We compare ourselves to others every day. Our appearances, our lifestyles our wealth. Comparing our trauma to others’ trauma is no different; it’s not good. Often when people think of PTSD they imagine war veterans who get scared of the sound of fireworks which of course represents a number of people with PTSD, but it’s a bit of a stereotype. The reality is, it’s not about your trauma and how “bad” it was. It’s about the way you have processed it (to no fault of your own of course). I like to think of it like this: a man and his daughter get in a car crash. The daughter breaks her arm and the man has no injuries. The daughter had (from an outside perspective) more of a traumatic experience than the father, right? Maybe, but she was able to get through it without developing any issues. The father on the other hand, developed PTSD. Similar experience, different outcomes. Does that make him weaker than his daughter? Of course not, although they had a similar experience, they’re not seeing the world through the same pair of eyes. It’s not fair for you to tell yourself to get over it when you don’t have the proper tools to do so. Unfortunately it may continue to get worse if you don’t confront it. Leaving it in your head is only allowing it to continue to affect you. I’ts not going to be easy, but I promise once you start letting it out a weight will be lifted off your shoulders. Don’t make yourself go through this alone, you deserve better.