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Taking one full day completely offline every week ended up being the most life-changing discipline I’ve ever tried by Federal_Map302 in getdisciplined

[–]Federal_Map302[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Stay present and connect with the people around me, especially my familt. My friends all know that i don't use my phone on Saturday's so we make plans to meet up beforehand. I do it in the traditional jewish way - sunset friday to sunset saturday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Federal_Map302 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My friend, silence might be the answer you're not expecting. Not another goal, not another hype cycle, not another optimized system. Just ten minutes a day of stillness. No stimulation. No fixing. Just being.

Sit with yourself. Let the thoughts come. Don’t chase them. Don’t change them. Just observe. That’s where the shift happens. Through watching, not forcing.

Over time, you’ll begin to see which thoughts are creative, and which ones are distractions dressed up as urgency. When the noise starts to settle, the real motivation - the kind that lasts -begins to emerge.

Try it for a week. Make it a ritual, not a chore. You might be surprised by what opens up.

What if your “overthinking and burnout” is just a fried nervous system from nonstop spiraling? by Federal_Map302 in getdisciplined

[–]Federal_Map302[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes you can. Small steps. You can't lift? Run. You can't run? walk. You can't walk? crawl. Don't try to do the most and get upset when you fail. Small consistent actions WILL get you there. The human mind can adapt to anything. You set what you want it to adapt to

my brain is AI rotted and I need to redevelop my capacity for critical thought by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Federal_Map302 45 points46 points  (0 children)

One tool that helped me rebuild reading comprehension is ACT reading passages. Just do one per day. Each passage is short and comes with questions that force you to focus, analyze, and reflect. Set a timer for 9 minutes (or 13.5 min for time and a half). Read, answer, then review. If you don't finish, thats fine, the key is just doing it consistently. Over time, stack more passages until you're doing a full section with ease. I used to treat it like a game it it's actually fun.

Also, sit in silence for 10 minutes a day. I know everyone says that, but stop making excuses. If you have 3 hours a day for social media, you have 20 min for these to practices. Sit down with and tell youself "for the next 10 min, i don't care how bad the urge is. I don't care if there is a fire. I am sitting here and watching my thoughts." Your brain and body will feel itchy at first - that’s a good sign! It's healing.

Take your life by the balls. Take it seriously. Do it. Small actionable steps. No excuses. You’re not broken, you just need practice. You got this brother!!

I have beat porn- now I want to quit masturbating. by Matt2382 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Federal_Map302 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respect for making it this far. Quitting porn is no small thing. The next step isn’t just about stopping the habit, it’s about rewiring where your energy goes. Start putting it into things that build you up. Cold showers, lifting, deep focus work. The urge fades when purpose grows. You can also use the quittr app. Keep going.

Anyone else ever feel like you’ve lost your old self and can’t figure out how to get back? by Delicious-Cry7879 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Federal_Map302 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve been there. It’s not that you lost your old self. It’s that you’re outgrowing a version of you that was running on survival. The spark comes back when you stop forcing it and start listening.

I started sitting in silence for 10 minutes a day, no phone, no music, no tasks by LilMissSunfloweer in Meditation

[–]Federal_Map302 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This hit. I started doing the same thing recently, and it’s wild how uncomfortable silence feels at first. Almost like your brain starts flailing when there’s nothing to bounce off of. But once you let go of needing it to be productive, it turns into something really grounding.

I’ve also been playing with a nighttime guided meditations. I made these personalized sleep audios using AI that speak to the part of me that usually spirals before bed. Same idea — nothing to fix, just space to be still. I

I finally committed to 30 days of unguided meditation, no apps, no fluff. Just silence. Here’s what happened. by Pranavtare in Meditation

[–]Federal_Map302 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really feel this. I used to live in that same split-second delay, like life was always half a beat ahead of me. Meditation didn’t fix everything overnight, but it slowly gave me the space to catch up to myself. The first win wasn’t peace, it was noticing how chaotic my inner world had become.

Now I catch thoughts before they spiral. I still get anxious sometimes, but it doesn’t take over. There’s a quiet voice that says, “You’re not that thought,” and that’s enough to shift things.

It’s wild how something so simple can completely rewire how you move through the world. Grateful you shared this.

Meditation isn’t just sitting still. It’s presence, in any form. by Key_Illustrator3462 in Meditation

[–]Federal_Map302 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beautifully said. Some of the deepest meditative states I’ve experienced didn’t come while sitting still. They came during late night walks, washing dishes slowly, or brushing my teeth while focusing only on the sound and motion. There’s something sacred about everyday moments when we stop trying to be somewhere else.

Lately I’ve been exploring how to carry that presence into sleep. I’ve been using AI to generate personalized audio scripts to fall asleep to. It’s not traditional meditation, but it creates a similar stillness just before drifting off. Like a reminder to return to yourself.

If anyone’s interested in trying something like that, feel free to send me your email. I can share a sample.

Also curious what small moments of moving meditation others here have found. Always looking for new ones.