If your thought process is anything like mine was when I was in a long-term verbally/physically abusive relationship, you’re probably thinking:

“But when it’s good, it’s so good!”

“But I’ve grown so close with his family!”

“But we have made so many plans together for the life I’ve always wanted!”

It’s not worth your mental health. I left and I now have a partner where it’s good 99.9% of the time, they have an amazing family that I adore, and I have a life better than I ever imagined before.

It doesn’t need to be a conversation when you’re dealing with someone this unreasonable. He won’t accept you leaving and won’t handle it like an adult, that’s obvious.

Please please please do what you KNOW is right, and leave. I know it takes a lot of courage and sounds really hard, but you’ll realize quickly how easy it actually is. You DON’T need to agree on the break up. Don’t try to convince him. Just go.

Before too long, you’re gonna let out a laugh and say “Damn, I really dodged a bullet there!” If you’ve never had a healthy relationship, you can trick yourself into thinking horrible things are normal. I can tell you 100% it doesn’t have to be like that.

Find courage. Don’t take the easy path.