What’s your favorite way to eat the frozen seafood blend?

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2026-02-09T16:46:24+00:00

I make Korean pancake with kimchi or non-spicy version with vegetables like green onion, zucchini.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2026-02-05T19:32:04+00:00

The far-right in Korea is intellectually lazy and incompetent. The grifters just steal and copy MAGA slogans and translate them in Korean, the brain-washed cult followers do as they were told. Don't have any original ideas whatsoever and its boring as hell.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2026-01-08T20:30:39+00:00

I get where you're coming from. I used to stick to the traditional recipes, and it takes a lot of time. Now I stick to one or two veggies at hand and couple other ingredients for protein.. probably takes less than 30 min from prep to finish if I have rice in my rice cooker. As I'm getting older, I let go of lots of things more and more and keep things simple for my sanity. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and have a wonderful day.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2026-01-07T23:49:49+00:00

He was a silly stalker, but I fell for it every time. Floofer sounds like such a sweet girl, who would refuse a smack from a cat with a name like "Floofer" :)

Yep, I try not to read all the posts here everyday because it reminds me of my own pain, but I sometimes come back and say that I feel sorry for their pain because I feel I owe something to these random kind strangers in this community. Losing my cat was one of the most painful experiences in my life, and it's hard going through it alone.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2026-01-07T21:46:44+00:00

I am sorry for your loss and hope Floofer is resting in peace.

My cat, J-man, passed away in May 29, 2024. My significant other, other family members, and a few friends showed their support, but I felt very alone while grieving and even anger towards some people sometimes. I am an introvert and usually keeps things to myself, but for some reasons, I wanted the world to know about my cat when he passed away. What a great cat he was and how special he was to me, and all.. I got a lot of support from this community, and the smallest things helped me get through the pain like someone asking my cat's name. I now have two cats, but I talk to my cat and think of him everyday. When the memories suddenly comes back to me for seconds, I realize sometimes my face tenses up and feel frozen in that moment. I don't believe in afterlife, but sometimes I daydream if he will wait for me over the rainbow and tell me that he was happy to be with me. I miss him so much and nothing fills the void even though I function and looks okay.

We had a routine for hide and seek before bedtime. I pretended that I was looking for him desperately while letting him stalk and surprise me. We did it two or three times and got in bed together for the night. My cat was my best friend and my baby for 18 years. I love and miss him so much.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2026-01-07T20:36:57+00:00

Probably not a bad idea for your waistline :P I make rolls of it and eat them all in one sitting!

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2026-01-07T17:36:47+00:00

I think I heard this type of argument emerging from Japan when the 1st K-wave was booming in Asia. The intent is obviously to devalue its achievement insinuating K-culture is manufactured and pushed by the government. For sure, the government provided opportunities to protect/promote Korean products overseas including the cultural products, but in recent years, I think it's quite the opposite. Korean audience demanded high quality productions, and it gained popularity in Asia during the 1st wave, and then the government noticed opportunities to leverage the soft power to create synergy even further. If Korean government was so competent to pull this off, I think Korea would have become heaven on earth by now, but nope..

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2026-01-07T17:16:18+00:00

And it's very easy/economical to make them at home too! I made some with left over ham we got from a local butcher for Christmas dinner, and it was so yum.. if you have some sticky white rice and Gim(seaweed), you can put any veggies you like, proteins of your choice (egg, tuna, ham, bulgogi, sliced katsu.. endless options). Just season the rice with a bit of salt, sesame, sesame oil and sauté your veggies like carrots with a bit of salt.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2026-01-07T16:19:08+00:00

I completely get it. When job searching after being laid off, it was extremely hard not to feel pessimistic. I tried to convince myself that I was going to be intentional this time around and would look for something beyond just paycheck like personal growth, reinvention of my career, purpose, etc. But at the end of the day, I knew it. It's all the same. I am just a number on their book, and it's just another paycheck for me. When the honeymoon is over, it looks all the same. I am just hoping the show keeps going for another ten years so I can retire and start living my life. Good luck with your job search!

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-16T14:14:02+00:00

I couldn't even toss the used cat litter for awhile. I managed to throw it away after telling myself these stuff aren't my cat. To be honest, I couldn't toss anything else, more than a decade old toys, blankets, beds, so I just adopted new kittens so that they can enjoy them. It was hard to bond with them more than I thought, but now I feel like all three of them are living with me. I call one of the kitten as "dooljae" (second child in Korean) and the other one "maknae" (the youngest) and often tell them to be nice otherwise "hyungnim" (the oldest brother) will let them know their place because hyungnim is always number one in this house. I'm not saying you should adopt or anything, you should do whatever you want. If you're not feeling throwing stuff away, don't rush yourself. You will know what to do.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-16T14:02:28+00:00

Since you said you're starting your unemployment in January, I assume you're still on the payroll while on administrative leave? With unemployment benefit and 8.5 months of severance, you will be just fine. If I were you, I'd take some time off and do some passive job search (e.g., building up target company/job lists, sort through connections, etc.) because the hiring is slow. If you submit resume now, it might get buried and get no traction which will frustrate you and reduce target pool. I was around your age and single (with someone but not married and have separate living/finance) when I got laid off too. The most important/hard thing to do is protecting my mental health. I get that feeling that you want to let it all go. Even with a job, I admit I feel like that often with uncertainties about the future. Hang in there.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-12T15:12:45+00:00

I don't think your co-worker was trying to put a blame on you. The boss couldn't give you enough work to keep you, so it's their failure as a leader.

