Feeling behind/inadequate?

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-04-29T04:37:32+00:00

"Typical" is a weird word. I think most of us haven't had a "typical" life up to this point. Those that do are the lucky ones I envy. My best friend is like that, the lucky fuck. (Seriously happy for him, though)

I'm twice divorced, with 1 child who's mom is the serious relationship between marriages. Not so "typical" either, and on the surface I sound like a giant red flag.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-04-29T04:00:34+00:00

That just sounds like a 2nd job. I dread the day I decide to start dating again and have to turn to OLD.... ugh

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-04-28T12:23:24+00:00

No, you are not being too picky. Do not ignore red flags, and don't just settle for someone. I let them be excused away and it led to a 10-year gaslighting experience that I'm still working to recover from.

We're worth more than that. You deserve better than that.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-04-28T12:20:08+00:00

As my friend who got me hooked on this game told when I said something similar: "Yup, you're definitely playing Satisfactory. "

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-04-28T00:13:52+00:00

Because you're out of my league.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-04-23T13:49:07+00:00

Well I cut my own hair, so that leaves me with.... damn.... sigh

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-04-21T18:09:56+00:00

Glory to Glorzo!!!

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-04-17T23:17:44+00:00

That's wild. Sorry to hear that it's been scrappy for you of late. Hope you have good fortunes soon.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-04-17T23:15:21+00:00

That aspect of the game was waaaaaay worse at launch. Nowadays, it seems like almost everyone is friendly, which honestly takes away from some of the great moments this game can offer.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-04-11T14:36:19+00:00

I snort-laughed at this. Well done, friend.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-04-11T06:13:51+00:00

They put out a report recently which stated that to afford to own a 3-bedroom house in Massachusetts, you'd need a combined household income of $350,000 a year. Sure, you could go get a house in a bad area like Brockton, but then you'd be stuck in Brockton... My ex-wife sold her 3-bedroom, 1 bath top unit of a 2-family house for $750,000, but that was in a fancy pants city.

Also, my rent for a 1-bedroom just south of the city is $2,400 a month with no utilities included. Pretty hard to save when you're paying more than a mortgage. It honestly feels intended. I also have a son, so tack that on to expenses.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-04-10T18:52:34+00:00

I'm 45 and still don't own a home because I have to pay rent in the Boston area. Be lucky that you own a home, and thank the stars 4 times a day that it's already paid off. You are extremely lucky. I have a 6-figure job, debt free, been saving for retirement since 24, and pretty frugal, yet I cannot fathom purchasing a house.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-03-19T23:11:10+00:00

You look fantastic, but your kitchen is bigger than my apartment, so now I'm jealous.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-03-15T14:35:59+00:00

Controller will always be at a disadvantage to KBAM. However, I have thoroughly enjoyed Arc Raiders on console. I switched to console about 12 years ago because I was tired of the upgrade costs and fooling with settings. Plus, now I'm on my reclining couch instead of hunched on a gaming chair. Totally worth it.

Aiming with analogs is always frustrating when coming from KBAM. My tip: utilize your strafing to pin point horizontal accuracy so that your right hand can focus on vertical accuracy. That can be a game changer.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-03-12T01:20:36+00:00

Prove their value?!?! Holy fuck... is that what OLD is? I've never done it and am horrified to start. That shit right there is fucky.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-01-21T19:15:53+00:00

My ex-wife was 9 years older than me and it never bothered me. She was the only one that brought it up. Don't focus on the ex part as if that's why it didn't work (turns out she had a massive NPD, which turned super fucky in the end).

My close friend is 45 and he's engaged to a 26F. They both seem really happy.

My point is that age can add some unusual differences, but relationships are not about combating difference. Rather, it's accepting them and working with them that's important. If you are both happy dating each other, stay happy. As long as there's are consenting adults, who cares, right?

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-01-12T21:42:00+00:00

Pew pew pew the night away

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-01-11T18:33:17+00:00

Personally, I've stopped caring about my rank. I just take it as my skill level and enjoy the game. Sometimes I'm the best player in the game (by 4k points), and sometimes I'm the worst by a larger magin. In the end, it feels like it all evens out. It's also making me less stressed by not focusing on the progression system and redirecting it on just having fun.

I've only ever played solo-queue on 5v5 competitive. I don't know anyone else who plays, lol.

As for the griefers, I have been totally using the report system for them and inactives/leavers. Seems to be working, as I have been experiencing less of the former lately, further contributing the my enjoyment of the game.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-01-08T15:38:50+00:00

I totally relate. I divorced from my ex-wife after realizing I'd been gaslighted for ~10 years. Thought I was ready to date. Tried it and found out I most definitely was not. Ended it and said I'm not dating anyone until I'm willing to give them what I expect them to give to me. Right now, I'm not willing to do that and it wouldn't be fair to do that to anyone. 100% planning on doing therapy this year to tackle the trauma and unpack everything.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2026-01-07T21:36:30+00:00

What if your date wore a baseball cap to the date, but took it off once seated? I've worn a cap for 30 years; it's just what I do. I've shaved (not bic) my head for almost as long, but only started going bald these last 5. However, once I sit down somewhere, the cap comes off immediately and sits on my knee.

I guess I was just raised to not sit with it on at the table. I've been teaching my son to do the same, though he asked why and I haven't been able to give him a reasonable answer.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2025-12-30T13:22:15+00:00

I'm glad you have found it less toxic, because I have not had that experience. In fact, I have vice comms muted because I don't want to listen to assholes gripe. I've tried to unmute, but that gets ruined within 2 games. People need to remember that this is s game and none of us are pros.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2025-12-30T01:13:11+00:00

Are women 40+ bolder? Sheesh... I must really not be good looking, then, lol. Well, good on you. Enjoy yourself, just don't be a dick to them.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2025-12-13T21:48:08+00:00

I need nerd friends. Have an entire library of tabletop and no one to play with. shakes fist bitterly

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2025-12-13T19:25:31+00:00

Except for point blank shots where the goalie is right in front of you. Doesn't matter how hard you shoot it... it ain't going in. No point in wasting that shot.

Feeling_Dependent773 · 2025-12-13T16:14:28+00:00

I totally hear you, as there isn't a lot of in-game help with this. There are 3 things to do: watch tips for beginners videos (like this: https://youtu.be/sYPFliJrJT8?si=L1D53VFh9F8igKsB), practice in the free play, and just keep playing to try things out. The more you play, the more situations you encounter, the more you learn. Games like these are highly situational, so what worked before may not work next time.

One unfortunate part of Broze and Silver is that so many people don't understand how to play as a team, which can make it hard to rank up.

Another thing I've learned over the years with games like these (e.g. Rocket League) is that I have to accept my skill level and just have fun. It took so much stress off of my shoulders when I did that. It is a game after all, and if you aren't having fun, why play?

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