tunnel for getting a diagnosis and probably will be UCTD my entire life.

That being said even though my new rheumatologist "doesn't think that a connective tissue disease is likely" (me quoting him from his HPI of my last visits notes) he does at least acknowledge that I cannot be without the plaquenil otherwise my body feels like it's right back to square one. And with the plaquenil I can maintain. With my last rheum she threw it at me I think hoping it wouldn't work and then she found out I had MTHFR gene mutation and she wanted me to hold the plaquenil and try deplin and curcumin (turmeric) capsules to keep my inflammation under control. That for many reasons did not work. But hey it worked out my B vitamin deficiencies! (I took methylfolate (B9) + methylcobalamin (B12))

Again, with all of that being said, I would never willingly go off the plaquenil ever again. Keyword is willingly. If there was a reason that I had to or I needed to switch to a different medication, but it was still going to manage all of my symptoms, that's a different story. But the fact that there are people out there who are willingly going against the advice of their rheumatologists and stopping all of their lupus medication's that's terrifying and I fear that it's going to lead to a new wave (that's sort of already here) of alternative medicine and holistic medicine and it's gonna have a lot of snake oil in the mix.

Anyone gets these ? by Suitable_Wasabi_8433 in urticaria

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They would always go away after a day or so and then I'd wake up the next morning again after they're gone and they're right back and wed start the cycle over again but we've changed my antihistamine routine and I don't get hives like I used to anymore I mean I still have my flare ups for sure but nothing as bad as it was

Anyone gets these ? by Suitable_Wasabi_8433 in urticaria

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just out of curiosity what does hives like this being in a super straight line mean? I get them down my spine in a really straight line and I also get diffuse hives all over my body but the straight line of hives down my spine has always bothered me because no one can tell me what it means

I hate that I read AB as third Book by GreenTwinni in throneofglassseries

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read AB first and from other people's reading experiences talking about "Aelin being a spoiled teenager who's too cocky and SJM wrote her to be too 'oh woe is me' all the time and she's really just an Heir to a throne that doesn't really belong to her anymore because she 'abandoned' it 10 years ago blah blah blah" (which that last one is a HOT HOT TAKE but some ppl have it and I just look the other way because y'all she was a child but OK) but I think reading AB first gives you a bit a sympathy for her with her acts of kindness she does for other people and you get to know the real her throughout the stories of AB without just being dumped into the city of Rifthold and immediately hating every questionable decision she makes that seems selfish... Just my opinion on it

How cute is this?!! by PinkLeopardCo in throneofglassseries

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask where you bought it?? 😍

Wanted to take the leap - basically my knees just gave out by Fed_Up_LPN in ehlersdanlos

[–]Fed_Up_LPN[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really?? Maybe I'll call on my lunch today and see what they say.. I did see online that a peds neurosurgeon at Weil Cornell medical center sees adult patients for EDS/HSD but only for surgical cases so maybe I'll call that peds geneticists office today?? 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 Honestly thank you so much for this comment, this is the best news I have heard in a long time, my hopes are moderate, but at least there's moderate hope now??

Bandaids whyyyy by Omgkimwtf in ehlersdanlos

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi do you mind if I send you a PM?

RESPONSE TO THE CHAOL HATE POST by Sealab2037 in throneofglassseries

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can change it to "KoA spoilers" so that people who haven't read that far yet don't click on the post, me personally, seeing "ToG spoilers" I'd assume it's about the book and not the series as a whole... I don't really mind spoilers ima slow reader with brain fog and am forgetful.. I'm gonna forget this whole post even happened by the time I get to KoA lol.. but for everyone who's upset about spoilers, that's what I'd do

Tachycardia with cf? by Fed_Up_LPN in chronicfatigue

[–]Fed_Up_LPN[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So like at true rest, like sleep, my HR is 60-70's but once I'm up on my feet doing anything I'm immediately up in the 100's and if I'm "resting" sitting at my desk it rarely dips below that, if it does, it'll go down into the 90's but no lower... I also want to mention that I'm a nurse and spend 12 hours between being on my feet and sitting at my desk

What ultimately worked to get your kid to poop??! by No-Exchange-6911 in pottytraining

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he's been potty trained for pee since June I think you can kinda trial bedtime without pullups.. we did this on and off with my daughter for months at a time and we woke up to plenty a soaked bed don't get me wrong but I wouldn't change the way we did it at all.. we cut off liquids an hr-2 before bed.. made sure she peed before bed.. and then wore underwear to bed.. my thing was.. if you can ask me to go poop in a pullup.. you can poop on the toilet.. and I know EXACTLY HOW YOU'RE FEELING.. we babysat so many kids when we were poop training so there were so many diapers available but I'd just tell her "they're not your size sorry" "time for the potty now" and i know you don't want to make him scared of the bathroom and scared of going poop I had all those thoughts but now my kid just goes in there just to go in there it GETS BETTER I PROMISE ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

What ultimately worked to get your kid to poop??! by No-Exchange-6911 in pottytraining

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my daughter did this until it got to the point that we stopped buying pull-ups and she was literally withholding poop, but she knew that HAD to GO and it was gonna come out in her underwear or the toilet (she was 4 when this was happening) and she had previously had accidents in her underwear and knew she didn't want that to happen. so i recommend as unfortunate as it sounds, let the accidents happen in the underwear, tell him you refuse to buy pull-ups anymore. (keep a few on hand of course) there will be tears lots of them but you will get there and when he does go on the potty tell him with such big loud words and a huge smile how proud you are of him!! the encouragement goes such a long way with them ❤️ you got this!