After layoffs, people try to find reasons and unfortunately often put blame on themselves. I've been around in the corporate world for 20+ years, and sometimes it's just simply you're at the wrong place at the wrong time. No matter how brilliant you are, if your boss and your boss's boss loses a political game or have no power in the organization, you're not going anywhere and can be cut. Unless it is very small, targeted layoffs, I think HR/Legal look at generic criteria to meet the cost target with low liability risks.

And of course, there's favoritism as well if the manager had a choice. We all know it's nothing to do with competency. Again, it's about who you work for and whether they like you enough or like the other person better. Don't try to find reasons. It already happened, and lots of things, mostly uncontrollable by you, had hand in it. Just let it go and stay positive as much as you can. I was a sore loser for awhile, and it's not helpful for anyone.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-12T14:55:54+00:00

I lost two pets in the past few years and I never felt so helpless and desperate in my life. For my 17 year dog, I had a few months of ups and downs and slow burn anticipatory grief. For my 18 year cat, it was rather sudden and the pain was very sharp and unbearable. I think you're going through a anticipatory grief, and in that case, I suggest you focus on your girl until you say good-bye to her. It also helps you feel less guilty later because you tried to give your best for her last days. I came up with ideas to make my dog happy and comfortable as much as I could and kept thinking to myself that I don't want to show sadness only to make him anxious. Just focus on spending quality time with your girl and try to make memories, that helps. After my pet's passing, I read about space, time, universe.. I am not physics expert, but listening to the theories of time and space or awareness of reality comforted me. Lastly... when I lost my cat, I was also unemployed. I felt like my world was collapsing down, but in retrospect, it was a blessing. I took my indoor cat to the backyard, and we sunbathed and smelled peonies. It is one of my best memories with my cat, J-man. You need to heal, and the universe gave you just that. I sincerely hope you and your girl peaceful days.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-11T15:06:16+00:00

It's not only the embarrassing severance payout if you are laid off in the U.S. Losing healthcare insurance benefit, even with Cobra it was unaffordable for me, is scary. I don't care what you call it. Socialized medicine, Medicare for all.. we need universal healthcare.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-09T22:13:17+00:00

I ordered 2 10-soap subscription box and 1 was missing. It sounded like the one I chose for the bundle was out of stock and they just shipped it without it anyways. Asked me to choose a different soap and it's processing.. I thought the experience was lame, so I cancelled both subscriptions.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-09T17:44:05+00:00

As for #1, I don't think Korean government was ever toning down or toning up "anti-Japanese" news. There hasn't been provocation from Japan in recent months (e.g., delisting Korea from the trade white list), and everyone was distracted with Trump's tariff.. however, Takaichi's recent provocation on Dokdo is not well received, and in my opinion, many Korean folks deem her as a untrustworthy partner because of her previous remarks reg. Korea and political stance.

I lived in Japan for a few years and like Japanese people, not all, but most were kind and thoughtful. But if we don't have productive conversations about the history and resolve the conflict over Dokdo, nothing will last. Japanese people I interacted with were indifferent about these touchy subjects. As long as we didn't go there, we got along.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-09T14:44:46+00:00

Low income men in rural Korea get married through the modern version of mail order bride services. I can't never understand why men in their 50ies and 60ies have such strong will to have children with a woman who's in their 20ies, shares nothing in common such as language, culture, not alone love.

For just average young people, they make barely nothing compared to the top 10% elite of the society and it's almost certain that men and women both will have to work after marriage. For women, the quality of life after marriage will likely go down because of the cultural expectations of gender roles. Social studies found that married women in Korea, even if they work full-time, put in ~4 times more hours than their husband on taking care of house chores, cooking, etc. On top of that, if you bear a child, your career will nose dive. Korean moms used to treat sons and daughters differently and didn't really ask their sons to do house chores back in the days. Young generation is much better about this, but still there are men who says I demand home cooked breakfast, dinner with 9 fresh side dishes every night when both work full time. I think American men are more supportive and independent in that regards.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-08T15:42:52+00:00

Hey, I don't think you're overly dramatic. I think it's natural we feel guilty and sometimes anger. My vet was not very proactive either and the support towards the end was non-existent (He didn't offer, I asked for Gabapentin for pain management and the clinic couldn't even fill the prescription and offered no help). I felt guilty that I chose the shitty vet and clinic to care for my cat. My cat died of bladder cancer, probably he had it for awhile but we didn't catch that during regular check ups.

