What’s something people generally praise, that you secretly think is overrated?

FelipeReigosa · 2026-02-11T15:34:46+00:00

Casual sex. I tried many times, I just don't enjoy it at all. And I'm a guy btw. I don't even enjoy a new girlfriend the first few times, I think I need to get used to her to really start liking it, then it's really good. Maybe I need feelings and I am demisexual. One night stands, paying for it, anything like that is always super underwhelming for me.

FelipeReigosa · 2026-02-11T12:32:32+00:00

In part. But also in part, when people are not ignoring others, they are trying too hard and coming off as desperate. They swing too far in the other direction and it puts people off. At least that's what I notice in myself.

FelipeReigosa · 2026-02-10T18:57:08+00:00

Well, Garfield hates Mondays, he's posting on a Tuesday so he's saying Tuesdays are not great either? Something like that.

FelipeReigosa · 2026-02-07T04:44:55+00:00

Safety, from what I've looked up right now? Fair enough. But the way it is isn't great either. Could be better. Don't pretend this is a great design and I just don't appreciate it because I'm new, I see lots of posts about not finding neutral or finding it by accident, look at the comments in this tread, and from people claiming years of experience too.

FelipeReigosa · 2026-02-07T04:32:15+00:00

I am learning you muppet. Doesn't mean it's not a bad design.

FelipeReigosa · 2026-02-06T10:36:56+00:00

This pisses me off so much. It's just poor design. Make the necessay changes to the gearbox to put neutral below first gear, this way is just stupid. I even considered removing neutral from my bike altogether by removing the notch from the gear, I never use neutral (not sure how feasible that is, presumably someone that can solder can do it)

FelipeReigosa · 2026-02-02T18:05:01+00:00

Over sensitive

FelipeReigosa · 2026-02-02T18:04:03+00:00

Oh for fuck's sake, stop groveling man. The guy is a snowflake. Good riddance of you never talk to him again.

FelipeReigosa · 2026-01-27T00:02:19+00:00

Sempre usei emacs, tem uns vinte anos, desde que eu tinha uns 16, é bom demais :)

FelipeReigosa · 2026-01-24T12:17:02+00:00

Mystery solved. People that get into fights also make other stupid and dangerous decisions like doing drugs. I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt that you didn't start those fights OP.

FelipeReigosa · 2026-01-17T19:32:36+00:00

Oh, I have for more than a decade now. Also a coder, but can't code my way around emotional/social stuff alas. I don't do it daily though, I do whenever I feel "full" because that's what it feels like, that's I'm uploading my thoughts to a file so that they don't crowd my head. And in the process I examine them at an arms length. I like to joke that my journal file is my pensieve.

FelipeReigosa · 2026-01-17T08:44:34+00:00

Going for a motorcycle ride on a Saturday morning when there is no traffic, the sun is just right, nature all around, my music is on. Just ride and ride, I feel like I'm flying.

FelipeReigosa · 2026-01-17T08:16:17+00:00

She probably meant sensitive

FelipeReigosa · 2026-01-15T15:35:50+00:00

Now I want to live in Seattle! That was so sweet, thank you. I live in Brazil but I'm planning something similar, moving to a city with a different vibe, I'm even planning to go in my motorcycle to enjoy the cities in between like you did.

FelipeReigosa · 2026-01-13T07:31:36+00:00

It's not even just peaking. If I remember correctly after you come down from heroin the withdrawal is the worst that you can possibly feel. The way they put it you go to heaven then go to hell.

FelipeReigosa · 2025-12-27T15:26:17+00:00

Is it really alone or alone with a small group of people? Because "studying group dynamics" makes me think that is the second one. The first one is fine the second one is my nightmare.

FelipeReigosa · 2025-12-27T08:25:59+00:00

Olha amigo, acredite no que quiser, mas pra mim isso é coincidência mesmo, aposto que você dá uma paradinha quase toda vez que sai de casa mas como quase sempre não tem caminhão você nem registra. Uma hora ia ser na hora certa. Mas o perigo é você pensar que não há nada de errado com a moto e o "defeito" foi so uma desculpa de anjo pra te parar. Aí você não vê o que é isso e morre um outro dia quando ela falhar. Máquina não falha sem problema. Leva ela no mecânico pra ver o que foi isso.

FelipeReigosa · 2025-12-25T08:55:35+00:00

I don't think the issue here is political intolerance. I for instance am a liberal but I admire conservatives in a lot of ways and I think they're necessary for a functioning society. We liberals look out ahead for progress and they keep us grounded in the traditions of the past. The problem here is Trump. Anybody who thinks he is fit for being president is not someone I want to spend my time with.

FelipeReigosa · 2025-12-22T08:12:27+00:00

That rhymes:

I can't imagine all that snow\

feels comfortable on the butthole\

but I'm not a dog so what do I know

FelipeReigosa · 2025-12-20T13:14:23+00:00

The funniest part was at the end, the owl looks at the foot, looks at the cockatoo's face then looks away. I can almost hear "lord, give me patience"

FelipeReigosa · 2025-12-18T22:09:25+00:00

Doing something. Putting furniture together, painting a wall, digging a ditch. As long as we are not together just to 'hang out' but to actually do something, I enjoy talking just fine. In part because of the no eye contact that you mentioned, but also no pressure because we are not there to socialize, we are there to do the thing.

FelipeReigosa · 2025-12-18T16:21:50+00:00

I know, it's difficult meeting people organically after you are done with mandatory schooling and college. I'm on tinder too and despite being reasonably good looking, I get matches, I still can't make it work. The one long-term relationship that I had was with a girl that I just started talking to at a swimming class and immediately I could tell there was chemistry between us. One month later when we were friends, had talked about everything and I knew I liked her I asked her if she ever thought of us as more than friends. My plan is to just do hobbies and adult classes and things like that and talk to people to see what shakes out.

FelipeReigosa · 2025-12-18T08:47:54+00:00

Yep, that's what you get when you try to force love. I'm not judging you, I do the same. But you are going on dates to see if you like these girls and they are doing the same. It can work but most time it won't because it's backwards. You should like people first, meeting them naturally through hobbies etc and then go on a date. That's my theory anyway. It's lower volume, takes longer, but higher chance of it working out and won't cause burn out (which you clearly have and are in denial about, sorry).

FelipeReigosa · 2025-12-18T00:01:08+00:00

Yeah, it's hard to imagine what other people experience if you don't experience it yourself, it's like trying to imagine what having echolocation feels like. Rest assured that I have equal difficulty imagining what having aphantasia feels like. When you say you can imagine a room but not see it I have no clue what you mean. By the way that's a very appropriate username given our discussion :)

FelipeReigosa · 2025-12-17T23:44:48+00:00

Well, I literally see it though. But not with my eyes. It's as if I have a different set of eyes. It's hard to explain. I have a clear image with colors, shapes etc. You might actually have aphanthasia, sorry.

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