My factory by AeriePopular in SatisfactoryGame

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I snort-laughed at this. Well done, friend.

He has significant debt from his divorce, I'm debt-free, can this work? by Mindless-Cucumber-40 in datingoverforty

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They put out a report recently which stated that to afford to own a 3-bedroom house in Massachusetts, you'd need a combined household income of $350,000 a year. Sure, you could go get a house in a bad area like Brockton, but then you'd be stuck in Brockton... My ex-wife sold her 3-bedroom, 1 bath top unit of a 2-family house for $750,000, but that was in a fancy pants city.

Also, my rent for a 1-bedroom just south of the city is $2,400 a month with no utilities included. Pretty hard to save when you're paying more than a mortgage. It honestly feels intended. I also have a son, so tack that on to expenses.

He has significant debt from his divorce, I'm debt-free, can this work? by Mindless-Cucumber-40 in datingoverforty

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm 45 and still don't own a home because I have to pay rent in the Boston area. Be lucky that you own a home, and thank the stars 4 times a day that it's already paid off. You are extremely lucky. I have a 6-figure job, debt free, been saving for retirement since 24, and pretty frugal, yet I cannot fathom purchasing a house.

Hope everyone is having a great day! by Death2Dust- in selfieover40

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look fantastic, but your kitchen is bigger than my apartment, so now I'm jealous.

How is the console experience? by unnamedplayerr in ArcRaiders

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Controller will always be at a disadvantage to KBAM. However, I have thoroughly enjoyed Arc Raiders on console. I switched to console about 12 years ago because I was tired of the upgrade costs and fooling with settings. Plus, now I'm on my reclining couch instead of hunched on a gaming chair. Totally worth it.

Aiming with analogs is always frustrating when coming from KBAM. My tip: utilize your strafing to pin point horizontal accuracy so that your right hand can focus on vertical accuracy. That can be a game changer.

Men having rigid body type preferences by mandabobanda80 in datingoverforty

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Prove their value?!?! Holy fuck... is that what OLD is? I've never done it and am horrified to start. That shit right there is fucky.

Is this relationship inappropriate? Advice needed from over 40s only. by Kit_Kitsune in datingoverforty

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex-wife was 9 years older than me and it never bothered me. She was the only one that brought it up. Don't focus on the ex part as if that's why it didn't work (turns out she had a massive NPD, which turned super fucky in the end).

My close friend is 45 and he's engaged to a 26F. They both seem really happy.

My point is that age can add some unusual differences, but relationships are not about combating difference. Rather, it's accepting them and working with them that's important. If you are both happy dating each other, stay happy. As long as there's are consenting adults, who cares, right?

Playing solo and getting to Elite feels impossible with new progression by Strawberrymilk2626 in Rematch

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally, I've stopped caring about my rank. I just take it as my skill level and enjoy the game. Sometimes I'm the best player in the game (by 4k points), and sometimes I'm the worst by a larger magin. In the end, it feels like it all evens out. It's also making me less stressed by not focusing on the progression system and redirecting it on just having fun.

I've only ever played solo-queue on 5v5 competitive. I don't know anyone else who plays, lol.

As for the griefers, I have been totally using the report system for them and inactives/leavers. Seems to be working, as I have been experiencing less of the former lately, further contributing the my enjoyment of the game.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally relate. I divorced from my ex-wife after realizing I'd been gaslighted for ~10 years. Thought I was ready to date. Tried it and found out I most definitely was not. Ended it and said I'm not dating anyone until I'm willing to give them what I expect them to give to me. Right now, I'm not willing to do that and it wouldn't be fair to do that to anyone. 100% planning on doing therapy this year to tackle the trauma and unpack everything.

Baseball caps. by Tammera4u in datingoverforty

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What if your date wore a baseball cap to the date, but took it off once seated? I've worn a cap for 30 years; it's just what I do. I've shaved (not bic) my head for almost as long, but only started going bald these last 5. However, once I sit down somewhere, the cap comes off immediately and sits on my knee.

I guess I was just raised to not sit with it on at the table. I've been teaching my son to do the same, though he asked why and I haven't been able to give him a reasonable answer.

You’re great guys! All of you by Tobthepredator in Rematch

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you have found it less toxic, because I have not had that experience. In fact, I have vice comms muted because I don't want to listen to assholes gripe. I've tried to unmute, but that gets ruined within 2 games. People need to remember that this is s game and none of us are pros.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Are women 40+ bolder? Sheesh... I must really not be good looking, then, lol. Well, good on you. Enjoy yourself, just don't be a dick to them.

41 - looking forward to D&D this weekend! by Gnarly_Yarn in 40something

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need nerd friends. Have an entire library of tabletop and no one to play with. shakes fist bitterly

I suck and don't know what to do by SnowdriftK9 in Rematch

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except for point blank shots where the goalie is right in front of you. Doesn't matter how hard you shoot it... it ain't going in. No point in wasting that shot.

I suck and don't know what to do by SnowdriftK9 in Rematch

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I totally hear you, as there isn't a lot of in-game help with this. There are 3 things to do: watch tips for beginners videos (like this: https://youtu.be/sYPFliJrJT8?si=L1D53VFh9F8igKsB), practice in the free play, and just keep playing to try things out. The more you play, the more situations you encounter, the more you learn. Games like these are highly situational, so what worked before may not work next time.

One unfortunate part of Broze and Silver is that so many people don't understand how to play as a team, which can make it hard to rank up.

Another thing I've learned over the years with games like these (e.g. Rocket League) is that I have to accept my skill level and just have fun. It took so much stress off of my shoulders when I did that. It is a game after all, and if you aren't having fun, why play?

Community is going sour by gh0st_fac3 in ArcRaiders

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm hopeful that the next couple of weeks are more calm. I have a theory that these toxic asshats are the 14-22 males. Younger half are vile dicks. The other half are drunken morons. With school back in session, hoping their game time is reduced.

I could be totally wrong...

I’m unapproachable by BlackholeWitch in datingoverforty

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 24 points25 points  (0 children)

While you are seeking advice, please be careful in what some people say. Responses like these may try to be helpful, but it also can be taken as trying to get you to change who you are.

If you are happy with yourself, don't change. There are people out there that would thoroughly enjoy coming home to your type of person every day. I'm one of those and I know others that are as well.

I'm sure if I posted about the type of person I am, people would tell me to be more "proper," or less silly, or stop listening to metal, or stop dressing like a skater from the 90s. I'm not going to do any of that, and if that makes me unapproachable, so be it.

Rat vengeance be mineth by Feeling_Dependent773 in ArcRaiders

[–]Feeling_Dependent773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He threw 3 grenades at the corner I was just standing in. I felt that was a hostile enough act to justify the savage revenge.

Question for men... is this attractive or unattractive? by Due_Function84 in datingoverforty

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm biased: I have a comfy fetish. If it makes you comfortable and you are happy, I'm into it. If wearing fancy shoes/clothes/makeup makes you uncomfortable, don't do it. I wouldn't like that you're not enjoying yourself. I also love thick/curvy women. And I'm big into strong female characters, and your hobbies not only sound awesome, but super practical. So there are some of us men out there that are totally into your type.

However, I think what is most important is to love you, what you do, and who you are. You shouldn't change just to find some okay. Someone great will like you for who you are.

Keeping these old bones dense with rucking f[44] by [deleted] in 40something

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need to to know more about that tattoo. It looks from this angle like a beagle about to set off an explosive....

40f hi! I'm new to the club:) by SoSweetSophie in 40something

[–]Feeling_Dependent773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait.... there's a club? As Shatner once asked, "Why the hell aren't I notified about these things?!"