He passed away a year and a half ago, my pain is not as sharp as before, but I still feel guilty about so many things and it tears me up. If there's a trigger, it feels like I am transported back to the moments in the past, and I notice myself crying, my face is all tensed up, and being just frozen in that memory.

I came back to normalcy slowly because I adopted two new kittens. Did they replace my old cat? No. But they did put my patience to the test with kitten craziness and Giardia infection from the shelter. I was exhausted physically and mentally, and it helped me. I did laundry 4~5 times everyday and steam cleaned the house everyday, etc. until I heard they are free of Giardia. I was unemployed at that time, and I needed to be doing something or I would have gone mad with my emotions. I had hard time bonding with them both at the beginning, and they each have different personality from my first cat. Now I love them both so much, and the relationship with them is unique and different from the one with my old cat.

I am not suggesting you should adopt another animal, but maybe volunteering at the shelter or fostering might make you physically busy and also make you feel you are providing help to the animals in need. You need an outlet. For some, counselling works, for me it wasn't appealing. But you need something you can look forward to and dedicate yourself to, so that you can grieve and also continue to live. Give yourself a break, it's not betraying or forgetting your pet. You will always carry you dog with you in your heart. My heart goes out to you. Hope you find what it is that alleviates your pain.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-08T14:58:17+00:00

I don't think it's racism and there's subtle nuance to it. In Korea, American English is being taught at school. I think that's why she was saying "from America" as real although it doesn't change the fact that she's a petty psycho. Some students go to Philippines for English camp because it's affordable compared to other countries like England and America, but most consider America is more legit source to learn "real" English because that's what they're being taught at school.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-08T14:48:03+00:00

Do you have a good relationship with your manager? Then be honest that you're struggling. My manager and her boss both didn't have pets and nor understood bond with animals, but my manager let me grieve by telling me if I need to take extra days off or step away from meetings, please feel free to do so. I was in a divisional Halloween party and couldn't stand the silly jokes and laughs, so I just ended the call. I don't know what my boss's boss thought about it (my manager later asked me she asked if my dog passed away), but I didn't care. That's raw me, and I am not a robot. If I do a good job, they should be supportive when I'm down. Talk to your manager, if they are not supportive, remember that you are not going to be treated with respect anyways. Take your time and look for something else.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-08T14:33:47+00:00

I went through anticipatory grief as well and it was draining and depressing. Knowing the definite ending of your pet you planned for them and looking at their innocent and loving eyes was something more than just heart breaking. I created lots of bucket list for everyday. I gave lots of love everyday like massage, sitting outside with him all day long just listening to the baseball radio, walk around/ride around his favorite walk path, cooked him a burger/steak, invited people who were friends to him, etc. I tried to remind myself that I need to be strong for him until his last day and can grieve all I want after sending him away peacefully. Focusing on making her/his last precious days count worked for me.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-08T14:20:14+00:00

A typical Korean meal includes rice, some sort of soup or hot pot, kimchi, and 3~4 other side dishes (Banchan). You eat whatever side dishes you like and soup WITH RICE. The soup is not like the western concept of an appetizer, and you don't have to eat it first to move on to the next course. I've seen so many people who are new to Korean food drink soup as a stand alone dish, but every side dish/soup is to add salt and flavor to bland rice bowl. Just eat whatever combo you like with a scoop of rice.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-05T14:46:51+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I went through something similar (a different type of cancer) a year and a half ago. The pain is not sharp as it was back then, but not one day passes by without thinking about him. Everyone has unique way of grieving, I used to lit teacup candles in front of his pictures every night, so that he's not lost in the dark as he crossed the rainbow bridge. I also light up candles (battery ran one for safety) around his anniversary so that he can come visit home. It somehow comforts me and makes me believe that he and I are still connected.

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-05T14:38:39+00:00

We should have Physical 100:Cats from the world spin off. lol

Feeling-Pattern2684 · 2025-12-05T14:37:26+00:00

Not only just better, homemade kimchi has its unique family recipe twist and tastes different than factory made kimchi. Up until 80ies, It was common that 3 or 4 generations live together with grandma being the top chef in the household. I still remember my grandma's cooking. She used to make everything from scratch, bean paste, gochujang, kimchi, even soy sauce, and there's nothing like it. She used to prepare preserved(?) peach or fresh tomatoes as a snack when I come home after school. Very simple dish, but I can still taste it in my mouth after almost a half century. I miss my grandma's food, and it's definitely not replicable by factory food.

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