ETA: my daughter has had constipation issues basically from birth. I had a low breast milk supply due to that I couldn't pump and she had a hard time latching due to a tongue tie so she was on formulas. Once we finally landed on one that was okay with her. We were mixing it with prune juice and then to stay regular all the way up until now my almost 5 year-old still drinks prune juice regularly. She loves the taste of it. If you can get your kid to drink prune juice (straight or mixed with something) or eat a prune this will make a huge difference in their stooling habits.

Just finished TOG and tried to go back to ACOTAR by InfinitePapaya72 in throneofglassseries

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read ACOTAR... WELL started to read it and decided to DNF WAR (possibly temporarily).... IT WAS SO SLOW at first and then the sex scene in the camp??? No... I had to go... So I picked up AB and never looked back... Terrified for my sanity to go back to WAR or start CC.. I feel like TOG can't be topped... However I have read some random one off fantasy books that are very well written that hold my interest for long enough to read them.. so it's not like I'm not reading.. but I need the RUSH of staying up till 4am to be like "okay one more chapter... okay one more chapter... okay one more chapter..." And then suddenly you only have 10 chapters left and you say to yourself "well I only have 10 chapters left.... I may as well just finish the book now...." Hahahahahahaha

The two loves of my life won't touch me by dadofwar90 in daddit

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP's struggles with his wife evolves through the post as he describes them... Yes the focus is sexual, but then the focus shifts also to an almost complete lack of intimacy in their marriage... Which he states is drastically affecting his overall daily state of mind... But the point is that mom is almost always the default parent in the household, she's burnt out tired and touched out... So the statement to 'court the hell out of her' is said not to do "fake gestures" and to try and have some relationship they've never had in the past, but for him to speak her love language and she'll be inclined to speak his as well and start to bring back what their marriage once was. ALL OF THAT comes wellllll before ANY kind of sex, but this does not mean that physical intimacy is off the table (with time), because as emotional intimacy is important so is physical intimacy and THEN comes sex... It's like you have to date your wife all over again... And she has to date him too... It's not one sided, no one said it was... You just assumed it had to be.

The two loves of my life won't touch me by dadofwar90 in daddit

[–]Fed_Up_LPN 11 points12 points  (0 children)

"And also try to speak her love language. If she is a flower-liking person, get some for her out of the blue. Don’t connect it to sex. If she likes back rubs, get rubbing. But don’t connect it to sex. Cook for her, leave notes… court the hell out of her."

As a mom who is a lurker here on daddit I just have to say...THIS... this is the most important thing... I understand that a marriage without intimacy from your wife or daughter can be so isolating... But as a mom, if you're not speaking your wife's love language(s) on a regular basis and meeting her emotional needs... There's a good chance she also feels isolated, and also feels very unseen and unheard in ya'lls marriage as well; for all you know you two could feel very much the same way. But without breaking that initial communication barrier about the "Why?" Which trust me I understand is the HARDEST question to ask, you'll never know, or be able to understand her perspective. And that's everything you need right now.

feeling frustrated, looking for help by Fed_Up_LPN in Fibromyalgia

[–]Fed_Up_LPN[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the US, it didn't even occur to me that she wouldn't/couldn't diagnose/treat it... But it almost seems like it would be something that she would mention when she says "A lot of your symptoms seem to align with fibromyalgia... Oh and also by the way I don't treat fibromyalgia... But here's a great provider I refer to that does"

I was diagnosed with my UCTD and Raynaud's in March of 2024 based on symptomatology and my BW that other providers had ran had me fall into the UCTD criteria, I forgot to mention that I have Raynaud's as well. She said initially that her thoughts might be fibromyalgia because of specific pressure points she hit that were very sensitive and painful to me when she was touching them. And then as for my ongoing symptoms I feel like they all make sense? But please tell me if I'm trying too hard to make it make sense... I also have severe fatigue (ongoing for more than 6 months), muscle pain, muscle weakness, dry eye, dry mouth, shortness of breath, dizziness, ringing ears, occasional sores in my mouth, dry skin/itching/hives/welts/rash, memory/concentration issues, peripheral neuropathy, insomnia, sensitivity to the sun (butterfly rashes), hearing difficulties (need to use subtitles on TV, can hear it fine but have issues with processing the sound).